men getting over heartbreak.. guys what’s your opinion?

I met up with my ex-boyfriend of 17 years ago towards the end of August. I found out he was living less than 50 miles from me so I wrote to him and he responded right away and was very excited to hear from me. We talked on the phone for hours and he asked to see me the following weekend. We had a great time. There was still an attraction and definite flirtation during our night out. We talked about the posibility of me going up to see his house and his town. When we got back to my place and things started to turn physical, he backed off and said he wanted to be honest, that he was still in love with his ex-fiancee. They broke up about a year ago and tried to get back together about 6 months ago but it didn’t work. He said he was emotionally scarred and called himself a "broken man". He said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and would never want to hurt me. I told him I understood. I have sent him a few text messages since our date and he only responded to the 2nd one with a quick "hello, how are you" I responded by saying that I would not want to pressure him and when he’s ready maybe we can hang out once in a while. That was the last contact-September 7. What’s going on? I understand he’s still getting over his ex but why wouldn’t he want to hang out every few weeks and take it slow? I’m very surprised that he seems to have blown me off. Guys? your opinion please?



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Here are the main character’s personality descriptions:
Ariana Chase: Ariana is 17 years old. She is anti-social and pessimistic, but she has a good sense of humor. Ariana has little patience with most anyone, and she can be very stubborn. Ari is klutzy but she’s smart, and always gets A’s on her reports; but she isn’t a nerd. Ariana is a proud vegetarian. She never wanted a boyfriend, but ended up with one anyway. Romance isn’t something she’s interested in. Ari has a caring and understanding side that she doesn’t show very much. She’s good at lying and acting, but she doesn’t do either very often. She’s also very artistic, and loves little kids (they’re the only people she has any patience with).Ariana can easily pick up on people emotions, even if they aren’t giving any sign of how they feel.

Owen Chase: 14 year old Owen is a kind natured kid. He’s very sensitive, and patient with people. Like his sister, he’s smart but not in the same way as Ariana. Owen can think fast to get out of sticky situations, and he’s good at thinking of plans. Owen is very observant and curious. He tends to overreact to things. He’s a fast learner.

Juliet Chase: Juliet is Ariana and Owen’s mother. Juliet has lots of secret plans and is the protagonist in the story. She’s cruel and harsh. She never lets people off easy, and she doesn’t give any second chances. Juliet overreacts a lot.

Jacob Parker: Jacob is Ari’s boyfriend. Jacob has a good sense of humor, and like Ari has little patience. He can be romantic once in a while, and when he tries to around Ariana, it gets on her nerves. Jacob can be rude, and a lot of times speaks or acts without thinking. He’s very outgoing and hardly ever gets embarrassed. Jake tries to act smart around Ari, but he can be very dense at times. He can be a bit of a show off, and he doesn’t even realize it. Jacob has a good sense of direction, and doesn’t get lost. He can be very secretive, and is good at persuading people. Jake is 17.

Nakia Overon: Nakia is also 17 years old. She is Ari’s best friend, and they have known each other since first grade. Nakia is very caring, patient, and optimistic. She can find good in just about everything except for raisins and the color pink. Nakia isn’t girly, but she’s not a Tomboy either. She can be shy and stubborn.

This is the prologue:
Rain poured down on me, beating into my skin. Soaking wet hair clung to my face. A faint sound called to me. Like an angel calling me to heaven, it sounded sweet and gentle. I was almost sure I was dead. What other explanation was there for all of this?
“Ariana,” the sweet voice cried out, “Ariana, where are you? I know you’re here.” Brush rustled softly, but it sounded faint. Everything sounded far off and in the distance, as if it were slowly fading away.
Groggy eyelids began to fall over my tired eyes. Hunger rang in my stomach, like someone in jail, rattling the bars to try to escape. “Ariana? Come here. Help me find you. It’s Jacob. Ari?”

Please tell me what you really think of the prologue, and the characters. Feel free to give any writing advice, and suggestions for things you think I should change. I also want to change Nakia’s name, so if you have suggestions, please tell me. Also, I want to change all of their last names, but I don’t know what to change them to.
Please give me truthful suggestions, and tell me what you think of the characters and prologue!
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For a year and a half he followed me around as I did things with friends and invited him along, in addition to him showing up and calling me at work a lot to “check on our computers” (since he was our computer repair guy). My boss said we never got that kind of service from him before I started working there. He’d take me out as “friends” when my boyfriend was working or out of town, etc., and we always had a blast.

As soon as my then boyfriend and I broke up, my now husband was there to catch me when I fell. The blinders came off of my eyes and I finally saw what a wonderful guy he was and I fell for him, hard. We dated, moved in together months later, lived together over a year and then married. We were a couple for 17 years and we’ve been married for 15 years, plus the 7 months we’ve been separated. About 4 years into the marriage (about 7 years after we were were a couple) I started rescuing dogs and placing them in new homes whenever possible, until the homes started drying up.

We had as many as 12 dogs (and a cat) at one time. When he left me we still had 9 dogs (and the cat). He told me he left because I wouldn’t get rid of the dogs as he kept asking me to do, and that I was emotionally abusive to him and treated him like a doormat. I disagree, and I reminded him of how I had been in a severe depression for over 5 years, and that’s why I couldn’t part with the dogs then, because I needed them more than they needed me (I hadn’t been feeling the love from him for a long time, but they made me feel loved).

Since he left (saying he wasn’t coming back no matter what I said or did) I told him I’d get rid of the dogs and go back to marriage counseling, but he said it’s too late. Later, I found out he told his best friend (who’s also my best friend) that he would have gotten rid of the dogs the next day if I left him and they were his dogs.

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I don’t know what to believe now. He wanted me, waited for me, married me and now says he knows himself better and wouldn’t have married me. All this was said AFTER I got rid of the dogs that he said he wanted me to get rid of (the ones that were supposedly the main reason he left me over, in addition to my supposed emotional abuse of him). I feel he thought I was emotional abusive because he kept things inside and I always tried to get things out in the open. He hates conflict of any kind, because of his parents’ tumultuous relationship during his childhood.

Is there any hope for us? Does anyone out there know what’s really going on inside his mind (and NO, he’s never, ever been unfaithful, ever, me neither), and how I can reach him? He’s VERY prideful and doesn’t want to admit to ME that I hurt him by not letting go of the dogs and that he felt I didn’t love him enough and loved them more than him (which was NEVER true).

He’d tell me that in the past, but I didn’t think he was serious. Now he’s told friends that too, but he won’t tell me now that it’s part of it (mainly the biggest part of it according to our friends, and to me). Please help if you can figure him out and have answers for me. And please hold the negative and mean comments, I’m very emotional right now and raw, and I don’t need that kind of thing, trust me. All legitimate helpers with possible helpful answers are much needed to reply.

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