ME AND MY MAN BROKE UP AND I WANT HIM BACK WHAT GOOD SLOW LOVE SONGS WILL GET HIM BACK AND LET HIM KNOW I LOVE HIM
not for him to love me just to know im sorry for not always being the best girlfriend
Archive for February, 2010
just asking…
I am a cancer and i dated a virgo man for a year and a half. He was amazing, he wrote love pomes for me and i loved it. he would do anything in his power the make me happy. yet he broke up with me after a year and a half saying he needed to be single right now. i don’t get it :S how do i get him back or how do i make him jealous?
I am 14 and I have more to the story I just want to know what people think of the beginning.
Chapter One
Magic is anything but simple
Winter was approaching rapidly that year. It was only November and yet the air was dry. Will walked briskly up the path to his home, the leaves piled on the sides. Once he got inside he began to ply away the many layers of clothing that covered him.
“Will, is that you?” His mother called from the kitchen.
“Yes,” called Will. He walked into the small kitchen and instantly a thousand smells entered his nostrils. A woman with long, curly red hair turned around and Will saw the face of his mother.“I was getting worried about you,” She said with a smile. “You said you’d be home earlier than this.”
“Jamane came in to buy food for the castle,” said Will exasperated. “She always takes forever.”
“Jamane, huh,” said Will’s mother with the smallest of a smirk on her face. “I always thought she was pretty, don’t you.”
“She’s okay looking,” admitted Will. “But she’s so pompous and stubborn and she’s…and she’s…and she’s JAMANE!”
“Okay, Okay, there’s no need to get all worked up. I was only making a statement.” Will’s mother set a plate of cookies onto the small wooden table.
“Sorry,” said Will taking a bite of one of the cookies. “Was there a reason why you wanted me to come home early?”
“Yes, Aron came over and told me that you need to see him later today.”
“Did he give a reason?”
“No, but why would he tell me secret information that a sixteen year-old can have?” she said sarcastically, “Just because I’m not a man doesn’t mean that I should be kept in the dark. I mean I was the ‘man’ in your life when your father, when your father died.”
Will sighed; his mother had been going on like this since his birthday. “I’m going to see what Aron wanted,” he said getting up from the small wooden table.
“Behave yourself and don’t anger that insane skattle of his.”
“Don’t worry. Benewen and I get along much better now.” Will smiled and looked at the scar on his arm that Benewen had given him when he was two. In the shape of a W Will was somewhat proud that the only scar he had reflected his name.
Will walked into town and up to Aron’s cottage. He knocked on the door, but there was no answer. “Good, you’re here,” said a grizzly voice behind him. Will turned around to see an old man with short grey hair, electric-blue eyes, and a little fox-like creature weaving around his feet.
“Hello Aron. Hello Benewen.”
“The W begins his name, but someday it will be his fame,” came the sing-song voice of the skattle.
“Okay then,” said Will, he had never gotten use to the way the skattle spoke.
“Riddles are hard to make, but mine are certainly not fake. It is not fun to rhyme, especially all of the time.”
“Never mind him,” said Aron. He unlocked the door and they stepped inside. The floor was strewn with books and old newspapers. There were two armchairs by the fireplace and a small kitchen in the corner, along with two doors on opposite walls. Aron lit the fire and put a kettle on the wood-burning-stove.
“Sit down, sit down,” said Aron waving his hand at the two arm chairs. Will cleared the chairs of newspaper and sat down.
“Mom told me that you needed to see me.”
“Yes,” said Aron giving Will a hot mug of tea. “Your magic test is scheduled for December and I wanted to make sure you knew what you were doing.”
“I have no idea what I’m going to do, but isn’t the test to see if I can do magic?”
“Yes it is but you have to know what you’re going to attempt to do.”
“Well, what’s simple?”
“Magic is anything but simple,” stated Aron, magic was always such a touchy subject with him. “You have to know the Kragle language thoroughly to be able to make anything happen. You have to know exactly what you want to do. You have to have brains Will!”
“Okay, Okay,” said Will. This was why he didn’t like Aron very much; he always got worked up about a lot of things, especially magic. “Well then I guess I want to…um…I guess I want to…um what do you suggest?”
“For you, I would suggest a decision making charm.”
“Okay, how do I do that?” asked Will, partly laughing.
Aron laughed. “That one is one of the harder charms. Seriously though, I think that you should try to levitate something.”
“Okay what’s the word for it?”
“Levitainta,” said Aron. “But make sure you concentrate and point your finger at the object, like this,” Aron pointed his index-finger at Benewen and flicked it while saying “Levitainta Benewen.” The skattle began to levitate and was hissing and scratching at the air. Will laughed and Aron let Benewen come down.
