Please help me people in troubled marriages who saved them?
Ok i think i am wasting my time on here trying to save a dead marriage with a woman i never really loved like i should have.But the past is the past and she seems to only want to remember the bad times and not the good.I have asked her is she seeing someone see says no but we are never getting back together again.But for some f**king reason she seems so call me when ever she needs something if she had someone would she not go to him first.Or again am i just a big dumba** or could she beneath all the anger maybe still love me.I know i fell like there is something still there but it maybe because i want it to be.I understand why she is so full of anger because i was suppose to be the man that made her life better but when i drank i was a monster to her and my son.I try and look back and make sence of why i did what i did but i can not.This is going to sound real bad but she had to leave me for me to want to change because i was not going to change just by someone saying i needed to change.I wrote this down in a note i told her you made me a better man the day you came into my life and even a better one the day you left me.I hope this does not sound stupid but without her leaving i would never had give up the drink or got anger management both i need.So if anyone can give me some advise or a litte bit of hope that this can be saved please let me know.Oh yea we have been seperated over a year she has filed for a divorce and every time we get together she brings up the divorce.So again am i fooling myself that i can ever change her mind and save this marriage.
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The only people who can save a marriage is the married people themselves. All the money and time in the world spent on advice is not going to change that.
Wishful thinking ! If you have exhausted all of the possibilities like counseling then I would consider it over and when she needed something
just kindly tell her that isn’t your job any longer ( unless it is for your Son).
And move on with your life knowing that you learned one of lifes lessons and you are a better person that you have learned something valuable.
Just be careful because you do have to deal with her because of your Son and she can make it harder on you. Good Luck.