The interesting thing is that your story where your wife is cheating on you via the internet and THEN grossly villanizes you is something that my Asian Thai-Laos wife did to me. Buddy, there is something very mentally off set with your wife and mine and others who flirt with men because they can’t get the attention they need at home and then use that as an excuse to try to get out of the marriage.

My wife was a 100 pounds of cuteness, niceness, just a dream come true and I was – of course – madly in love with her. By our 3rd year of marriage I knew she was talking to many men on the internet, had many Facebook accounts with ALIASES never using her real name, and I caught her talking to another man when I gave her an AT&T Go Phone – which she did not think would have an online account of her calls.

My wife started to use the word “ABUSIVE” but the irony here is that her behavior changed so drastically that she actually would yell at me for no reason. She actually threw a pen at me once because when she asked for a pen I was on the phone and pointed my finger up in the air indicating to give me a minute – and then turned around and said the same things your wife said like – “You are mentally abusive” or “Your temper scares me” – when in fact when I got married to her – I was not allowed to swear and I did not. I raised my voice maybe 15 times – Max in 3.5 years of marriage and when I confronted her about her long distance extra curricular activity I did so in a calm manner – maybe not more than 4 times did I ever scream at her because she was basically not taking care of our house, sleeping in until 5:00 p.m. and staying up all night to cyber chat…

Buddy – any guy who has a set of testicals and cares and loves for his wife is going to lose his cool – so do NOT let her VILLANIZE you more than what your ACTUAL value is – meaning – if you hit her – that’s not cool nor good. If you simply lost your cool because she antagonized you – that’s normal.

At the end of my story – I made my wife file for the divorce she wanted and I feel vindicated from being away from such a souless being.

Our vows meant nothing to her and she told me at the end of our marriage that she felt that I never appreciated her and took her for granted…though I was the one who did my own laundry, washed the dishes, mopped the floors, ironed my clothes, and cleaned the house on top of taking care of 2 dogs…

It was not true and I am 10 years older then my now ex-wife and I took time to make certain I listened to her needs…I think that she needed so much attention that I could not deliver…it was not realistic or practical.

Try MARRIAGE COUNSELING but be very aware that once your significant other becomes souless – - I think it will take at least 10 years before they can find themselves again – - and that’s if they have a moral compass to do so.

Good luck to you, Amigo and for anyone else out there who is being cheated on – BE STRONG. GET YOURSELF IN SHAPE. LOSE WEIGHT. EXERCISE. WORK ON YOU – SO WHEN THE WORST CASE SCENARIO HAPPENS – You simply take time to heal – mentally. Physically – you should be toned. I went out 3 times after my divorce and all 3 times I had met women and gotten their phone numbers – not a big deal (I guess) but for a 37 year old “NICE GUY” – - I feel that it’s all about survival of the fittest – - it’s a law that will always hold true.