“Because he’s master he can do what he pleases but he won’t like it when he gets the sneezes.” Aron smiled at Will and winked.
“Can I try?” asked Will
“Try you may but not on Benewen I say.”
“I think that answers your question,” said Aron with a chuckle. “Try it on that book over there. Say novena”
“Levitainta novena,” said Will flicking his finger. The book hovered in the air for a brief moment and collapsed.
“That’s great!” said Aron astonished and Will thought he detected the tiniest amount of pride in his voice.
“But it fell right away,” said Will confused and a little disappointed.
“But it rose,” said Aron. “It rose because you can do magic. You’ve passed the test and you haven’t even taken it yet!”
“I have!? Can you teach me more so that I can ace the test?”
“Work on lifting objects for now and maybe I’ll teach you a little more.”
“Thanks,” said Will and he set his mug down, got up and began to walk to the door.
“Tell your mother I said ‘Hi’,” called Aron.
“I will,” said Will and with that he exited the cottage.
Chapter two
Jamane
Will walked home, his mind full of thoughts. Only one child born a year was allowed to use magic when they turned sixteen. Magic users were limited because they had more power than the King! And if Will trained really hard, he may be that one! Imagine him, a lowly shop helper, a wizard! And Aron seemed pleased. Aron, who always seemed so old and angry, yet was treated with the utmost respect, thought he could do it! If it came down to two people, Aron would choose Will to teach!
Will rushed home, gave his mother Aron’s greeting, and went to his room. His room was nothing special. There was a small bed pushed against the wall, a desk, and a dresser with a picture on it. Will walked over to the dresser and looked at the picture. It was a sketch of a man with straight, dark-brown hair, like Will’s, and electric-blue eyes, Will’s eyes.
“I’m going to make you proud dad,” Will whispered. Will was only a few months old when his father died. King Moragon needed men to fight and chose Will’s dad. Three weeks later, Will’s mother had gotten a letter saying that Will’s father had gone missing. Years passed and there was no word of his father. Eventually he was declared dead.
In that time, Aron had moved into town and Benewen had givven Will his scar when he had pulled on the skattle’s tail. For some reason, this memory always made Will smile. Maybe it was because he was now fond of the skattle or maybe it was simply because he liked the shape, the scar had taken.
Will picked a rock off the floor and sat on his bed. Not knowing the word for rock he hesitantly decided to use the normal language. “Levitainta rock,” he said, flicking his finger at the rock. The rock rose a little higher than the book had and fell a little later, and he didn’t need the Kragle language! Will tried over and over again until he could lift the rock a foot in the air for a minute. He was going to be the new wizard! There was no way anyone could beat him now, unless everyone else was practicing too. Will hadn’t thought about that before. It would be cheating for Aron to only give him help. He must be giving everyone else help too. Especially the King’s son, Morganarth. Yes, thought Will. Morganarth would most definitely be given help. But maybe he wouldn’t practice. He was, after all, as arrogant as Jamane, if not more. He would think himself to important to practice. Possibly every sixteen year-old boy would think themselves to important to practice. For they were not as poor and lowly as Will. They all had fathers who lived with them.
Will looked out his window and saw the moon was high in the sky. He crawled into bed and instantly fell asleep.
Will’s dreams were filled with wizards, skattles, and Morganarth. He woke up feeling less confident and lifted the stone in the air just to make sure he really could do it.
He walked into the kitchen and ate the oatmeal that was for breakfast. “Are you going to work today?” His mother asked.
“I have to,” said Will.
“Can you give these quilts to Mrs. Kindle?”
“Sure,” said Will taking the blankets from his mother’s hands. “I better get going then,” He said and left the house. He got into town and walked into the grocery store. “Hello Mr. Kindle,” said Will cheerfully. “Mom told me to give these to your wife.”
“Ah yes,” said the store owner. “Lillian told me to give you this.” He handed a small pouch of money to Will. “Mr. Fisher also sold me quite a few fish today and I need you to stock them in the ice patches.”
“Okay,” said Will. He put his apron on and made his way through the crowded shop to the frozen meat section. He began to place the fish into boxes of ice, when a tanned girl of about fifteen came into the store.
“Hello Jamane,” came the voice of Mr. Kindle.
“Hello,” said Jamane. She looked around the shop and spotted Will. She smiled at him and he half-heartedly returned it.
“What can I do you for?” asked the shop owner.
“I need to buy some fish for King Moragon’s supper.”
“Lucky for you, we just got some fish in today. Why don’t you help her Will?”
