What do you do when ex-boyfriend wants to compromise to save relationship?
My ex of 1 month wanted to bet back together after 3 years in a relationship. I told him 3 days ago that I was talking to someone else. he was extremely hurt at first, he hung up in my ear and then called me back a couple of times saying mean things to me (things like why wasn’t he good enough etc.) Anyway, he called me this morning telling me how much he still hopes that we stay together and that maybe its good for me to "test the waters" before I commit to this relationship (his words).
I am totally shocked that he was saying things like this (you would be to if you knew him like i did) and kind of freaked out. But i still love him very much.
Now the other guy really seems to adore me, he called me last night to tell me that he was thinking of me all day and that he wants us to hang out today. We have been talking for a week and a half and I really like him (he shares the same values as I do)
Please give me an HONEST opinion/answer on what you think I should do.
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its so obvious that he has it in his head that you two will remain together. its like he assumes by saying you can test the waters, is like he has you on a leash (figuratively speaking). no matter who you see, you will come back. that could be his thinking who knows. unless you want to be with this guy i would stick with the new friend
I believe that if a bf/gf becomes an ex, it means he/she was not the right person; therefore, WHY getting him/her back???
Well before your ex called were you having these secong thoughts? If not, you owe it to yourself to move on. Give it time and see where this thing goes. Your ex even said that maybe you should test the waters. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. Meanwhile, explore your options with this new guy.
Your relationship with your ex is over. Let that one go. If he can badger you verbally, trust that it becomes physical badger sooner or later. He shows no respect for you. As for the new guy, if you haven’t had sex with him already, wait on it. In fact, and I know it’s taboo to say but I’m gonna say it anyways….Wait until marriage. You have to know that this new guy is on the up and up. He could be playing you to get some. Because our emotions are often unstable, use your head on this one. Go slow and easy and if this guy truly values you, he too will be willing to wait, preferrably until marriage. Good luck and God bless.
If a man loves you …he would NOT want you to test the waters w/ someone else . Same for you … you would not want to be w/ anybody eles if you loved him. its important for 2 people that r close to feel and share the same ideas about commitment. After all thats what you r doing is building a structure w/ walls strong enough to hold up during trying times. Be careful not to enclose yourself in, or cement them in for ,it could be disasterous.