So this guy John that I have known for almost 3 yrs dated since July/August of 2009 until Feb 2010.We split up and had no communication for almost 2 months(non-speaking terms).Anyways I saw him around a couple of times at the same bar that he goes to where I was with(once 5 weeks ago or so) and once last week.Last week I asked him if he would like to grab a cup of coffee with me and catch up.I was trying to be civilized etc and just polite.He said "no" which I expected and accepted and I was about to walk away when he started to vent abt. the break up and his life and so forth.I listened to all of this for 20 minutes of so,he was raising his voice,I was telling him to calm down and next thing I know he kissed me and proposed to me.I accepted the proposal(stupid I know!) but hrs. later found out that my ex had a couple of drinks with his friends.Anyways him and I chatted,catched up,all his friends knew that we both were outside and talking.I was introduced that night to his dad who has lung cancer as his fiance.His dad was so happy that his son found someone to make him happy.The ex and I talked until 4am and 9am comes and the ex had some errands to run,I call my ex a couple of hrs later b/c we needed to talk and he calls back.He finally says that the prior night was us moving too fast and that we should remain good friends.I said sure yet even though I was not sure how I would take it.Monday of this week I called and asked him if he meant what he said,he played the dumb role and asked me what part and I told him the whole thing on Thursday.I guess he still remembered since he was not opened to talk about the subject and always said comments like how I should drop the subject and how he does not want any more drama.I asked him my final question which was how someone can say something and 12 hrs later have those words taken back.He still wanted to be friends he said after I asked him all those 2 questions.After that we did not speak for a couple of days.I called him 2 days ago and he was busy and I made it a 20 second convo saying that since he is too busy I will let him go(what he usually does anyways).Today I was polite to call and wish him happy Good Friday.We talked briefly and he had to go since he hates driving and talking at the same time.I told him that I could be his friend but I cannot.I still like him more than a friend so here is my question:do I sit down with him and tell him "John, look I know we have agreed that we ought to remain friends.But I cannot be your friend because I like you more than a friend.I understand if you cannot or do not return my feelings but I cannot be stuck here in limbo."….I just want to tell him how I really feel so I can get it off my chest.I had the guts to ask him to grab coffee and that took a lot of guts.I am not sure how to approach this and tell him how I still feel with out making him uncomfortable.
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Him,our mutual friend Hanan and I were best friends before him and I started to date.Now since I am best friends with Hanan and she is good friends with him as well well it became complicated.Mine and his break up was supposed to be personal but expanded to include a large group of friends,our siblings,close and best friends,etc.Now he gave our mutual friend an ultimatum:that she has to choose who she wants to be friends with either him or I which I find stupid.My friend wants to stay out of the drama and same here except that he does not realize that he,himself is creating the drama or at least most of it now.My friend Hanan and I have stepped away from the whole drama about the break up yet the was the one who could not let go if he made our friend choose.
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Ok me and my girlfriend (both 22) are friends, we been friends since we were 6yr or 7yr (but I was not around all that time).
I am a musician and she is in her last year of uni
we started hanging out again last year as a set up by friends we have every thing in common it was very hard to find things that we both didn’t like doing (we both had never had a GF/BF before) this was a first for both of us. The more we hung out together the closer we got we would be up until 4am just talking watching movies and stuff (she was my first kiss too she made the First move I did not want to take advantage of her). Then we started dating in December hanging out 5x a week at movies, at home sleepovers all the time when she came home from work. We would tell each other everything that we were thinking about (worried or not) because we are both over thinkers.
very 4 weeks or so we would be up til 3am talking about where we are going and what’s going to happen when we move(she is going over sea when she gets money to teach). and I alway said that if it’s too hard for her that we can just go back to being friends and after she told me what she was thinking. She would realize she was over thinking and she was fine saying that she was very happy where things are and that she does want to change it.
then in February I had to go on a confronts for 5 day and I said why don’t you come down on the last to days and we can go site seeing and have a nice time in a relaxing hotel room, room service the works. (No sex no expectations it was just so I could spend some time with her) before she goes back to uni.
So we went and had a great time then late that night at about 2am she started to cry sing that she does not want to hurt me or loose me.
But she was worried about what we are going to do when she starts uni and gets busy or when she goes over sea, (she wants to travel and meet new people for a while to experience life)
And I said that she will never loose me and that we can work around that. And just do small things like a movie night or some thing and she was fine.
But she still would bring it up for the next 3 weeks then a week later I txt her asking what she was doing she was really sick (with a cold). later she txt back saying that she is too busy for anyone right now she wanted to take a break for a while and that she wanted to go back to being friends. She didn’t want to lead on or have me think she’s avoiding.
But it has been 8 weeks since we went on the break but we have met up a few time for dinner and movie night with friends and she seemed fine since then she seemed a bit nervous around me at first butso I am still talking to her and going out when we have time.
I really miss her I mean I always miss her ever before the break.
Now I don’t no what to do I really care about her more than she knows and I don’t want to loose her. How can I get her back (not now later after her study’s) without losing that connection we had. How can I talk to her about becuz we have not talked about the break at all.
I love her, I was really happy with her, and I still am when I’m around her I just don’t want to loose her to someone else and I no i might sound clingy but I’m not like that around her
Please help
Serious answers please and thankyou so so much for reading the whole thing I know it was long 
I was hurt when she said she wanted to be on a break without talking to me about it.
But isn’t something that is worth fighting for suppose to hurt a little?
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We know longer sleep together because he likes to stay up until 4am with the lights on ( It’s been 2 months). I’m now sleeping in my daughter’s room with her. My husband isn’t her dad. To make a long story short my daughter’s grandfather (her dad’s dad) they just met for the first time. My daughter doesn’t see her dad because he’s a embarrassment to her and smokes and even assaulted me in front of her. My daughter hasn’t seen her father in many months before them meeting last weekend. I didn’t want to lie to my husband so I told him she’s meeting her grandad for the first time. He was upset, but got over it only if I were to call child support ( to get him to pay or go to jail) and visitation (He wants my daughter to have supervised visitation after her dad assaulted me 3 years ago) . After thinking I told him I can’t …… long story. He now wants a divorce and has been ignoring me, and pushing me off him for the past 4 days. How can I save my marriage I just wanted to do the right thing?
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