“What- oh okay,” said Will not looking forward to this at all. Jamane walked over to him, her long, straight, black hair flowing behind her. “What kind do you want?”
“What would you recommend?” she asked, still smiling.
“This one’s a large one, fresh and looks good,” said Will trying to get her out of the store as fast as he could. But instead of her getting up to leave, she bent down and reached across his arm to examine the fish herself. As if she knew more about fish than him.
“It looks very good,” she agreed looking a little disappointed.
“I’ll wrap it up for you.” Will walked over to the counter and began to place paper around the fish. He truly didn’t like the King’s slave.
In the same war that Will’s father had died in, Jamane had been taken hostage from her country, Shiqueta and had never even been looked for. She was placed in the King’s service and was a kitchen maid. She was also betrothed to the King’s son, Morganarth.
Jamane walked over to the counter. “So when do you test?” she asked.
“December,” grunted Will.
“Morganarth is testing too.”
“Has he shown any sign of magic?” he asked trying not to get his hopes up.
“Nothing, Aron’s been working on it with him but nothing has happened yet.”
“What’s he suppose to do?” asked Will intrigued against his will.
“He’s suppose to lift an object.”
“Hmmm. Well there you go,” said Will handing her the package.
“Thanks,” said Jamane. “I’ll see you around then Will.”
“Yea probably, bye.” Jamane gave Will a strange look, almost a longing one and then turned around and walked out of the store.
Morganarth and her would be the perfect couple, he thought. Both arrogant, stubborn, and, (as much as Will hated to admit it, even to himself) Jamane was exceptionally beautiful.
Chapter three
A life not worth living
Will didn’t go directly home after work. Instead he went to Aron’s cottage. He knocked on the door, and Aron allowed him inside.
“What do you want boy?” asked the old man.
“I wanted to know,” replied Will cautiously. “When you use magic, do you absolutely have to say what you want to do in the Kragle language? Or can you say it in our language?”
“Most people have to say it in the Kragle language, but there are a few people who are powerful enough that they can use ours. Why?”
“I was just wondering incase I get put into a situation where I need to use magic, but I don’t know the word for it.”
“You’re getting ahead of yourself there,” said Aron. “You have to pass the test first. But yes there are a few people who can use magic without the Kragle language, but those people have to be very careful not to do magic when they don’t intend to. And I must warn you Will, it’s not just words that control magic, its feelings too. If you feel very strongly, you can do something that you don’t intend to.”
“Can you use magic with out the Kragle language?” asked Will not listening to what Aron just said.
“Yes, I am one of those few,” replied Aron. He flicked his finger at a book. “Levitate book,” he said and the book rose high in the air.
“As long as it’s not Benewen lifted, master may show that he is gifted,” came Benewen’s voice as he walked in from the other room.
“You’re welcome, Benewen,” said Aron smiling and Will laughed. “So have you been practicing?”
“Yes,” said Will as though he had been a naughty child caught in the act.
“I thought you would be,” said Aron laughing and Will looked up. He wasn’t acting as though he was angry. “Show me what you got.”
Will looked at the book Aron had just lifted. “Levitainta novena.” He didn’t want to show that he could do it with the normal language. The book rose high in the air and stayed there for about a minute.
“Excellent!” cried Aron when the book came down. “You have been practicing!”
“I can do something else too,” said Will deciding on the spot to show Aron. “Levitate book,” and the book rose again. Aron looked stunned.
“You’re sixteen right?”
“Yes,” said Will nervously. Now he was wondering whether or not this was a good idea.
“Most adult wizards can’t do this! For your test though, stick to the Kragle language. And don’t tell anyone that you can do this! If word gets to the King, you will never be allowed out of the castle.”
“Secret, secret, secret make your mouth shut and keep it,” said Benewen as he jumped up onto Aron’s lap.
“Okay,” said Will nervously. “I won’t tell anyone anything.”
“You better get home now,” said Aron. Will got up, scratched Benewen’s ear, and walked out of the cottage.
Will was worried now. At the time, he thought that showing Aron what he could do was a good idea. Now he wasn’t so sure. Would Aron tell the King? Surely he wouldn’t. He had told Will not to so why would he? But what if he was forced to said a voice at the back of his mind.
If the King found out, Will would become a slave. He would be forced to do the King’s bidding. He would have to fight in any wars. He would have to die to save the soldiers. If he was discovered to have more power than the King, he would be like Aron.
Aron came to Arainia two years after Will was born. No one knew anything of his past. He was subjected to take the magic test and passed. The King became extremely worried, for no one had ever been able to perform magic before. The King made Aron move into the capitol, Juna, and become his slave. Aron wasn’t able to do much, for he was under the constant threat of death. All he could do was train any new wizards should they ever appear.
