Looking at my wife, you would say she is a 10 out of 10. Nearly every guy we pass makes eyes at her, and so on. There is one thing holding her back. She feels her womanly parts are unattractive. She has felt like this her whole life. It makes her so insecure that if someone she feels is good looking is comes across the television for one second she looks at me to see if I am looking. I do not "check out other women." I am much in love with my wife and think she is the most beautiful girl I have ever met. I have told her that her body is very beautiful all over (and I am being honest). It boggles my mind that she does not think so but I know I have no control over how she views herself. I guess I just want to make her feel beautiful. Telling her does not do it, and the ways that I have tried to show her do not seem to work either. She hides it during sex, and has only let me see it twice. She had an incident when she was younger, and I think that plays a large role of her feeling insecure. We have been married almost a year and have been together for three years.

To add fuel to the fire I made a HUGE mistake. She really enjoys sex a lot. Ideally, I think she wants to have it once a day. A few months ago, I tried to make myself be able to last longer at sex by "servicing myself" when I could so that when we had sex I wouldn’t finish so fast. A few times I looked at porn, and randomly one day she asked if I had ever watched porn. I was open and honest and told her a few times and I told her why. I said that if it didn’t make her comfortable I would not do it anymore. She said she didn’t care as long as I’m happy. A few days later I did not delete my internet history and she saw what I was looking at. She did not see what it was, she just saw it was porn and she flipped. She got so mad at me and said she wasn’t enough and was very upset. I said (honestly) it was a rare thing and she said it was ok, and I only did it to last longer. I apologized again and again and she says she forgives me but will never forget it and feels like I almost cheated on her and that I used other women to "get-off". She has lost almost all trust in me because of this. She thinks I am looking at other girls sexually all of the time. She does not want to even bring her friends around because she thinks I will be looking at them. She says I pay more attention to women than I do men when we have guests over. She is convinced all I do is look at their boobs, but this is not true at all. I look and talk to their faces and I looked at their boobs it was not on purpose and I was not checking someone out sexually. It seems like she wants me to only pay attention to the men and only talk to them or focus all my attention on them. Regardless, she feels that I cheated on her and she said that she could easily cheat on me, too. The fact the I looked at another girl to "get-off" was cheating, and she has lost her trust in me.

I am in deep and I feel so bad. Now we have next to no sex and I know its my fault. She says she doesn’t feel comfortable having sex with me anymore now. I screwed up big time and I admit it. And I’m truly sorry about it. I have apologized again and again but her point is that I cheated on her and if she cheated on me I would not trust her or want to forgive her. She bring this up every once in a while and it makes me upset. She says that I need to be a strong person, too. It is like she does not want me to be completely happy because I screwed up but she does not want me to be sad about it. I am at such a loss I do not know what to do. Could I try and talk to her best friend for some advice? Is there anything I can do? I just want to make her happy again.

I asked if we could go to counseling and she is totally 100% against it. There is no compromise here. I think the reason she does not want to go is because she does not want someone telling her what’s wrong with her. I can accept that I am not perfect I would do anything to try and make myself better.

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After 7yrs my girl left me 4 mths ago she said it wasn’t going anywhere I was about to ask her to marry me and move in together and we were already saving for a house now she says she is seeing someone else. I have changed things that she said were things that caused her to leave. I miss her heaps and still want to be with her she said we can’t be friends anymore only "aquiantances". I am giving her space. but I cant stand not seeing her or hearing her voice or talking about how her days was. I want to get back together but she has said it is not possible ever this is the second time in 7yrs we have split the first one was caused by her family. this time she says she wants more and says that I could not give her more. but I have offered everything she asked for and more and she still wont change her decision so how do I get her back????

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When I first got married, my husband was into porn and it really had a bad effect on our sex life. He didn’t want it as often as me, and he was disconnected.

Now that he has stopped, he is so into me and really loves sex with me, and wants it more consistently. The problem is, I’m not as excited anymore, because of the rejection I think during the 1st three years. This is year four. How can I get my excitement back?

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To put this in better perspective, I am 38 weeks pregnant, working, already have a five year old daughter, and I think he may be cheating on me. I am extremely busy but am willing to do anything to make this marriage work. Any suggestions??
I said **might be ** cheating. this is not fact and i dont feel he is so far gone and removed from me that there is nothing i can do. blaghhh to the negative remarks, geez!!
http://tinyurl.com/yhsal3

this is the question i posted earlier. i dearly love him, but there are some odd behaviors that he has been displaying.

