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we were having trouble-mostly financial-husband started never being home to spend time with the family-told him we need to get a div if your never wanting to b around–he said no no no he didnt want that=things were better for a few months but i was angry about things still , then about the time when i was beginning to believe he was wanting to stay married- he started having an affair but stil wudnt lev the house kept saying he wanted his marriage, there was confrontation div papers signed and he was gone for a month moved in with the girl he cheated with. then asked to come back home he loves me so much=so he moved back in and told the other girl it was over-now hes acting distant says hes mainly worried about money-but also says he loves me but hes not in love with me like when we first met. he says he wants to stay married but doesnt see how it can work. everyone says kick him to the curb –im not so in love with him that i think i cant ever be with anyone else-but i do want my marriage to work i want our family back, any insight here??
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My Wife and I have been married almost 10years, In the beginning of our marriage I had messed up and had a fling, after this happened I went to her and told her because I felt guilty, we eventually beside to move out of state back o her hometown to start over fresh, and to raise our family. And for the next 5 plus years things have gone really well, except for a small fight once and a while. Well 3 weeks ago I was going threw the history section on our computer looking for a website I had visited, and I came across several communications between her and another man. Including sexual things that she wanted to do to him. I must say I felt like I was going to puke. It turns out this guy she was talking with was going to be attending a wedding that she was involved in and just a few weeks to come, (the guy is the brother of the bride to be). So I confronted her about this, and begged her not to go to this wedding, that I did not want this to ruin our marriage, so after talking with her and her parents I decide to not contest her going to the wedding as long as she took her mother, (if I went I would destroy this guy, and i didnt want to ruin the brides day,) So my wife goes to the wedding and the reception with her mother, however my wife decides to go out with the wedding party afterwards, long story short my wife doesnt come home until the next day and she told me that they were physical. Then she starts to say that she thinks she might be in love with this guy and she thinks it would be best if we got a divorce, mind you she has only know this guy for a little over 1 month, and we have over 10years. Now I know in the beginning of our marriage I was a piece of shit for what I did, but I love my wife and kids so much,I am not ready to lose them. What can I do to save this? I am so lost without them, my wife is my heart, and you cant live without your heart. Any help would be greatly appreciated!!!