Maybe it’s just my bitterness talking, but sometimes I wonder if a guy finding a woman is an answer to their problems. Is being with someone all that it’s cracked up to be? I was in a two-week relationship. We broke up because I didn’t put that much time and effort for her. Of course, we broke up on good terms. We’re still friends and there might be an open door for a second chance. Friends of mine are suggesting that I ask for a second chance. I tell them "I’ll do it when I feel like it". I’ve been told that sooner is better than later. While I can agree with that, but not as soon as almost a week later. But when I look more into it, I think to myself "Does one really need to be with someone to be happy?". I am more mad at myself, than I am with her, because I felt that I should have been there for her more than I was. Can’t one just be single to be free for a little bit, and then get involved. It’s stupid why life is like this. It’s one of the signs why I am mad at life sometimes.
How To Save A Marriage Archives
For our wedding my FH & I must give both of our families 9 months to 1 year notice to book travel and save money ETC… Also we live in the MD/DC area where if you do not book at least a year in advance you will not have a day
My FH sister is getting married in West Africa in August of 2009 since my FH & I have to take time from work in August we decided to make our wedding date in October. My FH dad has since informed me that his son should have known due to health reasons and the temperature in this region, (he is coming from West Africa) he can not travel to America in October he wants us to push the wedding until April.
Also if he were coming in April he could stay for 5 months and visit family etc… The trip is costly so he wants to make it worth while. I really want to get married and live with my husband. Having a civil marriage and a wedding ceremony later on is not an option. I feel the wedding is not about me but the joining of two families so I want our parents there. The hall said we have until Thursday to change the contract and is holding both dates. So would you do October 2009 without his folks or April 2010 with his folks? MY FH and I are posting this to see what outsiders think.
a civil cermony with a renewal of vows is not an option
Everybody needs a second chance?
Okay, I’ll give them a second chance. Which songs of theirs should I listen to? What are your favorite MCR songs?
I live in the Netherlands, and I write all of my stories in English. I can’t help it; the English language can reach more people and is a lot more expressive with words than the Dutch language is.
I have never properly learned about English grammar, it sort of caught on while reading stories on the internet.
Anyways, I’m set on publishing at least one romance novel in English, but I’m not sure if that’s even possible when I live in the Netherlands (would they only accept Dutch?). Anyone know if it’s possible for me to get published when using English as my second language? Do I have to find a publisher in English?
So here is my story. I had known this girl for past one year "intermittently" 
. She is Korean. First time we broke up with no reason. She just stopped calling! 3 months later she calls me and says that she was going through some bad time as she had to take care of her studies and other personal things. I gave her a second chance. We went out for nearly two months. And during that time we "did it" only twice – Now that was not the issue mmm.. perhaps it was to an extent but not entirely. I did tell her that I like her and she knew that but never expressed her feelings towards me or avoided the topic. I really did romance her a lot but I always felt she was not giving in as much to the relationship as I was. Well a point comes when you feel that you have tried enough..and so I stopped calling her. She did try once to reach me but I did not return the call. We did not connect for two months. She calls me last week again. Shall I give her a third chance?
Some one asked what is the point of me saying "she is korean". I am not sure. I always felt that she has some sort of weird fascination towards "white guys". Btw I am not white. I got from her comments that they dig white guys back in Korea or atleast all girls want to date one. But she never expressed this openly. But one could tell..
One more thing – I must confess I was attracted to her and still am. Although I do not have burning "feelings" for her or anything. Someone said – that I should give her a third chance if I like her. But I do not want to give her another chance because "only" I like her. I want to make sure she carries the same interest.
Some examples of what i’m kind of looking for are::
Early Mourning- Alesana
A Different Kind of Pain- Cold
Dear Agony- Breaking Benjamin
If Only You Knew- Shinedown
Second Chance- Shinedown
I’m Not Okay- My Chemical Romance
I have been feeling low lately and i just want to feel better whether thats crying it out or getting in a better mood…
Me and my ex cheated on each other in our past relationship of six months. We have openly discussed our past and now want to have a second chance at romance together. We cheated for different reasons but are ok with that. Our new relationship will be different from the first, since we are going to be faithful and it will also be long distance. We dont know what to think, we just know we dont want to be apart. Please help!!!
my babys dad is 23, im 25, we have a one year old.
we are always on and off
i love him, but he cant get it together,
he always comes back though,
and im tired of it cause its like he knows ill take him back. he knows he can run the streets yet still come back, i tell him i dont want to be with anyone else
i want him
but i want him to get it together,
as of teh moment no we arent together,
but i do want him here with us,
i want him to be a part of her life, i dont want her to see him coming and going.
i dont know what to do!
so, how frequently do you allow your man to come back just because you want to be a family? how long did you put up with it? did he ever fix his act?