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My i broke up with my girlfiend because i felt like she was smothering me. But now, i miss a little, we also have a class together and she sits in front of me. We dont talk alot because her best friend and i fell out majorly. But i find myself wanting to talk to her. what should i say? I need a poem or something. Plz help

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I know it works out sometimes, but usually, the problems you had the first time are forgotten when getting back together, yet resurface after a certain period of time.

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Long story short (well, kind of); I lived at home until I was 23 so my mom and I had more time than most to bond. We are really close and we consider each other our best friend. I moved in with my b/f just 10 miles away in the next town over and was always there to talk to her or visit frequently. My b/f was an immigrant and there was a problem with his visa and he got sent back to his home country just before we were about to get married. I love him with all my heart so I moved to his country to be with him and I couldn’t imagine it any other way because I love him with all of my heart. We got married in his country and I am now living there. This was all early last year. I stayed about 6 months and needed to come back to the U.S. for personal reason and I have been here almost 5 1/2 months but I am leaving in a few weeks to permanently be with him.

The thing is, my mother has been with the same man for 18 years and he treats her horribly. Right after I came back we found out he was seeing another lady and he ended up moving in with her. He’s coming back and forth between the two now playing games with both of them. We live in a very small town and my mother doesn’t have many friends or any hope of finding someone else and truth be told I think she still wants him to come back. One reason is that she can’t financially support herself and my teenage brother that lives with her. She really has no one and I see her devestated that I am leaving although she understands that I have to in order to save my marriage. The man she is seeing (back and forth) is a horrible person and she’s constantly depressed because of his actions and my brother adds to that. He is disrespectful and out of control. He cusses her, calls her names, and really treats her like a piece of crap. I feel so bad leaving here there all alone but I realize I am an adult now and I have to get on with my life.

She’s on disability and has no job to occupy her time. She sits around everyday doing basically nothing and has started to drink more and more.

I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks for reading such a long question!

I wish my mother would come with me. She’s not as open minded as I am about moving to a different country and she’s dead set on having my brother finish school where he is and not having to sell her house, etc.

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Three months ago, my wife and I got married. We were doing just fine. Until she started stripping. I wasn’t ok with it, but she started doing it with a friend. I was never ok with it, but I accepted it because I love my wife more than anything in this world. And it was her decision. But a little over two weeks ago, she had a break down after telling her dad what she was doing. She started blaming me for her stripping because of where I work. I dont make enough money where I work to comfortably support us. Which is why she started stripping. Before we got married, I had promised her I’d get a new job. But I kept putting it off. I had every intention of getting a new job, but I just put it off. And that happened a couple of times. This time, she left. She is staying at a friends house and has been ever since. Ive changed the way I do things. I use to be lazy, but Ive changed that. Im taking resposibility and doing things that I should have done a long time ago. I sold my truck, so 300$ a month goes back into our pockets. Ive been constantly been looking for a job. Got a couple different options coming up. one possibly with the school system. She wont come home because she is afraid I’ll quit searching for a job. And she doesnt trust me when I tell her that I promise to do everything I say im going to do. But after what Ive done, can you blame her? Saturday, she talked to me and said, she wanted an Anullment. But a couple hours later, she tells me that she is going to hold off on the anullement because she loves me. And I know she does. She said dont call or txt her. She’ll call me. She called me after 3 days. Today. She said she was calling to hear my voice and to see how the job search was going. ive been looking for a Fulltime job that pays more than minimum wage for over 2 weeks now. Its hard to find somthing like that. And believe me, ive been looking as hard as I can. I have a few connections and maybe able to get a job with the School System here as a Custodial/Maintanence engineer. I guess you could say, Janitor. Im in college but they are all online classes. Thank god. But i cant convince her to come home and let me show her how much ive changed. And im afraid that if I cant get this job fast, she’ll get tired and leave for good. I love my wife. I know ive made some mistakes in the past. But I am human. And i want to make up for all that. But How can I show her if she isnt home and I cant call her? Any suggestions?

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i fell in love wiyj a nice and beautifull girl. we were going out for a while. almost a year. she is 17 and i am over 18.. not by much. so please dont think bad.. any ways her mother found out about it and stopped it. she cant call me see me or even get on the internet. its like she is in jail.. we have not talked for a few months. she has like 6 more months till she is 18… now i still love her and feel the same. my question will she feel the same… idk. i am going nuts…. i mean was it really wrong for me to fall in love with her. i know at the time her mother stopped it she really loved me. or at least i think so.. idk…. can some onehelp me out a lil

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i’ve asked this question probably like 6 times and still havent gotten an answer.
im a college student
i would like a book that talks about some of these things
-choosing a career
-buying a house
-saving money
-taxes
-marriage
just basically stuff i’ll need to know in the real world

just any book that would help me
not the bible
i love the bible and i read the bible but thats not the book i want
i need things to help me plan for the future
please helpppppppp

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Ok so I have no intentions of waiting around for my ex to comeback to me, cause it probably won’t ever happen. Especially anytime soon.

