Went to mediation with my ex because I want to increase my parenting time?
Currently, I have 1 and 1/2 days with my two children, so I filed a motion with the court to increase my parenting time. The judge sent us to mediation. After talking with the mediator for 2 and a half hours, he sent a report to the court recommending I increase my parenting time to 3 1 /5 days (so about half) with my children. He even ended up calling my ex a drama queen and she needs to stop. As well as using derogatory remarks against me on public forums with her friends, which he included on his report.
Naturally, my ex is not agreeing to this. She thinks I should have hardly anytime with our children because "they are always crying to here about how much they hate it over here" and blah blah blah.
Well I don’t see this. In fact, when I see my kids they run to me with big hugs and smiles. We play games and spend quality time together (which to me, 1 and a half day is just not enough, I love my kids) They don’t seem at all intimidated. Sure, they get in trouble and get restriction and are given healthy food at dinner and not have a over abundance of junk food. They are expected to clean their rooms and help with chores around the house. But heck, what kid wouldn’t complain about that? I did when I was a kid. Are these the things our kids are crying about to their mother when they go back to her house? Are they being quized so she can make remarks about me on puplic forums about how much of a jerk I am? I wonder.
All I want to be is a father and have more time with my kids so that I can be a part of their growng up. I do not go about complaining about my ex on public forums (I do go to counseling to do that)
So my question is, can she actually prevent me from getting my increase even though we have a mediators report? I do everything I am supposed to be doing, I house them, feed them, clothe them, make sure they do weel in school, go to school events, and spend time with them. Her only complaint is what she and the kids talk about me. Which I think she should not be doing because she is not a tir party to this. She has a lot of hostility towards me and of course if the kids bring up one thing, she can repond to them making it ten times worse.
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thought neither of you may realize it, your children may feel like they are being forced to choose sides. divorce isnt just hard on the couple but the children as well. From what I have read, you seem to be on the right path in parenting. When i was younger my family went through the same situation and even though it doesnt seem like your pleasing your children, they will respect you more as a person and as a father when they are older if you continue to use direction and discipline when it is needed. Right now your ex is going to blame you for everything they complain about because she wants them on her side but it isnt about sides. Be a strong parent because it is about you and your children now. They will love and appreciate you unconditionally when they are older for being the constant foundation in their lives. good luck
She doesn’t have to agree with the mediator but the judge will usually accept their recommendations. Good for you for being the stand-up type of father your children need. Enjoy them. They grow up fast. Good luck!
just tell them
this is one thing about divorce i hate and that is the court deciding how often a parent usually the father can see his children… Some women should be sterilized to never have children but besides my anger … i believe children should have free access to their parents unless there are situations that are not appropriate… like a lesbian, adulterous , drinking driving mother … i cant go into details but i would love to force her into therapy she doesnt think she needs. she thinks her husband who has been faithful to her is wrong because he didnt fix the whole house up and the yard and he doesnt make her happy… i am a woman and wish she would see she has issues and aside from that she has to be supportive instead of thinking her husband has to make her happy!!! she acts so selfish, ungrateful… she is no susie homemaker… let me stop… contact internet sites for fathers rights… look up dennis gac. regards
I thought i knew about this but it goes to show you can always learn if you are open to it, the way you have shared your knowledge has really opened my eyes, to seeing in a new way. Mediation center is the best place to relax and talk for the best things in life to have a nice vacation. Thank you so much.
There are a lot of mediation centers who can help you with your problems. It’s not easy to go through with that problem alone, you must need someone to help you and give you some solutions with your problems.
Having a good conversation in a relationship is the best way to have a strong bond with each other no matter how many trials that may come. Going in a mediation centre will also help you know what are other way to make your relationship grow with the help of a mediator.