I was in a marriage of 24 years. When I met him..he kept things from me for like 6 months. Big things like he had been married..had 2 children..wasnt divorced but just separated. We of course had sex within that time..so he cheated on her..In time of course I found out about it and told him to go back to his family. They couldnt get along so he came back to me. Within time..they divorced. He said he finalized the divorce. As years go on..she let me know that he wouldnt have ever divorced if she wouldnt have finalized it. We ended up having 3 children of our own. They are now..21, 18 and 16. My 2 oldest ones are boys and are in the Marines. My youngest is still at home. This year we divorced. Before my divorce became final..I met and fell in love with a guy..who was also married. He told me that he was divorcing. I believed him. We seen each other for 6 months and my divorce finalized. His wife pulled out all that she could and talked him into coming back home. Although he no longer sees me or talks to me ..from mutual friends at work..he still isnt happy at home and continues to talk about divorcing her. Since then..I had gotten laid off and brought back to part time. There wasnt any way I could make it on my own at part time. My ex husband told me I could come back. So I did. He now tries so hard to make me love him again. He even tries to buy me back..a car..flowers..but I cant or wont be bought back. We are better friends now than ever but I dont love him any more. He wants sex but I refuse to do that when I dont love him any more. I feel wrong for living here and not love him. I dont want to use him. But what do I do? My family is gone. Parents have passed with cancer..grandparents are gone. Friends are married..dont want to push in on them. People tell me to use him because of the bad years that we had together of his drinking and fighting but ..its not in me to do that and yet in reality that is what I am doing. But if I could make it on my own..I wouldnt be here. Any suggestions? Please dont be mean..I know sometimes the truth hurts but some people just like to be mean. Thanks for your time.
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This is kind of bothering me and the reason why, is because I will be 24 years old this month (march 18th) and I still havent found the right girl in my life either to do it with. One part of me is saying there are women I know that are willing to have sex with me (friends) because they said i am a nice guy, i am different from any other guy they know. But when it comes to having sex with me, I want it to be special that 1st time. Instead of it be called sex its making love in my book, with passionate romantic love from head to toe. But I tell them I cant do it because you are just a friend to me, Iam not gonna have sex with a friend if you are not my girlfriend. And even when you are my GF it still will take time before i lay down with you. Really I want to save myself for marriage. But I feel like time is ticking on me iam going to be 24 years old here in 2 weeks and I still havent had sex nor found the right gurl and not even been with a girl for a long time.
Ive only been with one girl my hole life (5 years) and we never ever had sex we both agreed to wait until we got married, but the relationship went down hill towards the end. And sence then I havent been with no1 and nothing. I have been on dates but all they want out of it is just a peace of my body, and I am not with that. I just dont know what to do n e more im getting older, not younger and part of me wants to do it and another part of me saying no. So u guys give me your in puts on this please should I save my self or should I just get on with the program this really bothers me that the fact im gonna be 24 and still a virgin ty you guys.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. Since we started dating his mother always warned him that I’d "trap" him into staying with me. We now have a 15 month old daughter together and his mother totally denies her grandchild. She wants me to get a paternity test because we are not married so she’s just so sure that my daughter is in no way related to her son, even though she looks like all of her children. My daughter never got a Christmas or birthday present from her. Also, his mother treats him like he’s 14. He is 26! For example, he is "not allowed" to have a cell phone. Seriously? So, I’ve agreed to get this test done because nothing would make me more satisfied than to shove the results in her face. She told my mom that she should have dragged me by my hair to "take care of" my pregnancy instead of letting me trap her son. What? I’m 24 years old. I’ve been with her son for 5 years. I love him and he loves me. How do I tell this crazed woman off without making her loathe me even more? I need to tell her that I’m an adult and I insist on her treating me that way. I’d also like to tell her to cut the cord already. Her son now has a family of his own, she can’t be breathing down his back forever. Right?
Um.. I’m sorry but it’s 2009. Not 1950. Having a child out of wedlock isn’t really socially unacceptable anymore. I mean sure, for some religious views it is, and that’s fine. I promise you I wont burn in Hell though because I had a child with someone I love. I did not just "spread my legs". That being said, my boyfriend’s father just got up and left one day, and got remarried without telling ANYONE. Including his children. So I feel that his mom has some abandonment issues and that’s why she’s holding onto her kids for dear life. I dont want to yell at her and make her feel bad, I just want her to know I dont appreciate the way she treats me. My boyfriend is only just realizing that she’s irrational and he’s about to burst himself. If she starts to say bad things about me to my face I have no right to tell her to back off?
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now after 24 years I have fallen in love with him for the second time.I fell in love with him about 5 years after we married and now have fallen in love again.Is this normal and who else has fallen back in love with there husband when they thought it was just being a roommate?no rude comments p lease…
I told hiim this just an hour ago and he told me strawberry it has always been there you just had to find it. guess i found it and a little more.
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Me and Maya been best friends since 8th grade. We 24 years old now. I’m bisexual(more lesbian than straight) and I’m slowly but surely coming out the closet. Maya has been my best friend for 11 years but what I felt for her was secretly bigger than that. My entire family loves her because Maya grew up with a neglecting mother and no father. So, they showed her support and even came to live with us at some point. Maya dated my older brother for three years and she had a baby girl with him. I gave birth to my son two months later. So, we both became mothers around the same time(age 17). My brother was murdered a year after my son and my niece was born. I admit I was always jealous of the fact that my brother was dating my best friend but believe me, I was hurt and devastated when my brother died. So, me and Maya shared everything together. My parents helped us raise the kids being that my brother was dead and my son’s father was a deadbeat. We had many boyfriends but nothing serious. It’s always been about ME, MAYA, MY SON and HER DAUGHTER(MY NIECE).
But 4 years ago, Maya met Antoine and she fell so hard in love it made me sick. Once again, I felt like another man was taking Maya away from me. But on the flip side, I admit that I was attracted to Antoine in addition to being secretly in love with Maya. We’ve been flirting for 4 years before something finally jumped off. By the time me and Antoine had sex, he and Maya was already married with a infant son together. This affair went on for 6 months until Maya found out about it when her old nosy neighbor opened up her big mouth. Maya confronted me at my job and attacked me physically almost getting me fired and herself arrested. She kicked Antoine out for 2 months and then let him back in. But she won’t talk to me still and its not fair. I do NOT want her husband! I tried to apologize. I love Maya so much and I told her that in a looooonng letter I wrote her expressing my REAL feelings for her. She emailed me calling me a "hoe" and a "dike" and that I need to "get help".
I know I was wrong. But it makes me cry. Why is she always choosing men over me? And does she have the right to forbid me from seeing my niece? That’s the ONLY PIECE OF MY BROTHER THAT I HAVE LEFT!! My son and her daughter are cousins but they’re like siblings. How can she take it out on THEM? I love Maya and its a shame she doesn’t reciprocate. How am I any more wrong than Antoine is? What should I do?
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