How to save my 9 year old marriage?
Earlier I have been a party goer & used to drink on many occasions.
however due to my wife going to her parents place a 5 times( in 9 years) after disapproving me as a husband & I going to her native & promising her of no more of booze.( we are both Hindu nuclear family, my parents are dead)
I have 2 kids & I love them more than I love anything in this world.
I have been off booze for more than.
However a month ago due to house shifting & the labourious work during the shifting I had a beer,& may be due to my long ( approx 15 months) abstinence I lost conscious whe i reached home & fell on floor at around 4.30pm.when i woke up at 5.45 pm I found my wife & kids missing.
I rushed to rly stn. & could not find them,subsequently i went to police station for a report i was advised by them to bring wife’s photo so that they can take fir,the police noted my mobile No., later while going to fetch the photo I informed my wife’s relatives that I am going for a fir, to which they vehemently asked not to do that.
next day i got news that wife & kids reached their native.
after that my wife’s brother is threatening me, i have done all possible under earth to plead to my wife that i love my kids & this will never happen again,but this is not beleved by her.
wife’s relatives have been telling me that we will make her agree to return but I should not inform about it to anybody,
now after 20 days of silence from my side, my wife wants Rs. 30000 every month else she will go to court,
also her brother said he will meet me with lawyers and divorce papers to be signed by me.
I will never sign any paper, they may beat me or infact I may get killed by my wife’s brother.
I want your advise on how can I save my marriage & family.
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Surya – It doesn’t matter how long ago you stopped drinking; your wife feels that you have an issue with alcohol abuse. The only way to even begin to fix this problem between the two of you is to get help for yourself so that your wife can see evidence – real evidence – that you want to fix your marriage by getting treatment.
Find a treatment facility and check yourself into it. If in-patient treatment isn’t possible, find an out-patient program and start going – immediately.
I’m sorry, but your wife sounds like she’s fed up with years of your abuse of alcohol. The only way she might consider coming back to you is to make sure that you are committed to living a healthier life, where you no longer hurt your family.
Best wishes,
BJ
I hate to tell you darling- but you have already had a chance, which you did not take. You cannot convince her that you won’t do it again because you had promised that before and did not keep your promise. It is not healthy to want to make her stay where she does not feel safe and happy… if you really do love her and your kids then let her go. They are not happy and safe with you.