Before I met my bf, i was a happy "selfish", single girl. I was never the type who would easily commit into a relationship bc i was always content on my own and w. my close friends and family. My bf was confident/secure and knew he wanted me, worked very hard and we were in a relationship. The last few weeks my intution told me something was wrong and when i would talk to him about it, he reassured me things were okay but things were still a bit off. I’m a good gf-i’m understanding, i don’t criticize him – i respected, appreciated him and what he did for me, understood his "me time" and time w. his friends, I never nagged. I felt as if he wasn’t treating me the way I should be treated – he did not deserve the title. My intution kicked my stomach and nicely demanded he tell me what was up – he said he didn’t want a gf, he didn’t want to be in a relationship, he lost feelings, no spark, and he didn’t want to have to work anymore (work for what? I tried w/o doing the work – never clingy, never did more than I should). He said he couldn’t give me what I want and needed bc his car, video games, and friends are more important (his friends don’t have ambition in life. They just drink and talk about cars, some get high). That night he texted me, "i’m sorry i broke your heart like your d-bag exes.." WHAT?! and RIGHT after we broke up, he texted my best friend saying, "i lost feelings for her…" What’s crazy was that the next day he still texted me saying he felt horrible, sorry, and that he deserves to be called an ****** and a jerk bc of what he did and that he sorry I opened up to him and he lead me on…and that he still really cares about me alot and i’m everything he wants in a girl but he’s not happy and that timing isn’t right.." WH BOTHER TEXTING ME? that was more for him than me. Looking back, he was still consistent and affectionate w. me but not as much as he was before.

W. the help of friends and prayers, I’m doin a bit better but i’m still hurt. I feel jipped bc i was the happy independent girl and now when i wasn’t so scared of committing, he switches it up. I don’t understand – i’m not perfect but i am a good girl. I have respect for myself and others, educated, will graduate soon and into career world, have fun w/o being wild, take care of myself physically, mentally, emotionally, I’m playful and NOT a slut, and i was understanding and never critcized or nagged my bf. I called him out politely when i felt things weren’t right or disrespected. He said he always wanted a good girl bc all his exes were high maintinence and b*tchy. He said he’s used to being the b*tch in the relationship but I expect my bf to be a man and have self respect. i don’t want to put anyone on a dog collar and be demanding. My friends tell me it was the case of a "guy" who’s indecisive, doesn’t know what he wants and who he is and he’ll regret losing a good girl/good catch like me. My friends (even all his friends) think i’m "very pretty" so if i’m not ugly and I have a good personality, treat him well w/o chasing him…how can he let me go? How can you just lose feelings? I was always independent and strong but still gave him respect as a man. I’m old fashioned and i’ll still be a lady. Why would he do this? Will I be okay again?
I’m nearing my mid 20′s and my friends are older saying i was just "too mature" for him bc i know what I want, who I am, and am strong. They’re betting he’s going to regret it soon…Thoughts?


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