This couple is living together and they love each other. Later he starts seeing a girl and she starts seeing a guy and the couple breaks up. Both have a new start with these people that they were seeing but it doesn’t last for too long and the new two couples break up. The original couple still loves each other and they will have a second start because at the end of the movie there are two men in a place is or looks like a dumpsite and they have the power to go back in time. The two men will give them a second chance.
Do ya think this deserves a second date?
A guy asked me out but we went to a MacDonald’s, That was OK I guess until he wanted to go to the play yard.
Thanks Y’all
I have not been diagnosed yet or anything but the descriptions of this disorder fit me almost exactly. Especially feeling abandoned & unloved to an overwhelming degree because of minor things. I got it in my head that my husband didnt love me therefore I should not love him. So I treated him like dirt even though I still loved him to death. I made him so miserable that he left me & he says he needs time to think things through to decide if he will come back. I’m trying to get counseling but its not easy where I live. I guess I just need to know if I should even hold on to any hope that I can get treatment and save my marriage. My husband is a wonderful man who does not deserve the way I have treated him & what he has had to put up with from me.
There are days when the kids act up so bad I just want to call my ex husband up and tell him to "come home and help me." This is 5 years after my divorce. I’m struggling so much being a single mom, not financially, but emotionally.
i was in a happy relationship for about a month when my hormones took over and i made the worst mistake of my life – sleeping with my girlfriend’s best friend.
we obviously broke up, but i want to know if there is a way to recover from this. all her friends basically tell me to lay down and die, and most of my friends hate my guts too. sometimes she talks like there is nothing wrong, other times, she really concerns me.
i know what i did is almost unforgivable, and she has every reason to never want to see me again, but i realize the mistake i made and want to try to heal our friendship.
serious answers please
Okay, so I posted a question a little while ago (maybe a few weeks) that was asking if my writing was good – It was a romance scene on a beach between two people named Jak and Erin.
Well, I was writing, (at 3 in the morning, again!!!) and so here’s the second romance scene between them. I just want to know if it feels real to you. Thanks for the help!
“Inexcusable!” Erin’s mom, Erica, said to Erin and Jak. “I was worried sick! We had no idea where you were, and you didn’t answer your cell phone any of the times I called you! Where were you all of this time?”
“I was…” Erin glanced at Jak for a solution.
“At the beach, Mrs. Whittier,” Jak said, a smile on his face.
“Um…yeah!” Erin said, thanking Jak silently for saving her. “We were…uh… swimming and lost track of time. My cell phone was in my shorts.”
“Didn’t you hear it ringing?” Erin’s mom asked, skeptical.
“We were in the ocean, Mrs. Whittier,” Jak said.
“Plus…um…it was on vibrate. I swear!” Erin exclaimed as her mom held out her hand for Erin’s cell phone to check if it was on vibrate or not.
Please, please, please, let it be on vibrate! Erin silently prayed, crossing her fingers behind her back. It was. Thank God! Erin yelled in her mind.
“I believe you, Erin, because you’ve never given me a reason to doubt you before, but know that trust can be lost in a split second, and it is much harder to gain it back. But if this ever happens again,” Mrs. Whittier paused, glaring at both Jak and Erin with the same murderous stare that Erin could imitate so well, “Erin you’re grounded for a week. That means no cell phone, no computer, and no going out of the house.”
“Okay mom,” Erin said, relieved that her mother was giving her a second chance.
“We’re really sorry,” Jak added.
“Okay. Jak,” she turned to him, “you should probably be getting home now. Your parents are probably very worried about you!”
“Yes, Mrs. Whittier,” he glanced at Erin, mouthed the word, window, and walked out the front door.
“Erin, get to bed. It’s very late.”
“Okay mom,” Erin said, giving her mother a kiss goodnight. Erin walked towards her room. Thank god it’s on the ground floor! Erin thought. She was about to walk into her room, but on second thought, she took the time to brush her teeth and comb her long brown hair, getting all of the tangles out from the breeze on the beach. Then, she walked into her room and found Jak sitting on her bed.
“Hey, stranger,” she whispered, closing the door behind her.
“Hey,” Jak said back, looked at her, into her intense green eyes, and decided to just say what he was going to say. “I’m sorry about what we did on the beac–” but Erin cut him off, sitting down on the bed next to him.
