I'm not sure if I should save my relationship or just part ways. PLEASE HELP :)?
Ok to start off, Im in my mid/late 20′s and slightly successful. I have gone through a divorce which brought me to my knees financially after making 6 figures a year and giving it all up because I was mentally broken and could no longer enjoy my career. I took off a year traveled the country and ended up broke, however I am a go getter. I am rebuilding my life and the main factor in me not becoming a bartender in Barbados is due to my current boyfriend. He was in the same boat as I so we found solace in each others company. Plus it didn’t hurt he was probably the most attractive and best lover I have ever had! He was an amazing person for ohhh I’d say 4 months, then the trouble began. We moved in together because I had started to make more money and he was still living in his moms house.
He lost his job, I was supporting him completely and even helping with child support. Not cool to me because I don’t have a child and never really wanted one but this child really opened my eyes. To make a long long story short it hasn’t stopped other than I have stopped paying his car payment, and child support. This morning he complained about me not putting gas in his car because I drove it around the block once….wtf? Anyways, all my friends and family are concerned that I am making the same mistake twice. But I do feel he contributes emotionally (well sometimes when he is not breaking me down). The one thing I really like about our relationship is we trust each other. He is very honest and sometimes brutally honest which at times hurts but I still like that side of him. So my question to pose to you is…What in the world do I do, I really haven’t had a lot of boyfriends as I was married to my first love and I didn’t have to break up with him because he left me for another woman. I still consider myself a beautiful, intelligent woman but Im worried I am making the same mistake twice with a freeloader. Any advice will be greatly appreciated
2nd question: should I give up hope on ever finding a charming, attractive, funny, intelligent, equally sharing, man with character in our society?
Related Information:
Tagged with: 4 months • barbados • bartender • boyfriends • car payment • child support • current boyfriend • divorce • first love • freeloader • friends and family • go getter • intelligent woman • job • knees • mistake • money • ohhh • relationship • solace
Filed under: How To Save A Marriage
Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!
If this guy isn’t willing to get off his ass and contribute get rid of him. If he is making an effort to find a job (times are tough!) he could be suffering some depression etc.
To be precise – if he is making an effort to find work etc – you may want to give him the benefit of the doubt – if not, flick him.
You never know what’s around the corner.
A person necessarily help to make severely posts I would state. This is the first time I frequented your web page and to this point? I amazed with the research you made to make this particular publish extraordinary. Excellent job!