They don’t want me to get back with him. He makes me so happy. How do I convince them?
Archive for November, 2009
My name is Shelby and my parents think that I should start courting soon and i’m very excited. Whomever I choose to court hopefully will go along with my beleifs to save my first kiss till marriage but I was just wondering what everyone else thinks about saving your first kiss. Thank you and God Bless.
Me and my ex are getting back together after being broke up. Help me find something about falling in love again, or songs about another chance.
I have been a Christian for many years. Since I was in Highschool. But for the last few years I have been bitter toward God. I am in a lot of pain and really need the Lords help. But I think he’s not listening to me anymore. Should I just give up and face my troubles alone.
We were married for 25 years and have two minor children. Neither one of us has remarried nor or we dating anyone.
weeks but when we have, she has always been sweet. Could she be stringing me along, I mean, she said as we were saying our goodbyes, "Goodnight, dear’ and "Goodbye, dear". I don’t want to read to much into it, but after a month and 3 days, I am losing hope. I do think she would like to talk, but I have lobbed several balls into her court and I have my pride. Just missing her and holding out hope against hope.
Broke up with the ex boyfriend about a year ago because I was in love with him and "he wasnt there yet". He was in the middle of the police academy which I know was very difficult for him and trying to be in a relationship and going through that is a lot. Throughout the year, we kept finding one another at random events even though he had moved an hour and a half away. We never talked about getting back together but we did hookup a few times, the last being about six months ago and we havent seen/talked to each other since. The other day I get an invite to his graduation party from the academy. And then the other night he showed up to a dinner that our friends had. He kept starting conversations with ME, asking ME questions. He text me and asked me why I was being so quiet and when i said that I didnt realize I had been he stated that he just wanted to make sure that everything was ok(something that caught me off guard) And after I left he text me that it was nice seeing me and that it itll be nice to see me again at his graduation party, it has been too long. His this way of trying to get back into my life? Im so confused about his actions and what his possible intentions might be. Any help trying to understand this situation will be VERY helpful
Me and my husband got married last Saturday, when we were saying our vows I felt butterflies again. And on our honeymoon I felt like we did when we were first going out 4 and a half years ago.
Did you feel this way as well on your wedding day or night?
I been trying to get with her for some time now and she says we cant go back out because shes scared she will get hurt and that things will be the same. I told her that things wont constantly but like my word doesn’t mean anything to her really. Ive changed for her but i cant prove to her that i wont her hurt her if she doesn’t give me the opportunity. So what should I do?
For instance, they say over and over again, like a broken record, they are saved by grace, yet have to keep the law or risk losing salvation. Isn’t this just twisting semantics? Isn’t this really saying they have to keep the law and sabbath in order to be saved? In other words, what happens if they quit keeping the sabbath? They lose salvation; they have to keep the sabbath in order to be saved; a false gospel.
They agree one is "dead to the law" yet still obligated to keep it. This is like saying you are freed from a marriage covenant should your mate die, but somehow you are still obligated to keep that marriage covenant with the dead person!
They claim the law remains inviolate down to jots and tittles, then claim some of the law is not required of them, and those points of law they do keep they alter way beyond jots and tittles.
You hear them say they are proclaiming the "truth" of the sabbath, but never the "truth" about Christ or the gospel.
my wife just left me for not looking after her while she was pregnant, i mean having a baby is kinda important but i don’t really need to look after her do i? and plus when i did give her attention she was always grumpy and when she is grumpy i get grumpy. and then she miscarried the baby and out of the blue she blames me! Now i feel extremely sad now she has left me i am heart broken, she made the best meatballs ever! Im not sure if i will be able to love another woman again. please help
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I caught my husband called and SMS text messages with many women. He regularly met those women in the bars, restaurants. He told me they are female friends. He just like the attention from them. He said there never have sexual relations with those women, only talking, joking or dancing. My husband admitted that the reasons he needs to contact with those women are
(1) midlife crisis (he is over 37 year old)
(2) there is no passion in our marriage life
(3) he felt less challenge at work
(4) he attracts to younger women and likes their attentions. My husband said by contacting many women actuarially reduce the risk to have an affair. He said he does not want to have an affair with anyone. He had an affair two years ago and ended painfully as she became a harassment. I try to give my husband more attentions and work on my appearance and figures. But I am 47 years old and it is very difficult to be slim as a 20s or 30s ladies. (He said his standard is very high and like women have flat belly.) My husband said he attracted to slim women , big boobs ,and he does not sexually attracted to me anymore as he just see me as mother of our daughter and I am over weight in his eyes. (I am 53kg, size M) He said he will not marry any of those women and probably get sick with them in one month as they have some characters he can’t stand . i dont know what it is he thinking but alway is bored with me. I can’t monitor his mobile calls any more as he has put on a new password .He was changed his Mobile Address when i mailing to him during he hear Women Groan in his mobile, he says dont mail to him when he busy listen women they yell.. He admitted he will not stop contacting those women in short term.( they are all in his contact now ) Should I trust him will play this game within the boundary and work on improving our relationship with him(i.e. more time together and give him more attentions) We enjoy together to see movies some time on the weeken , i tried to take him going to some where by car for him hunter his porn stuff . He is not interested in having sex with me but surf around internet long nights instead. He said that it is not proud to surf internet for sexual needs. I hate him make Masturbate alone when i busy at work .and he alway do Mastuebate with those idol in internet … Should I wait until he pass the "mid-life" crisis? I had thought about divorce but I am worry of losing existing financial comfort and the impact . The worst is I still love him as long he did good for me . Some books talk about recandle the love to save marriage. Is there any hope? We have been together for a long way and had so many lovely memory. I really do not want to give it in.
