Tell my fiance who punched me that i am pregnant with his baby? Advice needed?
I am 26, American and lived in the UK for 3 years where i met my ex fiance, we dated for 2yrs but i left him 3wks ago as he has anger & jealousy issues. He always tells me i mesmerize him and how much he loves me etc, i love him too but im terrified of him. I was really good friends with his best pals girlfriend and when the whole lot of us were on a night out 2mths ago a guy came up to me and offered to by me a drink which i refused, he then started flirting with me and i just passed it off and casually flashed my engagement ring at him. The nest thing i know my ex came over to the guy & started squaring up to him and was going to punch him but i pushed him over to the corner and told him to cool down and then he started fighting/shouting with me, i pushed him out of my way so i could walk away from him but he grabbed my arm and pushed me into the wall, he just put his head against mine and was looking into my eyes then he kissed me & said we should leave but i was terrified so i went back over to my friends but he kept his eyes on me. The next day when we had sex he was hurting me and he didn’t stop when i asked him to so i pushed him off me and again we had a screaming match and he told me i knew how to make him thick, he loves me but hates that other guy try it on with me and i ended up calling him a headcase and he got really pissed and punched me in the face, I still have a slight black eye. When he was at work i left him and came home only to find out that i am 2months pregnant with his baby. He has tired to call me all the time but i cant talk to him. No one knows im pregnant and i want to tell someone. Im terrified to tell my ex im having his baby and i don’t know how to or if i should even tell him. Any advice ?
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You’re hot. If I saw you in a bar, I’d offer to buy you a drink. Guys that hit girls don’t change. He’ll always be violent. You have to protect your child. If he hits you, he’ll hit the baby as well. Don’t let him around. Don’t talk to him. Get a protection order. Let him find out from your lawyers and the judge that you are pregnant. You shouldn’t have to feel afraid in your own home. Like I said before, you’re hot. You’ll find someone who will treat you better.
Are you kidding me people?!? Thumbs down? He punched her in the face. How many of you girls would deal with a guy punching you in the face? How many guys wouldn’t care if their mom or sister gets punched in the face? She’s pregnant! He has anger issues. He could hurt the baby. It’s not worth the risk. Grow up, losers! And if wants to punch someone, send him to me.
He sounds awesome.
I jest.
You know what you need to do.
he is effed up
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I would not tell him because what if he still abuses you and later your child!
dump him! you cannot be with that guy! he sounds possessive and darn scary! tell him about the baby but dont be with him. its for your own good
That’s not right.
I think he is just having second thoughts on the relationship. He feels he needs to be the man in charge, but you shouldn’t let him treat you that way. You control yourself, don’t let anyone control you.
He wants to feel all tough – macho-ish, in front of other guys, but when he’s with you, he feels he can do whatever he wants, because he’s better then you?
Tell him its his baby, but straighten him out. Tell him, if your not gunna change your ways, then i am, & me and this baby are out.
Don’t let him treat you like again. Stick up for yourself, hun!
Good luck!
You need to seek help from someone you trust. I’m pro choice so I say, if you no longer want to be with him then lose the baby. If you want to keep it, it’s up to you but you will need help taking care of it so you should either tell him or your family.
tell your exfriend
I would like to have a…"talk" with any guy who thinks it is ok to hit women. They are usually cowards themselves. You need this guy to be out of your life, what makes matters more difficult is that you are pregnant. You do not want your child growing up around this and thinking it is ok to treat women this way.
get a friend/family to tell him and also contact the police about him being violent to you.you need to tell him about his child.
First to stop him punching anyone else,report him to the police that he hit you.
Most violent people do not stop unless punished themselves and given treatment.
So let the police deal with him,and you go find a better love who will treat you right and love you,and if you choose to meet a new boyfriend,be honest about baby,and its up to you if you tell him about what I hope will become your ex.
And you need to tell someone about your baby,your mum,or a close friend,that way you will have someone to listen and to help you.
But dump that violent*************because you deserve to be treated as a person,not a punch bag.
