ok my question is why do most women leave a man when he does everything for her except beat her?
hears what i mean! Last year i was dating my ex who i had been with since we were about 13yrs. old. i am now 27. but one day out of the blue she ups and leaves me for a man who doesn’t believe in God and also is a bum. While we were together i paid all of our bills, including her car, and gave her anything she asked for. all she ever had to do was ask me and i would give in to her. i just do’nt understand why women leave the good guys for the guys who are very wrong for them. Oh as well my ex is catholic and her old man now is athiest. what the heck. her family is having a field day with it and they wish she would come back to me but she wont. i really miss her and wish she would come back. what does everyone else think i should do? and why do women leave the good guys for the bad ones?HELP
i hear what everyone is saying but here is the facts: we had a good relationship. we only had 3 fights the whole time we were together we were perfect for each other and i wish she was on here because she would tell you that we really loved each other, but i don’t know now if she does. i see her still all the time because she lives in one of my dads houses. what do i do
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first of all, i am so sorry that this has happened to you. i know what her problem is…… it’s not you.
i have been with the same guy since i was 13, i am now 23, we are very well established and he is very good to me also, all i have to do is ask.
but, sometimes i think the grass could be greener on the other side, i know! that it’s absolutely insane! i never had any serious relationship but him, i mean 13?! who even has a serious relationship at 13? we had our first everythings together. and i love him unconditionally. but i never sewd my wild outs. now I would NEVER leave, but i know that is why she left, it’s nothing you did wrong, it’s her problem for not realizing that what she had was totally awesome, and that she will never be able to replace your relationship! she probley already knows by now that the grass is NOT greener on the other side, she’s probley regretting her decision at this moment. i can’t tell you how sorry i am, i hope you find someone toatally awesome for you!
Sounds that you are hinting you are a saint now!
Alas!! we had not heard her side … so the Jury should postone the judge.
maybe you were controlling or she don’t love you.or she may be confused.
She thinks she’s following her heart. Good girls always want the bad boys. You sound like an amazing guy- any girl would love to be with you.
maybe some women are pre-destined to have self-destructive behavior. Its a challenge, we think we can change them into what we want. Some women subconsciously think they don’t deserve good men like you so they leave and put up with the bad ones-thinking that they seserve it. I’ll bet she knows now (or will soon) what she had. Not many left that are good stand up men.
They’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’..or maybe they never had it .
14 years is a long time, but I’m guessing that she didn’t want someone who gave her everything when she asked for it. Maybe you just weren’t the one for her and you just have to get over that fact. You will find someone else and maybe he isn’t bad for her and she like him. Who knows. Just move on and try to find someone else. Good luck and dont worry.
Just because you didn’t beat her doesn’t mean the relationship was perfect. Something was obviously wrong or she wouldn’t have wanted to leave. As was posted before, we haven’t heard her side.
My ex was extremely verbally abusive, but since he didn’t beat me, he thought it was ok. He still can’t understand sometimes why I threw him out.
You need to move on and quit worrying about it. She obviously wasn’t the one.
Sometimes my friend, passive men grow boring to some women. Don’t be so "there for her" all of the time. Try to let her be a bit more independent. You may try living a bit more out there of a life. I mean, do be so "johnny on the spot" or "never late" or even so agreeable. Try dissagreeing sometime. Sounds to me (and I’m only guessing) that she grew tired of that sort of thing. Best of luck.
Because women don’t like nice guys. They all say they do but they don’t. They go after the bad buys and try to change them. Just like they say the most important thinh is a sence of humor. Wrong. They will pick the good looking bad boy every time.
If you love her as much as you say you do, then let her go… If its meant to be then she’ll come back.. Let her know that you’ll always be there for her when she needs you… You’ve been together a really long time and maybe she just needs some time to find herself and what she really wants… Give her time and if she loves you with her whole heart, she’ll be back….
maybe most women are f*cked in the head. Find something that makes you happy and do it. Whether it be drinking in moderation, hanging out with your old friends, etc. Do anything you can to take your mind off of the pain you’re feeling. I know its tough. Don’t go crawling to her… she is the one that left you and she’ll eventually realize she made a huge mistake… that is where you make a move… that is where you make a decision. Good luck.
well, when you see urself is a good guy, but wat abt from her view? maybe she doesn’t think you guys are communicating the right way. (you might be very bossy and always tell her this and that, you should do this and do that)
paying everything doesnt mean love for a woman. they want sth that can touch their heart. did you ever buy her present or give her any surprise? sweet talk her and say you lov her so much??
if you have done all that… then the other reason will be because you are always there and she knows it. she wanna give out sth in a relationship rather than just get. and this guy can let her do so. as u said ur relationship is 13years and mayb she is tired of always getting and she wanna give in sth in a relationship.
my advice is rather than miss her that much, you will b better to find another one. i can see that if you do really get her back, after 10years time, you will remain her that she betrayed you and blah blah blah…. and its sth in ur heart 4eva.. just find another one.. you are still young..~!! there are plenty of catholic out there..~!!
good luck
Maybe you should have told her "no" a little more?
Maybe you shouldn’t have spoiled her so much she took you for granted and used you like a door mat for 14 years.
Maybe you are a good guy, but catering to every little desire the girl had did not earn her respect, and evidently not her true love either.
Get a backbone and forget her.
Learn the lesson this should have taught you and move on.
Think about it, she just ran off with a guy that is the exact opposite of who you are, that says it all.
Well, maybe she wasn’t happy in the relationships just because you gave her everything she wanted doesn’t mean she was happy. If she is happy with the choice that she has made in a new man then you have to except that if you really love her you will be happy because she is happy. Let her live her life if you and her were ment to be you will be
Perhaps its was an emotional need. She has been with you for 14yrs and she has never gone out with another guy except you. She may feel she is missing out in going out and meeting different people.
For someone who is ready to marry and start a family, it will be nice to have a guy like you who is happy to provide for the family. But for someone who is still swinging single may want to want to explore and have fun.
Give her time and see if she comes back, if you want to wait for her. Otherwise, there are plenty more fishes in the ocean waiting to be provided for!
Would be nice to hear her version…. based on yours- sounds like you came across too easy. I have a question for you- will you really take her back if she comes back to you??
She is backsliding.Maybe it is not just you she is running from.As far as the other guy,that won"t last.Take this to God.Ask for his guidance and pray for her.Nothing happens out of the blue ,you were not watching.