He broke up with me, because we never hang out. He is the one who works every weekend and sometimes during the week. He is in 8th grade I’m in 7th. We text when ever we can. He knows I still like him, he is considering going back out (my brother talked to him cause there good friends). Any advice will help!!!
we broke up because he thought i wasn’t being talkative enough, but i didn’t really want him to know that there were alot of really bad things going on in my life that i didn’t want him to know about…
We haven’t spoken in about 2 months, but since then the things that broke us apart aren’t a problem anymore cus they’re fixed and gone
i want to make a move and get him back, but idk what move i should make
i love him and i want things back to the way they were before my life became a mess.
I had been in love with my boyfriend for more than 6 years. he had also been my childhood pal, and more then love there was this feeling that i cant describe when i was with him.
then one day he died in an accident, and i was the last person he ever spoke to. Its been nearly 4 years now, and i have shed enough tears that it seems i don have any left to cry anymore.
the pain of that memory lingers on and on, and i have tried my best to put this behind me, but i cant, it raises its head in all depressing situations. I have strange feelings of guilt that may be i could have foreseen it somehow and stopped it..
Now everybody wants me to get married but i really dont know if i can ever love again. how can i put this behind me ?
thanks.
My heartfelt THANK YOU for all who have responded.
Just got out of a 17 year relationship. Im seeing someone who is wonderful great with my five kids well i do like him but i just want to know how long would or does it take to fall in love again
My husband’s last relationship ended in 1998, we started dating in 2000 and got married in 2004. Our son was born in 2006.
My husband is an adventurous person, he has a big passion for mountains and the outdoors. I don’t share that passion, but I am ok with him going on climbing, hikes and other adventures. I am a simple person that has a passion for her family, I love my son and husband and love caring for them. My husband also has a passion for his football team, which I’m completely involved in this with him, we go to games together, watch the games on TV, dress in the team’s colors and apparel, etc.
My husband contacted his ex and saw her last July, he said they needed closure and they talked about their past relationship; my husband said he wanted to improve our marriage getting input from his ex about what he has done wrong in their relationship, if he was selfish about doing stuff that he likes to do and not stuff the other person wants to do. She loves trail running and loves the mountains as well, they met again in August to go over some maps and routes they have explored, but they also reminisced about their past experiences who got my husband confused (I read this in an email), he saw her again in September (I never knew he was seeing her at this point, he lied to me).
A few days after their last encounter my husband told me he had been in touch with her and that he needed to tell me because he felt terrible lying to me. He told me that they’re only friends and that they are going to keep that friendship. His ex said that he would not see him if he didn’t tell me that he was going to hang out with her, so he did, only because she asked him. When he told me all of this, I was very confused and felt betrayed because he had lied to me. He said he wanted to see her and go hiking with her and talk about mountains and hang out and also go have a beer from time to time.
I trusted my husband more than any other wife would trust his man (I really trusted him with all my heart), but after this he broke down years of trust, his email has no password on his computer and I usually helped him do business on his email before, so I went and checked his email and didn’t like what I found. There wasn’t really anything that talked about sex, but the way they wrote to each other really made me feel uncomfortable. He mentioned in one of this emails that his heart had been rattled. I told him I saw those emails and offered to set him free so he could be friends with anybody he wanted. I told him I wasn’t going to ask him to drop his friendship, because I am not the person that would do that, but that I would divorce him so he can follow his heart and passion for his mountains with her. He got mad at he and after days and weeks of talking he told me he wasn’t going to talk to her or see her again, which seems true at this point.
