Husband's ex sent cops after me for refering to her as and idiot?
Okay this morning I get a phone call from a police officer in another state. He says that he is investigating a police report made by my husband’s ex wife.
In the report she claims the myself and another person slandered her. Now the who conversation was basically this. The other person posted something about the number of idiots in her life. I posted back did you run into the ex’s wife? She said yes and she is getting fat. I said maybe she will pop out another kid.
Now we never used her name and both of our FB accounts are restricted so the only way she got on to see it was to go through one of the step kids pages to get to a parents.
The report also claims that she has numerous other pieces of evidence that she has gathered from other websites. The only other place I talk "About" her is a step parent forum devoted to helping each other with custody issues. In it I have stated the issues and asked questions. I have never used anyone’s names and the only reason she knew it was me is because she is following me around the web.
The office basically told me that she was very upset and I am not aloud to talk about her on line. First I don’t just talk about her I talk about issues we have that include her. Second, if I’m not using names and I am anonymous except to some stalking me (her) how can that be a crime? What about the 1st amendment?
For example if she finds this she would call the cops. Is it right that I can not speak about my issues in a private way?
Third, is there anything I can do, she is basically running around the web looking for my email address that has been changed now?
Is this post a crime?
Popfav, My hubby is a retired cop too, he said the same thing you did, I did call he is legit, but some of what he said was weird like when I pressed the issue and said what crime did I commit he said just don’t talk about her, he also said he didn’t want to make it multijuristictional I didn’t know that could even happen with a mistermeaner. I mean all he said was stop. but like right now we are talking about"her" can I get in trouble? And yeah I shouldn’t have refered to her as an idiot but only me and the other person and her could have known who I was talking about and she wouldn’t have know if she were not snooping where she shouldn’t have been.
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I seriously doubt that the man that called you was even a policeman or any type of law enforcement officer. She sounds like a piece of work. Slander usually involves a lawsuit, not the police calling you saying you are not allowed to talk about someone online. It also has to be proven that you did indeed slander her and a court of law decides that. Plus, unless you were using her full name and other info, it wouldn’t be slander. If slander were that easy to get taken care of , don’t you think the rich celebs would have put an end to it??? Let’s say Pitt and Jolie call the police and have a tabloid quit slandering them. LOL Even they have to sue and often lose. Call the police department in the state the officer was supposedly from. Make sure he exists. If he doesn’t, call the police yourself to report the caller claiming to be a law enforcement officer. It can be a felony to impersonate any law enforcement individual.
freedom of speech, hon. Remember that. As long as you are not making threats to her or about her, you’re fine. You cant get in trouble with the law for this post or just you talking about her. So don’t worry, shes just a crazy b*tch making a fool of herself.
what you should do is quit call your husband children’s mother an idiot in any forum that the kids might see. if you bad mouth their mother anyplace and they are not idiots, then they see it, name or not, you bad mouthing their mother. that would make you an idiot so if she writes that you are an idiot you can not have her arrested because you are an idiot
First I belive that slander is a civil issue not a criminal thing it depends on the state laws but I’m pretty sure its not a criminal thing. If your not using names, how can they prove in a Court of Law that your talking about her. I think they’re just trying to scare you. Maybe you can call that police department back and speak to that officer’s supervisor letting him know that you think that there are false reports being made and that you have not broken any laws that they must be mistaken. Ever officer has a supervisor and if its just one of her friends doing the call to you it may not even be legal for him to be calling you. Internet stalking is for real and perhaps you need to do some research and find out if you can do anything about people who are doing that to you. I think its there is a Federal branch that does this.
Unless they are charging you with some sort of a crime they can’t tell you not to talk about anyone you talk about online. Only the supervisor can tell you if this is an actual ongoing investigation or not. If you don’t feel like your being treated right contact Internal Affairs and make a report on the officer that is scaring you by phone after you’ve found out whether this is a real thing or not.
Perhaps you should make your own report with your local police and see if theres anything you can do about the situation as you feel your being stalked. It works both ways.
Stay within your rights and you know that your not using names and continue your anonimity that will be the best thing you could do, perhaps the ex is just paranoid and taking other peoples writings thinking it is you.
Find out whats really going on with the phone call from that office and I sure hope you got his name and badge number.
I don’t see how this "post" could be a crime…LOL! Though, I am NOT making fun of your situation!.. The way I see it… is , as long as you have not mentioned any names,, It is not anything except "guilty conscience".On the other persons’ part… no worries love..long as u doin the rght thing
There is a lot that I could say about my step daughters mother however: I respect her for raising my step daughter that I love. Whatever you feel about this woman, you are the other mom and should work together.
Hon,
Slander is a civil matter and it’s settled in court, not by police involvement and no cop would bother with such nonsense so if this cop calling was a legit cop, he was calling as a favor to the ex so something tells me she KNOWS him…..he was trying to intimidate you. He can NOT order you to stop speaking about ANYONE-that is a violation of the Freedom of Speech that we as Americans have a right to.
He was bullshitting you in plain english.
No cop can tell you NOT to talk about another person on line…especially since you never NAMED the gal….and as long as you are giving an opinion and not spreading untruths or threatening bodily harm, no one can censor you. On top of that, it’s out of his jurisdiction and it’s not up to HIM to make it multi-jurisdictional, it up to the ‘higher ups’ to do that. Do you honestly think they would bother with such nonsense????
I can just imagine the Assitant District Attorney saying "Sorry, got to put all my cases on hold you know, the rapists, murderers, etc because So & So is ‘talking’ about You Know Who, and You Know Who doesn’t like it-ARREST HER!"
Really kinda silly.
Honestly, has anyone been arrested for giving an anonymous opinion about another person? They can be sued but then plaintiff must prove 1) you were talking about her and 2) she suffered great monetary damage because of it.
But Cyber stalking is another issue and YOU may have a legit cause of action if this is what is going on against you.
If it happens again I would call his precinct and ask to speak directly to his supervisor…if he willingly gives up his name…if he doesn’t or gives you a fake one, then you know exactly what is going on.
Then make a complaint about abuse of power…cops are NOT allowed to bully folks if no crime has been committed. …wouldn’t hurt to speak to a lawyer on this, just to cover yourself.
Other than that, fuggedaboud it-it’s Mickey Mouse nonsense…and if it continues you may have a legit complaint of harrasment.