Is it a good idea to try and steal back your ex-girlfriend from her new boyfriend?
What if I still have feelings for her!? And what if I know the other guy isn’t going to treat her as good as I did? I know for a fact that no one will ever love her that way I do because I would’ve done anything for her!
We broke up because I acted like an insecure idiot and pushed her away,but now that I’ve learned the error of my ways and I can’t stop thinking about her. I think I might still have a chance if I show her that I’ve changed for the better. I really want her back in my life.
Wow! So many different answers here! In my heart I feel that it wouldn’t be right to break up a relationship, I’m not that kind of person anyway. I just feel like I’m at a loss. I do love her, and I want her to be truly happy whether it’s with me or someone else, so I’ll let it go. It just hurts to think about it, but instead of beating myself up about this, I’ll just say that it was good while it lasted and hope for the best. ^_^
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Why did you break up in the first place? Just curious. Who broke up with who, here? You say you would have done anything for her & no one else could love her that much. That sounds too clingy for me. I’ve noticed that people don’t particularly like someone who’s so "needy" and predictable.
If she broke up with you, it was for some reason. Were you too possessive? Did you give her space & time to breathe? I don’t know how old either of you are, but even if you’re old & married, you don’t need to be "together" or "with each other" all the time. You each need your own space, your own time. You need to see your other friends. Did she feel "suffocated" with you?
I don’t know, but I doubt that trying to steal her back would work. As someone else said, you can tell her how you feel, but depending on why you broke up, that may not be the best idea.
Take this time to get to know yourself better. Improve on yourself. Learn more about yourself. If you’re a jealous person, get on your computer and learn how to deal with your jealousy. Same thing if you have an anger issue. Or a problem with violence.
On the other hand, if your ex broke up with you because SHE’S insecure & is trying to manipulate you into "proving your love" by breaking up with you & trying to make you jealous, please DON’T play that game. You’ll only end up getting hurt.
Each time a door closes in your life, a window opens. I’m sure you’ve probably heard that by now. Whether it’s losing a job, getting married, losing a friend, having a baby – it’s all a learning experience. Take what you can from it. Nothing lasts. I don’t mean that everything you ever try to do will fail. I mean that if you lose a job, take whatever you learned from that and use it. I started out working in a drugstore as a cashier. It wasn’t all that much fun, but I did a good job at it and my customers enjoyed me. I took the job seriously and when I was ready to leave, I asked the man who owned the business next door for a job. He had seen how well I’d done my job at the drugstore and offered me the position of managing the day shift at the pizza shop next door. I went from working days and nights and weekends to just working 9-5 Monday through Friday. I improved my lot. My next job, I started out as counter help at a drycleaner’s. Then I moved up to pricing the clothing articles that came in. From there, they could tell that I was a solid, hard-working employee and asked what other skills I had. I’d taken bookkeeping in high school, so I began doing payroll and deposits and such for the company. Each job I had, I learned something new and worked harder. And I kept improving myself.
Relationships are the same way. You have to work hard and you have to keep improving yourself. Whether you’re a high school student with a girlfriend or you’re a 50 yr old man who has been married for 30 years, you still have to work at it. You have to be the best "you" that you can be.
So work on yourself for now, and who knows what will happen. Go get a job. Or if you have one, volunteer for more hours. Take that extra money and take a class that will improve your knowledge and/or marketability for another job. Learn a new language. In lots of places, that’s definitely a plus. My high school Spanish classes (2 yrs) ended up helping me in several jobs. When people see you trying to improve yourself, they want to know more about you. You’re a more interesting person. You gain more self-respect and confidence. Go for it! You may even meet someone new who really rocks your world!
let it go my friend.
the fact that shes with another dude is saying something. its saying she likes him…way more than you and wants to devote her time with him. your not even crossing her mind probably.
you may be dreaming of how youd be treating her better than him…but guess what? hes probably making out with her at the moment.
just let her go,move on. because she obviously has…
besides you think your going to get her back by thinking about her all day?hell no, your coming off as desperate.now if you get another girlfriend and mingle with other girls then it might be a different story.
but one thing is for sure, the desperate guy never comes out on top.
no bad idea
don’t do that just wait till they break up.
LOOK love is a battle field—
You go 4 it! go get the girl before its too late.
It all depends on how the relationship came to an end. Why did your relationship end? Was that resolved? If not – then it is probably not a good idea to proclaim your love to her until it is. She might be happy with him – and if you really love her – you can appreciate that, understand that, and wait for her to become available again. But, besides all of that, you sound very sweet.
