to start ill just give you a little story. so this girl was "dating" this guy who didnt treat her very well but she loved him and he loved her and he was the first person she ever loved. but he wasnt treating her well so i came along and me and her started talking (we go to the same school, as did her boyfriend at that time) and we grew close and eventually we hooked up and one thing led to another and we were dating. well, she really did love this guy, but lucky for me, he went on a foreign exchange program and couldnt keep in contact with her for the whole summer. so me and her grew really close and we loved eachother, and i know we loved eachother. there was one problem though. she was going to a different school which was far away and i wouldnt be seeing her very much at all, so we talked about it a lot and we decided to break up and if we still loved eachother, we would date the next summer. so the school year went on and we still loved eachother all the way through december. but there was a problem, she was talking to her ex boyfriend (the one who she loved first). but they got in fights and they stopped talking. but they had established contact again which was a problem. but anyway, in december we decided to try dating eachother cause we still loved eachother, but so much had happened between the summer and december that things werent the same. we expected things to be amazing like they used to be, and we tried to hard to have that, which just made things harder. so, she starts talking to her ex boyfriend more and more. and midway through february, she dumps me for him… but she doesnt wanna date him yet, shes waiting until the summer.

ive talked to her a lot since then and she said to me "i loved u a lot, and i still have feelings for you, but we ended really badly, but i want to be really good friends with you" and i asked her why she went back to her ex boyfriend if they had such a miserable relationship and she was like "he was the first one i loved and we have this connection i cant explain. me and u had a great connection, but our relationship ran its course." so i started to become a friend to her. but then she came home for vacatoin, and we hung out and things were great, but she was trieing so hard to be friends, but i know she had feelings for me still, but she wont accept it cause she doesnt think me and her would ever work again. she also saw her ex boyfriend, and they also had a good time. we recently got in an argument about it and she asked me "why cant we just be best friends?" and i told her it was cause my feelings were way mroe than that, and then i told her that i cant deal with this hurt anymore and i told her im not gonna talk to her for a long time. so i decided im not going to contact her for a month and since she is going back to school soon, her ex boyfriend shouldnt be too much of a threat to me since he wont see her in person for a while. but i need to know how to get her back before summer. i cant tell u how much me and her have been through together and how much i love her, she is everything to me and we had such a great relationship the first time. i know what we did wrong the second time and i know we can avoid those mistakes, but she wont take it, cause she has feelings for me and her ex. i jsut want her to see that im the better guy, and that she can have a great connection with me. she even has told her ex that she wishes he was like me, and that she wishes she had loved me first. but she still has hope for him, and still hopes he can be a good boyfriend. but i know that shell be unhappy. and ive told her all this, so dont suggest to me that i should tell her. ive also told her exactly how i feel, so dont suggest that either please.

i know she wont go back with me cause she thinks that it wont work and that our relationship has run its course. what i want to hear back from you guys is. how do i make her see me as what i used to be to her? how do i get her back from this guy? she has admitted to me that she wishes i was the first person she loved and that she had built the strong connection with me. so obviously she still has a lot of feelings for me. but how do i make her believe that we can work out like we used to? should i establish a friendship with her again first? how should i act with her? if there are any professional dating advice people out there. if they could answer this one for me, it would be very helpful and id appreciate it so much.

but please dont tell me to give up and move on, ive loved her for so long, its been a year now since ive loved her, and i know she still loves me in some ways too.

any advice from anyone is very much appreciated


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