My ex and I split up four years ago after I caught them cheating. We have both moved on, however have a 5-year-old that we have joint custody over, although I’m the primary residence parent. In the past year they’ve threatened to challenge for custody a number of times, however backed down because they wanted to focus on their newborn. Since the birth of their new son they have indicated that they will no longer be accepting emails from me, but will talk about issues via the phone. Months ago I told them that I didn’t want to discuss issues over the phone because we weren’t communicating well, and email would allow us to be clear and straightforward. Also I wanted a record of the discussion and decisions made, so that they couldn’t say they’d said one thing, when they’d really said another, which they have a history of doing. Now we’re at an impasse as talking to them over the phone is stressful as they tend to get argumentative which solves nothing. I’m passive by nature, however want what’s best for my son. I’ve made it clear it was for health reasons I wanted to move to the email forum rather than over the phone, as the stress was aggrivating a medical condition, however they have ignored my concerns … as they have ignored serious issues such as vaccinations, using untested medications on my son against my will, and other health issues. How do I co-parent with someone who’s refers to medical and educational issues as "trivial issues" that cause them "needless stress?"
Actually I’m a guy … it’s the mother who cheated … twice … initially we weren’t sure my son was mine … then again a year after he was born … the new hubby is the second man she cheated with … they’ve decided together they will not accept any emails for the foreseeable future … my girlfriend keeps pushing me to talk to my lawyer … but I’ve put it off because I don’t want to rock the boat and I think it’s important for him to have access to his mom … that said, it’s getting to the point where if we can’t coparent than one of us should have final decision making power … if only for my son’s best interest!
I’m thinking it may be easier to simply buy a recording device and inform her that I will be recording phone conversations from now on to protect my own interests if we go to court. That way she’s informed about it so it’s legally admissible, and she gets her way regarding the email ….



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