How to save my mums and dads marriage from divorce?
My dad and mum have been married for 26 years (happily) i might add.But prior to their 26 anniversairy my mum met up with her old boy friend from when she was younger.
Over the past year my mum has been enfatuated with him.I am one of 5 teenage children and we are well off so its not about the money.My mum has never had to work but is making it seem as though divorce is what were heading towards.My father is always calm when they talk adult-adult but she doesnt seem complient to wanting to solve anything and just sits their when father is trying to save their marriage.
I am just wondering how or if their is anything that we can do as father wants her to stay likewise with us teenagers but is just pushing herself away from us and makes it harder for us to love her.
Any thought would be greatly appreciated??
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This is a hard issue. First of all, it’s really important that you and your siblings realise that this is not about you, or whether your mum loves you. It’s only about her, and your father, and the state of relationship that they have.
When people age, and as they are together, they change. In the best relationships, people change to be closer together. But sometimes, they grow apart and the things that they once had in common and that they once loved in one another no longer exist. And after that, it can be hard to go back – particularly if one person doesn’t want to.
From the sounds of it, your mum is seeing her old boyfriend as an answer – as something brighter. My mum did something similar, and left my dad for another man. Now, both mum and dad are in different relationships, and both are much happier. While what you are going through at home probably seems horrible right now, it might turn out ok – even if it wasn’t what you imagined it would be.
lock them in the basement until they fix their issues.
I feel for you and wish I had a magic wand to make all better. Have a heart to heart talk with your mum and tell her that you all are hurt and your dad is hurt too. Your mum sounds selfish and you all can be there for your dear dad.
you are 5 children sit with your mother and explain to her how import ant your family to her also. and advice her. is she doesn’t understand there is no option.
your mum needs to be talked to seriously. how could she be happily married for 26years and get a sudden change of mind cos she’s met her old boy friend? what can solve the problem is you the children should confront your mum’s old boy friend and let him know he’s on the verge of breaking your happy home. you the children shouldn’t be lenient at all, but it should be done in a polite way without your mum’s concern. i think that will draw the man back and as human as he is, he’ll stay back.
You have absolutely no idea if your parents were happily married. No one understands a marriage except those in it. It sounds as though your Mother no longer wants to be married to your dad and all you can do is to be supportive to them both.
This is nothing you can do about it. She have make up her mind that she want to throw every thing away for this guy.
They both can go counseling and so you kids.
When a person make mistake then are willing to change. But your mom did not make mistake. She wanted this way and she will get her way no matter what the cost.
reality you can love some one and hope that person love you back. your dad can not do any thing to preventing her to leave him.
after all she is your mom, i am not in your shoes so i can not say i know how you feel but only thing for you to do is just learn to love her.
Live is suck sometime……. but that is live. Wish you all with luck