how do you get rid of a girl or off your back without being harsh or mean? need helpful advice please…?
i went out with a beautiful girl that i loved very much over this past summer but unfortunately things went wrong and we broke up. Ever since then it’s been hard forgetting about her and moving on. I’ve had chances to start a new relationship with other girls but i’m not willing to take the risk just yet.
Recently, this girl i know from high school that used to like me contacted me on myspace and wanting to meet up. So i met up with her just as friends but i didn’t like the outcome because all she did was try to hit on me.
She’s not a bad looking girl but as i said before, i’m not ready to start a relationship or even mess around as a one night stand.. also we don’t have much in common and she is a bit on the annoying side.
so i stopped contact with her, even if she called, i just ignored the calls but just today she showed up at my work… which i have no idea how she knew.. I want to be able to tell her i’m not interested but i cant think of ways to tell her without being harsh???
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Seriously, Tell her!!!
To not tell her sends a signal – so in this care to avoid her may cause her to receive a ‘rejection’ signal – which will even sub consciously afect her and can affect her other relationships. Don’t hurt her by putting emotional baggage on her – one day she’ll be someone else’s prize and you don’t want her to have to take an emotional baggage into another relationship.
Tell her that you’re not interested due to a past relationship; and you feel she may have gotten the wrong message.
The truth delivered in love always heals .
Well, if you don’t want to be direct….you can just blow her off.
Women I wanted to date and who didn’t want to date me would be kind and tactful by blowing me off….they’d say things like, "oh yea, call me," or something like that and then be out of contact!
Just blow her off.
just tell her the truth saying you’re not completely over your ex and not ready to start another relationship yet
THE BEST THING TO DO IS BE HONEST WITH HER BY TELLING HER THE TRUTH. TELL HER THAT YOU DON’T WANT TO SEE HER ANY MORE.
I recently had the same problem.
I couldn’t shake this girl.
She was gorgeous, and lots of guys wanted her.–Only to me she became annoying and somewhat obnoxious.
She thought she was so desirable that when I didn’t want her, she only acted crazier.
As much as I tried to give her hints, (both subtle and direct), she just kept coming.
So I boned her.
I didn’t do a good job either.
I was nonchalant and quick and totally emotionless.
I know that it sounds mean, but it worked.
She wouldn’t accept my denial any other way.
There’s nothing more harsh or mean than ignoring someone. I’d sit her down and tell her you’re in love with a girl you can’t forget. And that you’re sorry, you don’t feel romantic towards her. Send her an email, if you don’t want to face her.
You don’t have to be harsh, just truthful. And hey, you have a right to your life too. If this girl isn’t for you, then that is the way it is. You can’t force yourself to be in love.
Set her free to find someone else. You’ll be doing her a favour in the long run.
There are a few very polite ways of saying yes or no. Either way, you end up using excuses, and either way you need to be gentle and polite. Never encourage her to believe in what she wants with you.