He left me for another woman – who knew he was married and had a family. Now after 3 years we meet again. He is with her. We are still attracted to each other. I am sorry but the fact that this will hurt her if we have an affair is delightful.
Archive for April, 2010
When my ex met me, he knew he wanted a gf and worked very hard to get me. I was "selfish" and very content w. being single and was cautious of being in a relationship but through time, came to find that he was loyal and the long term type who cared and respected me very much. He loved that i was not like other girls. I’m the "good girl" and completely different than all his exes who were "high maintinence" and b*tchy. He loved how i was confident, independent, smart, knew who i was and what I wanted in life, educated and will graduate soon and into a career, classy, mannered, and funny. I also loved being intimate w him and loyally to him 
I’m not too bad to look at either (his friends thought i was pretty) and right away, introduced me to all his friends, family and they liked me (they were grateful he found a good girl like me). I was a good girlfriend – we both have busy schedules and I NEVER chased him at all but did nice things for him now and then. I never held him back if he wanted time w. his car, video games, or friends – always gave him space and freedom. I always respected him, appreciated him for who he was and what he did to me but if there was ever a time i felt disrespected I stood my ground. I never nagged or criticized him at all.
Within the last few weeks my intuition told me something was off and no matter how much I talked w. him, he assured me everything was fine and how much he wanted to be with me. He was still affectionate and consistent in calling me but felt he wasn’t "there". He wasn’t giving me the sincere respect and attention I deserved. And now, he broke up w. me b/c of his indecisiveness, immaturity, insecurity, and infatuation. I was nothing but infatuation for him. He wants to be alone, no gf, no work, no spark, doesn’t wanna try…how can you not try if having a good girl and all that is here? I don’t wanna get married anytime soon, I’m not pressuring him to be "super serious", i just want a loyal, committed bf. And if there is no other "3rd party", then he didn’t even wanna try w. me? Being on the inside, i never knew (or cared so much) for people’s reactions. Apparently, our mutual friends thought it was "strange" that the "princess was dating the bum" and how "she’s seems to be too mature for him" but were happy he finally "had a princess". And fr. what people say, he still doesn’t know who he is or what he really wants; very immature and can’t think for himself and is easily influenced by his friends. We’re nearing our mid 20′s and i’m more mature than most girls my age (anyway) and he seems to be content w. his friends who have no ambition in life (and possible influenced him tht he’s always w. me, getting jealous but little did they know..). His best friend thinks he’s "stupid" for letting go of a "good catch" like me and that i’ll be the "best girl he’ll ever get". What’s confusing was tht I know he still cared – still consistent w. hugs, kisses, cuddles, taking care of me and phone calls but was distracted. Also, i’m VERY different than all his exes. Will he regret this?
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now and he has sexual urges that can only be described as kinky. I’m ok with almost all of them except for group stuff, which was his latest interest. we bounced the idea around for some time. During this time, he talked with an ex about it and ONE TIME, the conversation turned sexual and they fulled around while chatting online. He didn’t do it again but I found out about it a couple months later. It hurt like hell but I took him back cause I love him very much and he said he was sorry.
He now says he isn’t interested in group stuff, and that he has broken off all communication with that ex. It’s hard to believe him and I’m afraid that this kinky urge will come back… can we still make this work? he’s so sweet and fun and, for the most part, has improved my life, just by being there.
i once cheated on a friend of mine.. she really liked this guy.. they’d gone out a couple of times.. and then he started IMing me, I met up with him late one night and we fooled around. My friend found out and I felt sooo bad and appoligized and MEANT it! I don’t think i’d ever cheat again.. so why would i think different of him?
Has anyone ever cheated on their partner and then stayed with them and never cheated again?
oh, also, he did say that he wasn’t sure his wanting a group thing would stay away, but he did say at the moment he doesn’t want it.. cause he hurt me so much. I told him we’d deal with it when the time came, but I just wanted him to be honest with me. Him going behind my back hurt a million times more than a silly kinky want that I’m just not into.
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I’ve been in a relationship for 10 months now with someone I love dearly. The first 6 months were extraordinary, but the remainder 5 have been truly challenging. I know in my heart that he loves me, on many occasions he had a chance to affirm it. Yet, I feel like we both made a mess of things and today we find ourselves in an unhappy and broken relationship, where everday there is an argument or misunderstanding over something. He blames himself for it and I do the same. We’re also angry towards one another over the way we hurt each other.
I love him a lot and I would like our relationship to work out, but I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve took a break for one week to think, given him some space. I also try to communicate, but everytime we do it seems to escalate out of control.
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Should I call the police? He’s talking on a cell phone. This is the second time I’ve seen him. I’m almost certain he can see me. I’ve sometimes been half-clad in front of the window, not knowing he was there. I live in NYC, and this has happened to me previously, so I’m thinking they wouldn’t treat my concern seriously. Or should I just buy some heavy drapes?
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