Do my taste in women indicate control issues, and how can I fix them?

21 In college, studying finance.

I have been told that my taste in women are holding me back and that I only have them because of Issues I have with control, It would be nice to learn how to fix some of these issues if it would make the pool of women I find attractive bigger

I have never had a girlfriend in my life, Its hard for me to meet girls because its hard for me to find girls that are what I like, and when I do I get so nervous that I blow it.

here goes…

5’5 or shorter
(I’m 5’7, short for a guy, Ive always been shorter then everyone I know and I cant stand it, I say 5’5 so she can still wear heels)

Younger then me, even if its by one day, I HAVE to be older.
(birth was right at the edge of cut off day for starting kindergarten, I have been the youngest person in a group all my life.)

NOT Bisexual
(HUGE, I have asked out Bi’s before and it always ends in disaster, no offense to them but I just don’t believe that they are capable of what I want, a real monogamous relationship.)

Not into "Masculine" things
I don’t like it when girls are into stuff like sports and cars and other stereotypical "guy" stuff

NO PIERCINGS/TATTOOS
no tongue studs, tramp stamps, noise rings, anklet tats, or belly rings, I HATE THEM (but Ear Piercings are fine of course)

lastly…I know its impossible…but Id really really like her to be a virgin (I’m a virgin too) but I live in the real world and I know that train left the station after jr.high, but it be so great.

I think that it all stems from me wanting to be the man in the relationship, I don’t like tattoos or piercings because I don’t want a girl to be strong enough to get those. I want to be older and taller because Im sick of being the lesser, all my life ive been smaller, the inexperienced, the one that others showed the world too, I want to be the person that other people need help from, I want to lead for once in my life.

I know that all this mess in my head is killing any chance I have at love, but I just don’t know how to cure it!!

Please help


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1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they
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7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend
11. When guys want to meet your parents…let them.
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they sure have
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13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up…believe me…he will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this
makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know
what…uh…never mind!"would him jump to a conclusion that is far from
what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "um"…or makes any excuses when you’reasking him to do you a favor, he’s actually
saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no",guys hears it as "try again 2morrow."
23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of
roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime…he does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve…girls are guy’s weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him
wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty…even for just a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much
pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his
problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get
the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but…her weight does!
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too
possessive…so watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they break up
esp. when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved
with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-
been-busted, never been in-love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl…he really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying
"Please come and listen to me"
59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy started to talk seriously, listen to him.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but
court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure
unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms…no kidding!
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be
surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than
attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is
about girls.
76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable
decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he jus tried to be polite.
79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them,
they’ll realize they’re wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed on you or he’s criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your
boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your
boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain…when he cries in
front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only
flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intention if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things…not their hair!
97. If someone says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact.
99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your
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