I emailed his ex and told her that I didn’t feel comfortable with their friendship, because it had the big potential of becoming an affair if they spend a lot of time together and that could damage our marriage forever, I read something online about Emotional Affairs and it seems that this is exactly what happened between them, but I believe they never slept together while they saw each other these 3 times.
My husband and I seem ok now, we’ve gone through some health issues at this point and haven’t talked about this issue for a couple of weeks, but we did almost every day for a month.
I want to improve our marriage, but I can’t go mountain climbing because it isn’t my thing. We used to enjoy white water rafting before, but since we flipped twice on a trip, I really got scared and he keeps telling me that he misses our trips together, but I often have nightmares about flipping and wake up very scared. Things changed a lot after we had our son, I used to work at home with him (he works from home) but with the economy problems I have working out of the house for 1 ½ years, I work 40 hours a week, have a lot of chores and responsibilities and he says that I don’t have enough time for him sometimes, that I don’t pay attention to his needs. I personally think he is selfish about this, because he gets to enjoy many outdoor things while I stay home taking care of our son and cleaning the house during the weekend while he is out having fun.
Please I need everybody’s opinion and advise on this.
Here’s the story:
Basically my ex boyfriend and ex best friend (both of which I have slept with- both male) are currently getting together, talking shit about me, and basically I’m sick of taking shit. I’ve put up with it for about 7 months now, and am sick of being walked all over.
Anyone have any ideas for revenge?
Dont care how daft, I’ll consider anything.
Except VIOLENCE. =)
How am i being walked all over?
Maybe that was a wrong expression.
But i think telling everyone that I know bad things about me, and I mean EVERYONE, barr my family thank god, is pretty bad.
And for the record about the legs opening comment, how do you know that he isnt my ex best friend because he didnt force me into it eh? and then lied about it so that i looked worse??
You people dont realise what I’ve dealt with over the past god knows how many months.
abusive phone calls
being stalked
abusive text messages
abusive insults thrown at me in public
personal comments made about me
abusive comments made by my boyfriend (current)
graffiti in subways
comments told to me about others
Im just trying to exist and ive been so low sometimes its seemed almost impossible.
The ex best friend in particular will just not let things go, he continues and continues to contact me, even though ive told him not to!!
And your telling me to grow up? and that its nothing?
thats supposed to say abusive comments made ABOUT my current boyfriend
and comments about me told to others =S
Sorry my mind is everywhere this evening =[
Its been 8 months since we had sex. I’ve tried everyting, wooing her, flowers, going out on dates, compliments. I’m not bad looking and have had a few offers from other women but turned them down. I really love my wife. Any ideas?
i need to kno how to get her thinkin about me, how to get into her mind thinkin about me, missing me.
He wants to stay friends. I said no.
But now i am worried – will being friends help us get back together?
I met my ex after more than 30 years of no communication and we soon realized we’re still in love with each other. He wants us to be together again. Will I leave my husband for him?
Thanks for all those who responded. Just to clarify on things, I caught my husband cheating on me several years ago. He promised to change and pleaded for me to stick it out with him. I stuck it out with him for the sake of our child but honestly, I feelings for him have totally changed since then. This was not the first time I caught him. He did it to me even during the time we were still dating. On the part of my ex, i was the one who broke off with him because of some false information i gathered from some sources about him. I only got to learn the truth when we saw each other last year. In all honesty, even when I broke off with him, i still do love him. I guess the saying that "first love never dies" is true.
Were you really able to keep it in your pants until your wedding night?…If so was it everything you expected it to be? Are you still married to that person? If divorced or widowed how has your lifestyle changed, are you celibate, remarried, let loose, what? If remarried did you have sex with that person before you married them?
He cheated on me with the same woman for a long time. We broke up and nearly divorced. He begged and begged for me to take him back constantly, so I finally gave in.
I just found out he has been contacting her again. He says she wont talk to him, except to yell at him. (He could just be lying some more)
So, I dont want to divorce him, because of some issues right now. What do I do to stop him from cheating. We have always had a really great sex life, (2-3 times daily everyday, in many many differerant ways) I have gained some weight, because I just had a baby, but that is coming off now.
I am trying very hard, but it seems hopeless. Are there any progrmas or books we can look into to save our marriage?
I know it sounds pathetic, but this is my life and he is my husband. I would like to give it one last try before giving up for good.
Thanks