Go stay with a friend so he cannot see you,and ignore text and phone calls from him,or change phone number.
Take care and good luck with the baby.
You do NOT want to be in a relationship with someone with anger, jealousy, and physical violence issues. You probably already know that. People who love you don’t physically hurt you or emotionally abuse you. If you haven’t already sent the engagement ring back, do so ASAP but take care that he cannot trace the package back to him.
Stay away from him, do not take his calls. If he finds you and won’t leave you along you may need to get the police involved.
Call the local domestic violence hotline, they will talk with you. Even if you don’t need to be sheltered, it’s good to have someone to talk to who knows what you’ve been through.
As long as you’re not expecting him to support the child, I don’t see why you’d have to tell him.
No you should not tell him, he sounds manipulative, psychotic and extremely aggressive. He is bordering on a compulsive women beater-someone you don’t want your child near to. If you care about your baby I recommend you keep him/her away from this crazy man-forever. He’s already inflicted pain on you, imagine what pain he could inflict on a baby. Men like this cannot be trusted, they’re unpredictable, violent and tyrannical. Lots of them end up in jail, in fact if you wanted to be really safe you could show the police your bruise, have him imprisoned and leave the area. You know more about him then I do, but his acts of aggression are unacceptable – I wouldn’t let them pass. Hope this helped do what you feel is right in your gut
I wouldn’t tell him he has a kid on the way- yes its his genes too but who knows what he would do to you or the baby if he found out. Its better all around to not let him in on this. The worst thing you could do as a mom is to expose your child to this monster.
You need to take a picture of your black eye. The reason being that in case he does find out down the road and does try to take your child then you can defend yourself in court and show the picture of your eye and tell them he is abusive and has no right.
Do not talk to him. Personally I would move to a different place to avoid him all the more. You do not deserve to go through all that shit again.
You need to stay away from him. You and your baby are not safe with him. He has the right his haveing a baby but how would he take it when you tell him. His going to find out anyways so tell him but have someone their with you just in case he tries something. My advise to you is that you should move on and find someone better than your ex that don’t hit you and if your ex keeps hitting you and stuff you should gho the police.
Hii there Leah…very nice of u to be controlled in every situation…
Now in this sad situation u have to be strong enough…the strength u require u should gain from love…because there is nothing above love which could give u more strength ….
I may not completely show u a solution but just a way thats it….
By now u could have studied the other answers sent by other users,,,,, some of them said great….in this situation u must think what is the kind(may be depth) of relation that u maintained with him and what is the kind of relation that u expected from him…….firstly u must get clear in these areas…..
If u have a casual one then its better u tell him and just break up with him, to carry the baby is up to u…..
But if the relation is divine and pure , had a basis of true love…..then love never breaks….the more the persons seperate the more they unite,( the cause of seperation may be anything….ego or a suspicion or anything), that is the magic of love…..it never let in its way other persons or any other material matters…that break that relationship…….so as i said before if urs is a relation that had its basis in pure and wholehearted love then LOVE him more than before…..talk to him tell him how much do u love him….tell him that how much he is to u…tell him what u expected from him(a true relation and love), explain him the situation clearly that u both are in(may be due to anger or ego he may wrongly interpret this situation so u once again explain now),,,ask him what he exactly wants from u, ask him what the way he wants u to be towards him, tell him how much it is for u his presence and his loving hand for u………..
So all that i say is a true love , a true relation never ends in despair……it always lead to happinness,, so inorder to make ur love live u must try hard enough….(if u think this can be of help to u then u can show it to ur bf and ask him to read)
Otherwise if u think its all a headache then this much of my hope that u will be happy will also be a headache
Thank u, Bye , love u…..
If you want to have the baby, have the baby. If I were in your shoes, I’m not so sure I would, but that decision is up to you.
If you don’t want him in your life, don’t tell him and don’t take his calls, etc… It sounds to me like you don’t want anything to do with this guy and that’s probably for the better. You can raise the little one by yourself I’m sure, you have family and friends who could help you out if you need help too. And you will have no problem meeting another guy who won’t be so rough and abusive with you.