No..its a bad idea.but ask yourself this.do you really wana be with someone who doesnt wana be with you?
good luck buddy : )
if you broke up with her then yeah, that would be stupid.
i think it is fine if you will going to treat her better than you have treated her before…just go for it if you still love her
then why arent you together?
Only if you want revenge and intend to dump her once she decides to come back to you.
Then why did you guys break up!!?!??!?!
No don’t like steal her but if you let her know how you feel she may rethink her relationship
Don’t do that how would you feel if someone did that 2 you.
Fighting for your princess is always a good idea!
Women love good men who fight the good fight!
Go for it. Some times you got to fight for the things you love
Would probably have to ask who initiated the breaking up part of it. If it was her then there isn’t really much that you could do other than let her know you still want to be with her.
No. Just let her go. You’re overreacting. Just leave her alone, you’re exes for a reason. You’re very jealous too. You need to move on.
if you really want her back the only thing i can tell you is to be honest with her and with yourself
talk to her tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way good if not move on with your life and let her make her mistakes
tell her that
ok you might still have feelings for HER…but that does not mean she still has feelings for YOU….she is a woman..she knows exacly whats right or wrong for her..but its her choice on what she wants.
also if you messed up in the relationship you both had then there is a chance she wont ever feel the same way for you.
i think you shouldnt interfere with her new relationship and just wait to see if they ever brake up…
No. F*** her. Have some dignity thats the only reason you’re considering it is cuz just like me you don’t get lucky with girls if another one popped in your life, you wouldn’t care. Truth hurts.
Hardest thing I EVER tried to do was forget my ex but I realize now it was a stupid fantasy life as she was playing on my insecurities…..not your fault, not hers, its just the way you react to abandonment.
You can write a letter stained with blood, she won’t care dude there IS NO way to tell a girl who gave up on you how you feel, you’ll only come off as more of a loser. Forget her, fix yourself….
Dude… Get help…
If you have such strong feelings for her, why not try to "win" her back – not "steal".
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Gee, do you suppose your the only person who has said that?
Since I seem to be pulling out the cliche’s tonight, you get one too:
"All’s fair in love and war".
If you think you would be a better match for her than him, then you owe it to her to woo her back, right? Think how she would suffer being with the wrong guy!
Not knowing any of you, I’m certainly saying that tongue-in-cheek, but if you seriously believe it, then go for it.
Of course, if you believe that she would be happier if you just let it go, then if you truly loved her, you’d let her go.
Boy, am I full of cliches tonight. I really should stay off the caffeine.
if you think shes the ONE then go for it! if shes worth it
Bad idea. Simply put if you can steal her away from her boyfriend, she can (and probably will) be taken from you. Respect their relationship, by doing that you’ll show respect for yourself and her. im sure she already knows how you feel.
gO FOR IT !
get the girl b4 its too latee!!!
No. "And what if I know the other guy isn’t going to treat her as good as I did? I know for a fact that no one will ever love her that way I do because I would’ve done anything for her!" Although you dont realise it, this statement is selfish. You are in this because you are lonely. What if the guy is treating her right? There is no, I love-her-more-than-you competition because love isnt about that. There is one (well one of a few) very basic rules of dating and that is "If someone wants to dtae you THEY will make it happen." Her being with this guy over you is just that, her chosing someone else over you. So let it go and move on. I promise you will be a better man for it : )
i no what u mean. i say go get her girl back but dont make it seem to her like that meaning call her just to c what she is doin and dont stay on the phone wit her 4 long tell her if she needs any thing or some one to talk to u will all ways be there 4 her and she is goin to feel like wen ever im down ill just call him and talk about it.
try it cuz thats what i try to do but my ex lover have a child on the way and i dont want him to leave her to come back to me( i do but u no) lol but yea just keep talking to her as a friend and she is goin to come back some day..
Shes an ex because she don’t like you no more
Shes with someone else because she likes him more.
GET OVER IT AND LEAVE HER ALONE
Hmm…why did you all break up? Did you hurt her or something?
It’s mature to be happy for her being happy and no you shouldn’t try and purposely STEAL her away. If anything just become her friend, be a trusting person that can make her laugh and just talk to.
Try and genuinely be happy for her and her relationship. How do you know he will not treat her as good as you? I am not sure if you know this 100% for a fact.
It’s once said we know who we truly love the moment we lose them. You’re probably experiencing this sort of thing and you know now you cannot have her. It does hurt and it says you’re a human being. So you’re normal for this.
But if you hurt her before, understand she needed to move on. We women forgive but never forget, when a man hurts us in a serious relationship it hurts… bad. Usually the guy has no clue how much.
Just be respectful, be her friend .
I do agree though women love a man who can fight for the one he really loves just don’t go over board.
If you two.. are mean’t to be together, you will now or in the future.