Will knew that he had to be careful now or else lead a life that was not worth living.
Thank you to everyone who reads this and I really do value your opinion so please comment so that I can make this better.
The plot that I have right now has many twists and turns but I’m positive that it will only be enough to fill a 200-300 page book if this all works out right, if that.
okay so here’s the story I dated this girl for about fifteen months and I loved her and she loved me we were only seventeen, we planned to get married after we graduated and before I shipped of to the Army. we had the perfect relationship nothing between us felt comfortable talking to each other about anything and everything I never lied to her and if I did I told her the next day and apologizes and asked for her forgiveness even after she said it was okay. any way last summer when we finished our sophomore year about half way threw the summer I promised her I would stop drinking so hard and quit smoking and cut back on chew. well I don’t know how it started but my friends needed a case of beer and some cigarettes so I bought it for them the next day I went to pick her up I saw her walking down the street and parked next to her I said "hey you ready to go?" she walked in her house and came out almost crying and said "I can’t be with you any more and put my dog tags on my passenger seat I just drove back to my uncle’s [were I was living at the time] I kind of fell into a depression and constantly drank and smoked heavily just sitting on the couch I later found out my friend who I bought the beer and cigarettes for blocked his number and text-ed her saying he saw me buy a case and was at a party at my uncles were I got really smashed and was getting rowdy trying to fight people. when I found this out I called him told him to come over it was just me, him and best friend the first thing I asked was did you text my girl and tell her that he immediately said "yea I had too you just seemed to p*ssy whipped" as soon as he said I jumped up kicked down the coffee table and began punching him and and he fought back and we spilled out on the street my best friend and gran pop broke us up and he said "bros before hos" then it started all over again by the end we were both pretty bloody and banged up I never talked to him after that. I just felt a void and began seeing a girl who I met threw my uncles crack head girl friend after about two days of knowing her we began dating I would always drop her off in bad neighborhoods and give her money and drive her to her house about 20 miles away. it wasn’t a serious relationship i just wanted to fell loved. finally the night came when she was high and kept yelling at me so we walked to my house and i was so angry I got my revolver tucked it my waist and took my mom’s car keys she was constantly yelling and I was driving around trying to find gas money finally I had enough and was going home to tell my parents what happened when I drove by the were out front and yelled for me to stop I just had enough and drove down the road and parked and said I’ll be back I had to get away I walked to the old school and sat out front for about five hours and watched the sun rise and calmed down. I came home the back way threw the woods and my mom was upset and said my dad and herself drove around the whole night looking for me the messed up part she called the cops and reported her car missing long story short I got 1 week in a youth detention center and all I could think about was my ex and how it all went wrong I just kept to myself the whole time and got my head on straight and realized what was right and broke up with that ***** that caused me to get in lock up. it’s been about a year and I always think about this girl when I see mutual friends the first thing I ask is how is she doing. they say she asks about me all the time and they can tell she still cares about me. about a month ago I sent her a long letter because I felt if I called her I would cry and ask her to take me back asking how are you, are you still in school, told her I was how I drooped out in october and caught her up with me. she sent a me a letter back saying she doing fine how she knows how I’ve been, and she kind of hinted around that wished we were still together. her friends told me she hasn’t been with anybody since we broke up. It would mean the world to em if she took me back. I understand that if we get back together things won’t be how they were right away i just wan’t to know do you think in it’s possible she would take me back?
Most of us have exes, and the relation to the most recent one can often be like an open wound. It has helped me a lot to think about reasons not to want him back. What are your reasons? Get it out here and you will feel so much better!!
Most common questions:
Does he/she like me?
The simplest way to find out is to get communicative enough with the person so you can ask, "I like you, do you like me?" or "Do you want to go out sometime?" Don’t waste your time trying to read signs. You can waste the entirety of your teen or adult years because of fear of rejection. Everyone, Prince William and Angelina Jolie included, I guarantee you, have been rejected before. It is part of life, you will experience it too. But fear of rejection will make you miss all the joys of love, affection, lust, and sex. Overcome fear and find out!
Or – if he/she has shown no signs of interest, just move on now.
Should I leave him/her?
Most likely, if you have to ask, yes. Talk to the person, give it a schoolboy try to fix it, but if it won’t, and you two can’t be open to each other, then end it. Don’t drag things out.
This answers about 90% of questions in this section. I hope it is not too harsh, a lot of it is "move on." But moving on is key, remember how great you are, and anyone who treats you like that is missing out. Confidence! Cheers
We went out but he hasn’t called me in….what is happening?
