Should I stay with my military husband or get back with my ex-boyfriend?
Well, I had a long relationship with my ex-boyfriend for 4 years. He is 27 and I am 33. I was waiting all this time for he ask me to get married, but he didn’t ask. We had up’s and down’s and he stop giving me the attention that I was looking for. I met a new man 32 , military and he was looking for serious commitment like me. We started dating and we just got married in february, he just left to Korea and have to be one year there. Now I’m alone in a new city and I feel very depressed. My ex-boyfriend wants me back, and now he wants me to divorce my husband and get married with him. I still have feelings for him but I do love my husband. I feel very lonely now. Should I stay with my husband and wait for him for a whole year or get back with my ex-boyfriend that wants to marry me now?
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Sweetheart, in the world of military wives, a year without your spouse is nothing! Many of us have survived deployments longer than that!!
I agree with one of the other posters, you took vows. To HONOR your husband and until DEATH do you part. Your husband is away doing something noble and needs to know that you are at home supporting him and providing him with undying love to be able to make it w/o you. Did you stop to think your husband may be alone too?
This exboyfriend is preying on the fact that you are feeling lonely. He’s going to use you and dump you. Why don’t you sit down and write everything you love about your husband. Every reason why you married him and everything you’ve learned him since you got married. Be sincere…you’re being honest to yourself…then put it in an envelope and mail it to him.
Focus on your marriage sweetheart. First separations are difficult, but they are a fact of life for military families. You’ll do fine, try to fine other military wives that have been there done that. There are ways to keep love alive while he is gone, and when he comes home; love him with all of your heart.
Change your phone number, don’t give it to the ex. Write his dumb a** off. You don’t need him.
Lots of luck. e-mail me if you would like to talk
If you’re already asking yourself this question, you shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place.
Who are you happy with? Do you still wanna be with your husband? Does he treat you right? Does he support you? Are you really willing to break off a marriage you wanted for somsone who didnt want you? Your ex wanted you but then decided he didnt…He left you and now that you are married he wants you back? Whats that about? Your husband is doing good for lots of people in Korea. Its not like he left you to be with someone else. Do you think if you take your ex back, he will be there for you? What if you take him back, then get married, and he ends up leaving you again? are you ready for that? Is that what you want? Why would you want to end it with a man, who is working hard for a man who has finally decided he wants his married ex back? What is his intentions? Does he have a job? How was it when you were dating? Was he a good guy? Make a list…goods and bads of each guy…See who has it better!!! If your lonely, You can get a job maybe and then there you can make friends that way…then you wont be lonely…Think hard about this because you could end up gettign hurt by the wrong choice…You will also hurt one of the 2 guys, but think about who is better for you…Present and Future wise…Think hard!!!
Dont get a divorce. stay with him. thats absolutely terrible you would think about doing that. What if you were sent away from your husband, then he decided to do that to you, how would that make you feel. He’s stuck in another country right now, thinking about you no doubt, wanting to see you and counting down the days till he gets to be with you. Just because your lonely doesnt mean you should give up. How do you think he feels, being stuck in another country, far away from you.
Wow… women like you give us Military wives a bad name.
You took wedding VOWS. You know, until DEATH do you part? Your husband has done nothing to you except serve his country and do his job. Let me tell you a secret… your ex doesn’t want to marry you, he’s just SAYING that so he can get you in bed. Honor your wedding vows, no one (including your ex) will respect you if you don’t. Sounds to me like you man hop and don’t know a good thing when you have it. Stay with your husband.
If you are thinking about leaving your husband for another man and you have just gotten married then it sounds like you should have thought about it more. If you leave your husband for the other man then you could end up being sorry. You might wish that you had stayed with the man that you are now with. You need to get out and do things and meet other females so you won’t be so bored and lonely. Being bored and lonely is no reason to leave your husband for another man. A year being alone is not that long and will go by fast.
My fiance is living in China now for a job. I would never leave him for another man.
Unfortunately, it sounds as though you just married this man to get married, which is a terrible thing.
While your husband is fighting for our freedoms, you want to leave him for another man who can’t even make up his mind on what woman he wants?????
Your husband deserves better!
think about the reasons why he’s your ex. you married the man that loves you and gives you the love and attention that you deserved. think about your wedding vows, did you take them seriously? did he? one year is not a long time to wait. if you can keep your promise, you will be able to handle anything that comes you way with you head held high and no shame or regrets
The only reason your ex wants you now is because you are with some one else,wake up before you make a big mistake.
If you don’t want to be with your husband thats one thing, but to fall for that weak line, please.
Here are some questions you need to be asking your self.
Why are you still in touch with your ex,and if your husband was in touch with his ex how would you feel.
Do you even love your husband, or was he just the rebound man.
Your lonely get a pet, job,hobby, some thing other then breaking that mans heart while he is out serving our country
Believe me if the ex, didn’t give you what you wanted then, he won’t give it to you now. People seem to want what they can’t have. If he loved you , he wouldn’t have pushed you away. My advice is get off your butt and make military friends, women in the same situation. You have not been married long enough to have even experienced it. Give it a chance. Your ex, is your ex for a reason, REMEMBER that reason.
its seems to me you just want someone to be there and their is a reason your ex is your ex i think you should have known marrying into a military relationship that you werent going to see him all the time.
stay with your husband. Honestly, if he were still here versus over seas would you still be considering taking back the guy that you weren’t good enough for before? No way! Your husband is dutifuly serving his country and you chose him. You may not have chose the job but you chose the man. Be strong for him. He deserves a faithful and loving wife to come home to, to lean on in times of hardship, to have you love him in return to the love he has for you. Just think it through before you make a decision. What would you think if it was him here contemplating leaving you for another woman??? just a thought…