“I don’t regret what we did,” Erin said, reaching for his hand and grasping it, intertwining her fingers with his. “Look, I really like you,” she paused and blushed, “and I just didn’t realize it before because we were such good friends and all.”
“I like you too,” Jak replied, smiling, excited. “But what are we going to do about this? Us?” he clarified.
“We could start with this,” Erin said in a low whisper, looking at him, shy, for the first time. Jak found himself wandering in Erin’s eyes, looking for approval of what they were about to do. He found it.
Their heads came close, but this time, they were less hesitant. Then, as their lips met, Erin felt a whole new sensation from the one she felt on the beach. On the beach, the kiss seemed dangerous and daring, but now, it was familiar, as if it was needed. The kiss was full of yearning to learn more about each other and, in a way, to learn more about themselves.
Jak’s lips were gentle on hers, moving slowly, but surely, asking and pleading that this was still okay with her. Jak somehow sensed her willingness to move forward, and he became more enthusiastic. He wrapped his arms around her, smelling her raspberry scent, seeing her vulnerability, seeing her true self for the first time. Jak suddenly realized that he needed Erin. She was the only one who understood him, his only good friend. Now, he needed her more than ever because he could never forget.
They kept on kissing, and it was full of magic and wonder. Neither would let go and they were holding each other for what seemed like decades, but really no time had passed at all. Because time was now irrelevant, as they had finally found each other.
They both broke away and opened their eyes. Jak’s black eyes gorged into Erin’s green ones forever searching inside of her, inside of her heart, never wanting to leave but also knowing that he must. He grabbed her hands and whispered, “I have to go.” Erin nodded, tears coming fast. Jak squeezed her hands, hugged her, and gave her one last kiss before he climbed out of the window and sprinted across the wet lawn back to his house.
Erin laid down on her bed and silently cried, pulling her comforter close to her, smelling the balmy beach air blowing through her still open window. She cried for no reason and yet she cried for every reason. She just cried. It seemed like days. She finally cried herself to sleep.
* * *
hey anyone who answers this question: please tell others to answer because i really need as much input as possible! Thanks so much!
this is what ive got so far.
AFI- Miss Murder
Steppenwolf- Magic Carpet Ride
Thrice- Image of the Invisible
Three Days Grace- Animal I Have Become
Breaking Benjamin- Blow Me Away
System of a Down- Attack
System of a Down- Soldier Side
Green Day- American Idiot
Green Day- Holiday
Drowning Pool- Bodies
From First to Last- The Latest Plague
Anti-Flag- The Press Corpse
Rise Against- Life Less Frightening
Nine Inch Nails- Hand that Feeds
12 Stone- Erics Song
Saliva- Click Click Boom
Linkin Park- Points of Authority (both versions)
Crossfade- No Giving Up
Seether- Remedy
working on Static-X, Metallica, and a couple of others. please, this is a rock soundtrack. no rap pleeze.
She left for a coworker now realizes that she made a mistake and wants to work on relationship again. Divorced now with two kids. I’m willing to start over and forgive but will never forget. Do I have a self esteem issues or something because I’m willing to try??? There will be counceling involved and lots of communication and romance!
I have been watching Robins for a while now, and I entered the second chance at romance giveaway a week and a half ago. I have watched every day after the contest ended, but haven’t seen her draw for the winner. Anyone know when she will draw for the winner?
Would you give love a second chance?
Once bitten twice shy they say. With the supposed demise of romance, more people are shying away from love.
When someone dumps you for someone else – especially after having gone extra miles for them – it wont be easy to gamble with your heart and feelings again. Some people go into depression that makes them lose their friends or their jobs. Some end up loathing members of the opposite sex and taking their anger and frustrations out on them. Some take a break from love and focus on other things.
The fear of having to go through the same heartache, the fear of having your now-delicate heart broken again makes people build those emotional walls. However, not all people who suffer from heartbreak react this way. Some bounce back like nothing happened.
What makes people be afraid to love again? When someone you thought cared about you rejects you, most people go into self pity. They start doubting whether they are even good enough to be loved. But is this even healthy?
People break up for various reasons and I don’t think there is a reason like not good enough for love. Cry if you have to. Get a hobby to take your mind off things. Socialize but not specialize; you need that break to figure things out. Accept that change is inevitable. But NEVER EVER give up on love.