Possibilities:
1. He is a player. He has other girls on his roster and doesn’t like you as much as you want him to.
2. He didn’t like you very much in the first place. Or something happened which made him like you less.
3. He met someone else/got together with an ex-girlfriend.
4. He died/is in the hospital/lost your phone number/is in a place with no phones. Unlikely, but possible.
5. He is actually that shy.
6. You slept with him too quickly. Unfortunate but real double standard.
BUT, there is only one way to find out. Call him. Don’t be afraid to seem needy or desperate. It is time for female kind as a whole to stop running through things over and over in their head and man up, and ask. If you can’t reach him for three days, he is a coward, but something happened. You move on. Don’t worry about it. You are hot stuff and he is missing out, not you. If he answers, you will get an answer, even if it is implicit.
My friends say I’m nice, funny, attractive, and intelligent, but I can’t find a boyfriend/girlfriend. What am I doing wrong?
The most likely is that you don’t socialize enough. Get out there. Play the field. Stop expecting your romances to start in a certain way or a certain place or with a certain type of person. Open up to possibilities.
Everyone likes hard to get. Not as in hard to get to go out with me, if you want to go out with someone, go. I mean in the sense that you maintain some mystery about yourself. Try playing games a little. Don’t be emotionally or physically slutty.
Have good manners, be the best person you can be, groom yourself, and go out expecting to meet someone. Don’t be shy. I go back to the "everyone gets rejected" mantra.
We’re close friends, but I am starting to like him/her. What should I do?
Make it known. If you are close, if he or she isn’t interested, this will be another hump you can get over in the friendship. If he/she is, then you have what you want!
I can’t get over him/her…what should I do?
Yes, you can. You need to go out with other people, have a wide selection so your focus isn’t so strong. Remove physical reminders of him/her, such as clothes, gifts, etc. Really know IT IS OVER. Don’t think it is over but…maybe? No. It’s over. Move on. You are better than that. There is no need to subject yourself to the pain of unrequited love.
What does a girl look for in a guy? What does a guy look for in a girl?
Everyone has their own proclivities as far as what they like in the opposite sex. For instance, I like dating men who don’t talk much, and when they do, they have something to say. That’s just me.
Overall, for girls: Attractive, nice, easygoing, dresses well, good manners, not a gold digger, not ultra needy, faithful, classy, funny, outgoing, considerate, passionate, good in bed, cheerful, no overuse of drugs.
Overall for boys: Attractive, kind, charming, funny, financially stable, dresses well, good manners, faithful, confident, outgoing, interesting, passionate, good in bed, no overuse of drugs.
Answer to why did you do this? For some reason, I got really addicted to answering people’s questions on this website, and noticed on the singles and dating section it is basically the same questions over and over. It started to annoy me so I just decided to give a blanket answer rather than type it out over and over again. And a basic urge to help people not go through the same sh*t I went through.
I and husband married 15 years, we always love each other, and desire each other, more often he desires me more, and he never rejected me even when he is tired. Two month ago I found out he had an affair, sexually with his female staff, he is the boss. Then I calmly let him know about this and want him stop. I can feel he always loves me even when he had a affair and desire me. We had a cold period after that, but things passed, we talk again, we make love again, but the love changed. He started not desire me during the week, when I desire him, he sometimes reject me, he doesn’t have the passion as I do. I made everything I can to provoke him, make myself sexy, new hair, new sexy outfit, new sex toys, go out alone. Even he rejected the idea we went out alone for a weekend. What is wrong? Am I pushing to hard? Is it possible after I let him know that I know his affair he still want to punish me? Though he hold me and hug me, but push away my hand from his Private part which before he enjoys it. I need a man’s opinion for my problem.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over 4 months. We have been best friends for almost 5 years. We have decided to get married, but he isn’t gonna propose "officially" until New Year’s Eve. (my fav. holiday) In the past month, he has started talking to two of his exes. He says he is trying to salvage their friendships. I wouldn’t be upset if it were any of his other exes, but these two are the ones he has had sex with. We haven’t had sex yet and I don’t plan on it until we are married. Do you think I make him want to be back with them.
We have talked about it and I have explained to him exactly how I feel. He says he still cares about them, but he loves me more than anything or anyone and would never try to hurt me like that. What he does’t get is he is hurting me by making me feel like I’m not enough.
What do you think?