But if it did happen i would love to retry things if I could see that it was worth it, as we didn’t break up over anything serious.

But my question is what’s the longest you’ve been broken up with a girl/guy with no contact and decided to retry things?

I’m 13 and have been going out with this guy for 7 months. Yesterday he broke up with me. I really want him back. Please help?

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I was just wondering if my revenge to my ex-boyfriend by using him for sex a bad idea? He used me for sex snd my money, so was it fair or right for me to play him?

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How do i know if my ex boyfriend wants to get back with me cause of our baby?
I know him for more than 4 years now. After 2 years of knowing each other, we started going out. We broke up in Feb of 2007 cause his ex girlfriend call him, wanting to get back to him (she left him for another guy when they were going out. They got married and had kids). I guess she found out he was dating and wanted to come back. He told me that he still had some feels for her. I told ok i would wait for him. I got tried of waiting and call him, told him to be happy with her and to be carefully cause if she cheat on him once it would happen again. And said Goodbye. I felt like i was going crazy. After a couple of days, he started to call me to see how i was doing and etc.., we started going out like friend. Months later i ask he how he felt about me, but he would never answer me. So i decided to leave to mexico for a couple of weeks. i gave him the number where i was going to be at. I got a cell phone and sent him a text message. "To make thing short" He ask me to marry him in Dec, of 2007. I came back in Jan. to texas and started to talk about getting married by law and church. 4 weeks later i found out i was pregnant. When i told him he was so happy. Hes voice change(he was talk to me sweeter than before) He would talk to the baby. We also talked with my parents about moving in together and getting marry later on. I had a miscarrage in Feb of 2008. We still moved in together and in oct of 2008 i found out i was pregnant again. He reaction was "go to the room, go to the room" I felt so bad and started to cry. Like an hour in half past when he went to the room and told me him was scared to get excited. We had plan to go to mexico in Dec to see his family but i started to get having problems with the pregnant so my mom decided to put in bed rest so i didnt go with him. When my grandfather died in Jan of 2009, that scared me so much that it made me in danger of having a another miscarrage. So more bedrest. When he got back for mexico in Feb, to me he was wierd and distance. The same day he got here, he left with him brother after taking a shower and didnt come home until 1 in the morning. He made me cry all day. In Apr. my doctor put me in the hospital. 3 weeks later, i had my baby. She was early. I was only 6 1/2 months. She weight 1 pound 14 oz and 13 1/3 inches. After a week in a half, My ex and me got into a big fight. So we broke up, he left the house. I got into a big depression that i lost a lot of weight and started having problems to produce milk for the baby. It all got to me, he felt, i had a c-section, the doctors tell me that the baby when not make it, and it was too much for me. Well after all that (my baby is very healthly, she going on 7 months and she weight close to 15 pounds). Hes told me that he is sorry so many times. He said that he was just in so much stress cause of every thing that was happening and he was trying to stop smoking too. He want to get back together. I love him and i know that he is sorry, but im having trouble with my parents. They dont want me to talk to him at all cause to them he took the short cut out. They tell me that he is trying to get back with me cause of the baby. He has been in touch with me. The first 2 months after the birth of my baby i didnt talk to him. He would call me almost every day to see how i was doing and wanted to know about the baby. He’s is renting a house close by my parents house. But i dont know what to do. How can i tell if he is get back with me cause of the baby. One more thing i was happy that whole year i lived with him. And i know he can makes us happy my heart is screaming it… What do you think? Do you have any advice for me? What can i do for my parents to understand me? That Im thinking about my baby and me? Thank you for help. God bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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The way we did when we first met, it seems the fire has gone out, we are not very intimate at all anymore. We have been married 7 years and have 2 boys. She takes care of the house plus works part time, I work full time and take care of the majority of the bills, but i’m not sure thats enough? Any Ideas to help me fix this would be greatly appreaciated. I’m willing to try anything, I love my wife!:)

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We were together for over a year now. Since the last 3 months she has been coming up with problems everyday. One day she says her family is very rich and things wont work between us, i console her and she is ok. Next day she says her mom and bro are against this relatyionship and dont like me (P.S – they havent even seen and met me although i wanted to meet but she told me not to), then one day she says what if teh society objects to our relationship, i console her again. Next day she says her mom n bro like me but somehow her mom says our marraige wont work in future and again i have to console her. Every morning she breaks up with me and i console her and she comes back to me and within a few hours she breaks up with a new problem . This has been happening for 3 weeks everyday now. Finally she broke off yesterday saying she will never come back.I love her truly and ready to accept her but now I am confused guys if she really loved me or what….

