How can I get my girlfriend to make love to me again?
Here’s my story. We’ve been in this relationship for 3 years and 7 months. I’m 21, she’s 20. I had many girlfriends before her but she was the one, she however had none before me. It took about 4 months to realize how much I loved her. I respected her, and her wishes, so it took 1 year to get intimate BUT without the actual intercourse, and ANOTHER year and 3 months to have intercourse. So after 2 years and 3 months we finally made love. I can’t really say i regret waiting that long because I really loved her and said to myself it’s better to wait than to lose her. I can say I’ve always respected her, bought her flowers, never cheated on her, not even close to cheating. Now we’re both in college, live together and I’m not 100% sure she still loves me anymore. We have sex probably 1 time a week, and even then she’s not in the mood, or her head hurts, or some other thing. All she wants to do these days is go out with me, go to the club with me, but all that we had between us, all the kissing and making love is long gone. I feel more like a best-friend rather than a boyfriend. I’m sure I made some mistakes along the way, I think I might have assured her too much that I’d always be there no matter what, I did a lot of things that she wanted me to do, but I really didn’t care as long as we were happy. I just remembered for our 2 year aniversary we bought rings with our initials incripted in them, and now when she doesn’t wear it on her finger because, she told me that people at her university thought she was married , and she was embarresed. This didn’t upset me in any way, until I remembered that I went to college 1 year before she did, we we’re really separated that first year, and not only did I stay faithfull, I wore the ring every day because it reminded me of her. I didn’t care what my coleagues said, I laughed and said I’m a married man.
And now here I am, I don’t have a clue what could I do now. I tried everything, she just doesn’t seem interested in me anymore, just wants to go shopping together, or see a movie, and when we go home, sleep and study. I don’t want to break up with her, but right now I’m really headed in that direction. Help me.
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ok.. first question… are you happy? if so then continue to do what your doing, and perhaps talk to her about your issues. communication is key as well as trust, in any relationship. You two are very young still, but not young enough to not understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship. You’ve had other gfs which is good, but she hasn’t… which is not. Being in love w someone, means having that connection w them… and wanting them in anyway no matter how you or she is feeling. sorry to tell you pal but the ‘headache’ is a common excuse woman use to avoid sexual contact. Ive been in relationships like this before, and it never ended happily. I thought it was love (much like you) but quickly realized it wasn’t even close. My boyfriend and i are Truly in love and id never ever ever ever ever use an excuse to avoid sex or anything with him (honestly) and if he bought me a ring, id wear it w pride. I wouldn’t care or be embarrassed that people thought i was a ‘wedding ring’, actually id want them to think that, specially the men. She seems selfish or confused, maybe both. Maybe you guys need a break? maybe she isn’t the one for you? it seems you treat her well, and it seems like she doesn’t return the favor. If shes treating you like a best friend, maybe that is what she wants. I feel sorry for saying this but honestly, a true loving relationship is one in which both parties involved are happy. life is too short, and there are plenty for girls out there who wouldn’t hide a ring, wouldn’t say no to love making, and would treat you as you treat her. I hope you make a good choice on what your going to do, and put your feelings FIRST for once. you totally seem like a good guy, don’t give up! The right one is waiting.
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So this has been going on for a year and four months?
She might just be getting comfortable with the relationship, or maybe (and i know you probably don’t want to hear this) she is feeling like she should have done more, dated more, gone out more before settling down. If you are her first relationship, she might just possibly be wondering what else could be out there, or what she might have missed.
…Did you try talking to her about it?
you made the mistake alot us guys do, am 22, so yeah been thorugh this shit, but i spoke to a wise guy, and learnt
what you did was pay her toooooooooo much attention., be a man, not a girl, let her be the girl, and not the man… when you with her, now pretednd you dont need her,, dont ignore her completelty.. speak when ur spoket to, (its rude to ignore), and talk in a humble manner still.. but show her that you can live without her.. dnt give her all that attnetion, even though ur burning inside to give it..
ur tooo predictable probably, she knows what to expect from you.. she knows your like a dog, waving ur tail at her.. with big puppy eyes. (like how i was).. be unpredictable,, sometimes just come in the room , and dont say hi, just go do your own stuff.. it will make her think wtf…. ??
then when shes not expecting you to say something say hiiiiiiiiiii…
i dnt know how to explain, but be unpredictable,, dont be the person where what you see is waht you get.. be different to normal guys.. dnt be toooooo sweet., theres times for everything
gain her respect.. right now she dont value you
the best thing you could probably do is ask her yourself. after dating that long, you should be able to get an answer.
maybe she wants a commitment?
(marriage??)
who knows
Could mean that shes simply not enjoying sex with you. If she liked it,she’d want more
Stop being so nice. Be alittle more stern and tell her exactly how you feel. You might hurt her feeling but hey you can’t be a chump forever.
Just do what you did when you was her suitor. Always give your attention to her. I think she just trying to know if you are interested to her anymore.
Rightly said by Punani C. Give time to broken relationship and let it heal. She may also wanting to talk to you bt create a bit mystery around you.