My husband and I have been married for 7 months and about 3 months ago he left, over some jealousy issues and his family was encouraging the leave. I was helping my sister with the youth group at our church and some of the kids started texting me. The one that the problem was over was a 17 year old male. He said ‘love you’ a couple times, but in my church we say that. I’m not justifying it because it was wrong, but nothing to leave over. We were together for 5 years, before we got married. My husband left that day (in August). Right after the leave, he told me he wanted to work things out and get counseling. Then about two weeks later, he filed for divorce. He changed his phone number so for about a month, I couldn’t call him only email, but he would never respond. I called a couple times to his parent’s house for him and his father said "stop calling here, WE got rid of you"! By the way, since 8th grade and dated, his parents never liked me, and didn’t approve of us dating. Didn’t even approve of us getting married.
In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don’t love you anymore. I don’t miss you. We’re going through a divorce.
In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he’s contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him “Do you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won’t come when I ask.
He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn’t service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.
In December, it’s gotten better. We’re talking more, he’s coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won’t answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he’s not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?
Let me know if you have any questions about any detail?
Additional Details
Also, he made a facebook when he left and won’t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying "If you don’t want to talk to me anymore just tell me"!!
No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.
His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn’t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.
Yes, but I’m trying to get some more input
My cousin is crazy in love with her ex boyfriend who broke up with her– so she wants to know how to get him to want her back.
Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps 
Thank you
P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need? I just dont want to act like im overdooing anything.
P.P.S- She comes home today, what should i do about that, like do i wait till she approaches me (i think i should do that) but are there any other suggestions please 
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When I moved out of my boyfriends’s house a couple of months ago my son started acting funny about going to sleep in his own crib, we’ve both been sick and so to make it easier I just keep putting him to sleep in my bed. Now what do I do to break him of that? I NEED my space back fast!!!
Married 20 years. Two teenage children.
Difficult relationship/marriage from the very start. Basically is really seems we are not a good match at all. Many instances of horrible fights (some witnessed by the kids) including her getting physical toward me. She has attacked me physically numerous times over the years, some scars still remain. It has been a while since the last time. Maybe a year. She had an affair on me 10 years ago and we were separated for one year. During which she lived with this man. After I did my begging to save marriage and she refused, I re-connected with a high school sweetheart whom I feel is the love of my life to this very day. My wife finally came back and asked to work things out. I decided to try only because the kids were so young then. I broke that girl heart whom I was seeing.
The time since then has been the same with us as a couple. Some good times but so much discord. She has asked me many times to leave. She has multiple times told me she hates me. We are not good together.
Fast Forward: We are separated again. We are in different states now. This all due to her getting into legal trouble with the law. She is currently awaiting her fate with the courts. I have discovered she has been again talking to her lover from the affair 10 years ago. I have been alone, raising our two kids through all this. She cannot get a job because of her problems. In a nutshell, she has ruined our lives. I also blame her for health problems my father developed from all the stress of this.
I no longer love this woman. I took much time to gather all my thoughts and told her I want a Divorce. I have also told my children. I do not want to go back after all that has happened. And going back will have so many problems financially and she will have fines and penalties. We will have to claim BK. All because of her foolish actions against the law. And getting caught!!
Before I told her and the kids, I was resolute!! I have the support of my family. It’s sad, it’s not what I wanted for my life. But now she is throwing all the emotional cards at me. Begging, pleading, telling me she will change. Telling me I an ruining the kids lives. I am throwing away 20 years and things will get better. And she will get help with her anger issues etc etc etc…. Crying and Begging.
I was so sure of myself. And I think deep down I still am. But all her words have stalled my momentum. And because I do feel sorry for her, I let her continue to plead her case.
I don’t think there is any way the marriage is viable. But I am stalled at finally shutting her down and starting my life over. Why?
I love my kids. I am here for them. But I just can’t make the same decision twice based solely on them. They by the way are not happy with my decision….. But they don’t know all of what I’ve told above either….
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1. I had the magical ability to go anywhere in the world by flushing myself down a toilet & traveling through the plumbing system at light speed. I just had to concentrate on the address & repeat it along with the word "travel" over & over whilst standing in front of any toilet, & soon enough I was able to just dive in like you would off of a diving board & go right down the drain. (cont…)
2. I’m in the shower, & there’s a 15ft stripper pole going from floor to ceiling right in the middle of it. The soap is on a shelf 12ft up so I have to climb to reach it. It’s wet, slippery & very difficult, so I keep shimmying up and sliding down. Making no progress, but I start to get sexually aroused b/c I’ve got my legs wrapped around it, and you know…I won’t be graphic but it gets a bit erotic/noisy & then suddenly there’s someone looking through the glass shower door at me going "wtf are you doing?" and I’m mortified. Felt like a kid caught at something naughty by a parent. (cont…)
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1. Early on things went smooth & I was alone, but the second part of the dream was different. I found myself in a public bathroom w/ 2 other women who had the same power as me, & we were in a frantic rush to get into the toilets & go somewhere, as if we were being chased by something & needed to escape. I had problems trying to stuff my backpack down the drain ahead of me (which I hadn’t done before), & I couldn’t concentrate enough so the "spell" wasn’t working & I felt afraid. I do remember repeating the address though, and it was full of sixes. The #6 was very distinct in my mind.