“You just have to gamble if you ever hope to hit the jackpot! There are no two ways about it,” says one chick, Peninah. Her story is; her boyfriend hurt her so much it took her 4 years to heal. And she decided to live by the motto: one man’s meat is another man’s poison. She found love and is now happily married to a man who adores her and their daughter.
When you decide to give love a second chance, it may not be easy coz most people usually have issues of trust. But when you realize that the person you want to be with now isn’t the person who broke your heart, and stop lumping people together, you will be off to a good start.
No matter how devastating a break up was, don’t let a great chance pass you by, by refusing to open yourself to love. Don’t settle for too little when you deserve too much. Get out there…love again! But remember, you must heal first in order to love again.
Are you willing to find love the second time, like it’s spoken about in the Second Chance Romance System?
Should I give love a second chance?
I found your Second Chance Romance Review, and I’m really thinking hard about giving my relationship another try using this system. I’ve been looking around the net and found lots of great comments about it from people who have managed to get back together with their ex…
ThanX!
My husband and I have been married for 18 years and just recently I felt a distance and I confronted him about it, come to find out he says he loves me doesn’t want anything to happen to me kind of love wants to still be in the same house for the kids sake tells me he has felt this way for probably 3 years now but is tired of lying to himself and to me he cries says he doesn’t want to hurt me and that he doesn’t want to feel this way but he don’t know how to get it back he says he crings when I touch him and that the only time he feels close to me is when he is horney and we make love but once were through its back to disgust I have noticed that the nights we make love he wakes me up in the middle of night talking to me being intimate telling me he wants and needs me but then when I talk to him about what he did he doesn’t remember it and were back to the distance again he tells me I need to make him fall in love with me all over again. Can anyone help? Its killing me
everyone has to know the reason I say 3 years it was about that time that I cheated on him which I horribly terribly regret because it was a huge mistake he told me he thinks that that is what this is steming from feeling he was 2nd best he took me back and we went on with our lifes he really is sincere in his words when he tells me he doesn’t want to feel this way he wants to love me he wants to be loved he just don’t know how to get back and he don’t know if it will ever come back he wants me to find myself, be happy, don’t push and maybe it will bring the feeling back
and what I don’t understand is the middle of the night intimacy thing, where is that coming from I mean I swear he truly talks to me likes he is awake. Example: This happened last night he told me how badly he wanted me and needed me and that he didn’t want anyone else to ever feel this. I truly believe there is no one else because it seems this is tearing him apart as well and no he doesn’t want to go to counseling he said how is talking to someone going to make him love me again
and just so everyone knows he says its definately not me as far as the way I look actually I have lost so much weight because of this he tells me he can tell me he loves me act like nothing has happened but he says I’m beautiful but he doesn’t want to get me false hope
I am a separated 30 yo man from the woman I loves more then anything. I have not heard or seen her in quite some time, Can some one help and give me some advice on how I can save my marriage and get communication opened up?
An ex who had previously broken my heart completely (basically ditched me for he ex) has been recently trying to contact me. I saw on Facebook that she recently changed her status to single.
I am in a really good place in my life, in a relationship with somebody i really like, good career and friend-wise, that I initially entertained her contacting me and we basically just talked about our lives. Recently she texted me that she "really needed to talk to me" (we had a purely online/text convos before this, she lives far enough away that I wouldn’t accidentally run into her). I told her she could call me if she really needed to talk and she said "good I really need to hear your voice". I am 90% sure that she will want to get back together or something along those lines, maybe just ‘meet up’. I absolutely do not want this, I still harbor bad feelings towards her, and I haven’t even been telling my gf that I have been talking to her, which makes me feel pretty bad (but I knew my gf would overreact and I thought we would just stop talking after a few weeks of catching up).
Anyway, a part of me wants to be really mean to her. Like sort of rub my happiness in her face and really let her feel how her letting me go was a big mistake and all that and finish it by telling her not to talk to me anymore because I am really happy with my gf and it’s kind of pathetic that she is reaching out to me.
The non-vengeful part of me just wants to tell her that I am really happy right now and it’s disrespectful to my gf to keep talking to her.
Or maybe some middle ground where I rub it in her face a little, but then politely tell her I am with my gf now and don’t want to be unfair to her.
This girl really f*cked me over, and I know revenge isn’t going to solve anything but I can guarantee it will make my pride feel better
I have had a crush on a friend at work for several months.
He asked me out on a date a few months ago, but I said “no”.
I guess I was scared because we’re friends and work together. He doesn’t work with me anymore, I still see him almost every week and we hang out together and I want to date him.
Did I miss my chance? Will he ask me out again?
What should I do?
