My girlfriend and I have been together for 3.5years now, but it seemed to be losing it's luster.?
Then I suspected her of cheating. So this past weekend I read her text messages, which I know I violated her trust completely, but found that she had been texting another guy. Some of the messages were "GAH, I just can’t get you out of my head." "Morning love." "I miss you." Anyways I confronted her and she said, "Don’t worry; it’s nothing."
It’s been tearing me apart for 5days now. I try to communicate with her, but she just uses one word answers to my questions, and she just won’t talk to me about it. She tells me she doesn’t have feelings for him, but I believe I know her well enough to see that she is depressed, and she’s hiding something. I tell her she can talk to me about anything and that I love her, but just won’t open up. Then today she told me she felt "smothered".
I love her very much, and I want to give her the space she wants, but I fear if I do she will leave me for the other guy.
Yes I realize that it’s ultimately up to her to decide what’s best for her, but how can I show her that Truly love, care, and cherish her without smothering her anymore, and putting our relationship on even more unstable ground?
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Hey bro. In a situation like this, you just can’t try too hard. It’s difficult to feel like you can do more to help your relationship with her, but you just have to walk instead of run. If you try too hard you’ll push things too much and create more tension. Just try to be cool with it and give her enough space to not "smother". I understand how hard it can be to spill your feelings on her because you don’t want to let things fall apart, but the best thing you can do is be patient. You can’t force her to stay with you, but you have to trust that she will come to you.
Also, I know how it feels to see those kind of things she texted to that guy. It really raises suspicions and makes you feel betrayed. Now I won’t say that there’s nothing going on between her and the guy, but there are many instances a girl says those kind of things to other guys without it meaning so much. But I don’t know your girlfriend. Only you do. And if she will openly talk to you about this "friend" after being with you this long, chances are she is telling the truth about it being "nothing". However, if she is secretive and uncomfortable about talking about this guy, I believe she truly is hiding something from you. You just need
to be a bit patient about it and find out.
Good luck man, I know this will be tough. But you just need to know that you’re doing the right thing
and if things go wrong, it is not you fault.
the one word answers mean alot and not in the good way plus if shes text other guys or the guy that kind of stuff.. thats usually not a good sign at all. and plus that smothering stuff is bull shit sorry to say she probably needs to mature a bit more as young people usually do about how a serious relationship actually works.