2. The person was unknown to me but I got the feeling she had been woken by my ruckus & was annoyed. It’s not important who it was – roommate, houseguest, etc. Point is the shock it gave me & the shame/embarrassment it made me feel afterwards were quite palpable.
That’s all I remember, but I feel like the two dreams are connected b/c of the common bathroom setting maybe. Any ideas?
Would it ruin your chances of getting back together, or would it make you jealous and make you want her back? The guy who’s reaction I wanna see, his friend told me that he’d do ANYTHING to get a girl he likes.
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okay basically i wanna retype my whole story i posted earlier, but eh.. here it is in a nutshell:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah1VqVOEwA7ScfLHuScEY8Psy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090825134253AAYvd01
basically if you read that, then come back here, you’ll understand the story..
i begged for my ex back about 3 weeks ago, we hung out, i bought her a dress, bra, flowers cookies, card, everything, dinner and groceries, she is 17 im 19 keep in mind. i was the sweeetest guy to her, but she then changed her number and told me to move on after she led me on.
now she is tellin me to move on, she already has a new bf THIS SOON after our breakup. it hurts bad. but she gets mad when i mention me being with another girl, i asked her to help me out and she said "umm well i dont wanna see you get hurt so no"
are there any girls who regret not taking their ex back after he begged, and now he is giving the world to another girl and your sad you let him slip away?
I have been assembling a deck for a while now and I have won matches with it but it lacks any theme or focus. I feel it is too much a jack of all trades and just not a master of any. I could use some suggestions on cards. Here is what I have.
Lands:
9x Mountain
6x Island
1x Izzet Boilworks
Creatures:
1x Covert Operative
1x Gelectrode
1x Izzet Chronarch
1x Platinum Angel
2x Akroma, Angel of Fury
1x Aven Fateshaper
2x Tidewater Minion
1x Llawan, Cephalid Empress
Instants:
1x Pyromatics
1x Frazzle
1x Convolute
1x Peel From Reality
4x Lightning Blast
Sorceries:
2x Mind Spring
1x Banefire
4x Illuminate
3x Ghitu Fire
1x Wash Out
1x Vacuumelt
Enchantments:
2x Freed From The Real
1x Aboshan’s Desire
1x Confiscate
1x Insolence
As you can see I have alot of cards and not many repeats. I can never make up my mind of what to drop and what to buy more of. I only have a few real combos built in to the deck as well. I just took out 8 cards from my deck earlier so I have 8 additional slots to fill as well as organizing my deck better. Can you help?
(We started going out on April 15th, 2007)
Matt & I went out for 1 year 4 months & 14 days and we were perfect together. We loved each other more than anyone else could possibly imagine. Everyone said we were just so perfect and we were such a cute and perfect couple. For my Christmas and 1 year anniversary present Matt got me a promise ring, and promised to be with me forever. He had everything planned out and he even had when he was going to propose/be engaged to me planned. I was going to invite him to go to prom with me this year (2008-2009), but now that we’re not together I don’t know if that’ll still happen. Everything was perfect & I was so excited because I wouldn’t have to go through the pain of a heartbreak and finding someone to to spend the rest of my life with since I was with Matt. Matt was my first boyfriend, my first love, my first kiss, my first makeout, the first guy I really hungout with, the first guy I actually believed was different, the first guy I held hands with, he was just my first for everything.