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I live in Japan. My wife and I have always had communication problems. We fight a lot. From my perspective she is either in passive aggressive mode or simply aggressive mode most of the time. The odd thing is while she is hostile and uncompromising to me she has completely different things to say about me and her hopes when she talks about me to her mother.

We both thought we needed a break so we agreed she would take my child and visit her mother for a month. I tried to just not communicate and let things cool off and succeeded for a couple of weeks but when I called and tried to talk to her or my son she kept brushing me off even in the shortest conversations. This blew up into yet another fight over the phone after which she told me she would return to start divorce proceedings. After she came back I tried to let her cool off and made serious efforts to deal with my temper which in her view was the problem. I also tried to engage her in some actual dialog but the only thing she would talk about is divorce.

The thing is I also was in conversation with her mother who insisted that my wife was interested in repairing the marriage and that I could not take what she said at face value. No matter what I tried my wife simply would not engage in any kind of constructive conversation, and would only talk about divorce or separation.

Desperate to do anything to get her to cool off I agreed that she and my boy should go back and spend some more time with her mother. She liked that but said she wanted to go the next day. I did not know how long it would be until I could see my son again so I asked her to give me a couple of days with him so I could say good by and take him to disney land. I thought it was a reasonable request but she said "no". Impasse. The following day, she disappeared with him. After a week and a day she contacted her mother and we now know she has been in a shelter for abused women. I was not abusing her. We were not even raising our voices at each other. It seems she just wanted to deny me, the guy who is buying her plane tickets to be with her mother, a couple of days with our son.

In all our conversations she acknowledges that I am a great dad and I am, I get him up in the morning dress him feed him and take him to the bus stop, I also put him to bed most nights. In action I have been as much a mother to him, especially over the last two or three years than she has. So she keeps saying she wants us to raise our boy together, but her idea of "together" is she takes him to live in another town 500 miles away and I can see him when I can both take time off work and raise the plane fare. Plane fare is not cheap in japan and I am not a rich man, so that is simply a totally dishonest idea or an insane misrepresentation of what is practical.

I am willing to do whatever it takes to save my marriage because I love my boy more than anything in the world and I want him to have a mamma and a papa. I also want to repair the relationship with my wife but simply cannot get her to engage.

I have never felt so hopelessly depressed in my life.

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Okay i got out of a relationship with this guy like last year. Now i have one class with him and he won’t leave me alone! He just doesn’t get the picture that i don’t like him anymore! he’ll be nice and mean to me. Like he’ll say "Oh i’m sorry. i was a big jerk." Then he’ll stab me in the back saying crap to other people saying like "Oh she’s a b*tch that needs to rot in h*ll." Me and my friends are sick of him! I have moved on but he hasn’t! Any advice to shut him up?!

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I feel like he doesn’t need the closeness that I want. I feel like him providing for our family and sex are the only ways he shows me love. I want a partner, trust, communication, and to enjoy each other again! He seems happy (except for when I complain), but I’m not happy at all. He’s hurt me and hidden things from me, but hasn’t cheated. Sometimes I feel like I don’t know him, or that he wants to appear like he’s what I need. Whenever I’m not around (he travels once in a great while for work) he just sits around and plays video games, drinks (only when I’m not around) and watches trashy stupid movies (and sometimes porn).

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my hubby of 18 years has been having an affair with another man, I found out about it and he says it’s over now but he says he does nto love me anymore and does not know if he wants to stay with me. He won’t go for help or will talk to me about it but is talking to a pal who has just split from her partner of 4 years. I can forgive him and still love him but how can I work this through without smothering him? I think he is suffering from depression and he tried to commit suicide last week although I think this was a cry for help but he won’t let me help him and won’t talk about it, how can I save our marriage and our love if he keeps pushing me away? He says he’s felt empty and dead inside for a long time now but never told me, would he have told me if I hadn’t found out? Should I have stayed quiet to see if it died out on its own? I’m heart-broken and feeling sick to the pit of my stomach with worry, can’t talk to anyone else as it would hurt them to see this pain we’re going throug

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