Well as we all know that didn’t happen…everything changed. Matt & I broke up and yes my heart did get broken, and it still is. But…We’re still going to stay friends and still talk as friends, just not about the break up. I honestly wanted to try to make it work, I didn’t want to give up and I was hoping he wouldn’t give up either, but he did. Matt told me not to blame myself for the break up that it was all him, but I just don’t see how I couldn’t have any part in that…So I started thinking…if I would have just said yes to one thing I told him no to, maybe it would’ve worked out, maybe we would still be together. Such as dancing…I hated dancing, and I figured out why…because I never had a real boyfriend to dance with and I’d never danced before…but since I started going out with Matt he got me to start dancing, and I like it now, but it was only because it was with him, and I was in his arms. I just really wish that I could go back to every single thing I said no to, and change it to a yes. Since Matt was my first for/with so many things it’s harder for me to let go of him. I wasn’t Matt’s first for a lot of these things so it’s not as hard for him as it is me. We’ve cleared everything up about the break up and now it’s just a matter of time before the heartbreak will get over. I’m glad Matt is actually happy now and all I want is just for him to be happy!! Even though we’re not going out I am glad we’re staying friends, because I don’t want to loose him completely!! Yes talking to him is hard now because I can’t call him on the phone and talk to him like I use to. I also…can’t call him "sweetheart" anymore, I can’t say "I love you" anymore, I can’t say "I miss you", I can’t kiss his soft lips, I can’t just stay in his arms during a hug anymore, I can’t hangout with him like I use to, I can’t hold his hands anymore, I can’t call/txt him to say good morning or good night anymore, and nothing is going to be the same. So it’s going to be hard.
I’ve prayed to god every single night asking for just one more chance with Matt, and to have god just put it in his head, or dream of what use to be. But as of now, my prayers haven’t been granted…sadly to say. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to be hurt like I am, but I don’t want to forget/get over Matt either. I know deep down inside he still loves me because he’s told me so, but I don’t know anymore.
There’s just something about him that made me be myself. He brought me out of my shell, and I was so happy of the person I became, but now that I’m not with him anymore I can tell that I’m slowly drifting back to my old self. I was even going to ask him to prom, and everyone knows I hate to dance, but Matt made me like dancing, being with him and sharing that special moment with him. I just don’t know what it is about him, but I loved him and I loved who he made me become!!!!
(We’ve been broken up since August 29th, 2008)
On Tuesday, September 9th, 2008 i sent him a picture message, and his had a pic of me and the song what hurts the most attached to it. and then it said stuff like please don’t forget about me even if it is just as a friend and that kind of stuff. and he sent one back saying…
"Theres my pretty girl. Ill never forget u Krystal dont worry"
I get to see him next weekend at a small festive that our town does, and he said that I can still go up and give him a hug and talk to him like we have done since we were 8 years old (before we started going out) But he wanted to know what booth I was working and what times. So I told him and then asked him if he was wanting to know so he could stay as far away as possible, and his response was…"Na juss wonderin"
I’m sooo confused I don’t know what he’s going to do this next weekend, and when he broke up with me it took him like 10 minutes to say that he wanted to break up, and his eyes were all puffy and he was shaking. Also after he
Before he even could say that he wanted to break up, all he could keep saying is "YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU AND ALWAYS WILL LOVE YOU" and since that is all he could keep saying to me, it took him like 10 minutes to say he wanted to break up. Also after he broke up with me he started crying, and when I talked to him that night on the phone he said he cried the 20 minute drive to town and then 2-3 hours in his uncles arms. And when I talked to him on the phone 4 days after the break up he kept calling me his girl and saying I still love you, and I always will no matter what!!!!
We went out for a couple months.
I broke up with him last week, regret it now.
We have talked once since the break up, he wasn’t putting much effort in the convo
I know he cared about me at one point, idk if he does now.
But i would love to get back with him, how do I go about this?
What have you tried to do to get your ex back? Did it work? And did you two last together?
I want to get my ex of 6 years back. We broke up a few wks ago b/c were having a rough last two months. But otherwise, we were awesome together. He thinks we werent happy…we werent for the last 2 months…but I see how that can be fixed now, i see where we went wrong (long story). I’m giving him space right now.I love him and know in my heart he still loves me.
I can’t reach to shave or wax it, and would prefer not to go to a spa to do it. Would be kind of gay to ask a friend to come over to shave my back. Anybody out there with a decent solution?
Sorry, gay was a bad choice of words. To each his own, just not for me.
Is there a special spa you have to go to? Aren’t most of them just for women?
My boyfriend and I are both divorced. When my ex and I divorced, we parted ways, He has is visitation, and I have custody. We are both involved in her life and we raise her without having to be with each other or depend on the other person.
On the other hand, my boyfriend and his ex wife (she has custody) seem to depend on each other for a lot of things, they think they need to go to dentist appointments (braces) together with the kids, and they email each other and talk about how cute the kids look in their new clothes etc….
Are they still feeling the need to have that connection they used to have with the kids? I know the kids need both parents, but is this neccesary? They can both be active caring parents without having to lean on each other for these types of things. I am just wondering if I should back off and let them do their thing, I just see this as they will end up back together in time if they still feel like they need to be a family at certain times. I just don’t feel the need to lean on my ex like this, when we divorced we gave up the family life we once had, that is part of divorce.
I know I will get some harsh comments out of this. But, maybe reality is what I need right now.
