I went out with this guy in Aug. 2009, and we had two very nice dates. On the second date he took me to his best friend’s house where I also met his brother and sister. After the date, he alluded to staying over, and I declined. He emailed me once and called me once after with excuses why he couldn’t further pursue the relationship…lack of funds and the 2 hour drive could be too much. I told him I was willing to come up also, but I still didn’t hear from him. There’s nearly a 20 year age difference, but I’m attracted to his intelligence and how he thinks.

So, today (5 months later), he emails me the following:

**************
Hi ___! You probably didn’t expect to hear from me, but this is _____ in New York. Sorry for not keeping in touch. I was so swamped with various projects (conference presentations, teaching, job applications) dramas (death of my father in November) and travel (Korea in late November) that I have had really no time for socializing or romance. Now I am less stressed and more alive again. Possible to meet again?

I hope you are well.
*************

Should I even consider seeing him again?

PS – I’ve noticed on the dating website that we met on that he logs on.

Thanks,

WannaKnow

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I broke up with my one and only boyfriend 5 months ago and now I want him back. I think I realized that I broke up with him for stupid reasons and since he’s the only guy I ever dated, I couldn’t compare him to anyone else…now that I dated a few other guys and they are idiots, I want him back more and more….but it’s been five months! I hurt his feelings when I broke up with him but I don’t know what to do now. I met him on a dating website and I see him on there everyday so I know he’s single. I wanted to e-mail him but I don’t want to sound desperate. I don’t know if I should just ask him how things have been going and see how he responds….

I feel so stupid for breaking up with him now. Sure he had problems but they were so minor that now I really wouldn’t care about that stuff. How do you start communicating with someone after 5 months of not talking???
I’m 21 btw
I dated him for 4 months and got my first kiss from him so I don’t know if it’s because I don’t have experiance with relationships but I still miss him

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I feel confused. I’m 21 years old and the only boyfriend I’ve ever had I dumped back in October after dating him for 4 months. It’s been 5 months since we broke up and the longer I stay single, the more I want him back. He did have his problems (there was a reason I broke up with him) but the more jerks I meet, the more I realize that he wasn’t too bad of a guy and now I want him back but I’m SOOO scared to call him up.

He was pretty upset when I broke up with him but became arrogant and said "give me a few hours and i’ll get over it"…What do I do? I know he had his weaknesses but also lots of good things. I think about him more and more and I’m not sure if part of the reason is because he was my first boyfriend and first kiss (I didn’t get it until I turned 21).

He met my parents before so now I think it would be weird if he just shows up again after 5 months. I met him on a dating site and I’m back on there again and I see his profile on there all the time but I am afraid to DEATH to e-mail him b/c he’ll think i couldn’t find anyone better….idk what to do

on one hand I know that he really liked me but on the other hand, he’s had dozens of girlfriends before so I’m afraid that he forgot about me…but I still see him on the dating website almost every day so I know he’s still single! I’m afraid I might have hurt him too much and he doesn’t want to give it a chance again

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Well we have been seperated for about 5 months now…..But now i want her back..!! Well it all starts with her parants, they just kept interfearing in our relationship.. And after we relocated i could cense that she was unhappy and mist them..but before I knew it they were moving to the same town within a month….U See i just wanted time for us to settle intogether and re-just ourselfs to our new lives and our jobs. There were also health concerns that i needed time to get through before allowing her family to interfere… but i blew it.!! she told me that they were moving down…and i lost my temper…and told her i didnt lover her anymore and that she should now be happy livin with mummy and daddy..!!! so i stormed out to clear my head, halfway to the beach 15min latter i called her to apologize but she had left and was on her way back to her perants place…. A week later she came back for her things and that was that she wont see me or speek to me..!but i feel that wbelong togeth

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i’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months i really thought we would last long and we broke up yesterday because my friend told me he was supposably cheating on me but my friends friend told him that idk wat to do we broke up he said if people were gonna be saying he was doing stuff when he wasn’t that it’ll be better for us to go our separate ways but he said he was still gonna love me and i was still gonna be in is heart that everything was gonna be the same just that we wouldn’t be going out…=*[ but i think that's only going to last awhile...=*[ i want him back really bad we really loved eachother i never felt this way for a guy i lost my virginity to him [[please dont judge me]]
i want him back really bad i just dot know about him someone PLEASE HELP ME!
my friend who told me was a guy his freind was a guy to

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For our wedding my FH & I must give both of our families 9 months to 1 year notice to book travel and save money ETC… Also we live in the MD/DC area where if you do not book at least a year in advance you will not have a day
My FH sister is getting married in West Africa in August of 2009 since my FH & I have to take time from work in August we decided to make our wedding date in October. My FH dad has since informed me that his son should have known due to health reasons and the temperature in this region, (he is coming from West Africa) he can not travel to America in October he wants us to push the wedding until April.
Also if he were coming in April he could stay for 5 months and visit family etc… The trip is costly so he wants to make it worth while. I really want to get married and live with my husband. Having a civil marriage and a wedding ceremony later on is not an option. I feel the wedding is not about me but the joining of two families so I want our parents there. The hall said we have until Thursday to change the contract and is holding both dates. So would you do October 2009 without his folks or April 2010 with his folks? MY FH and I are posting this to see what outsiders think.

a civil cermony with a renewal of vows is not an option

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How Do I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?

My ex boyfriend and i dated for 10 months and we’ve been broken up for around 5 months now. I miss him so much and him and I are still good friends.

I dated another guy after him but dumped him after 3 weeks cuz he just wasnt like my ex boyfriend. and now he says he might like another girl but he tells me that he doesnt really care if he gets her or not. In fact, he doesnt want any serious relationships anymore and he just wants to have fun.

So how do i get him to like me and want me back? Is there any way i can make him regret leaving me? Apparently we broke up cuz “he needed his space and missed spending time with the guys”. So what can I do?

He’s still attracted to me and he always tells me that he wishes he could kiss me and sometimes i let him and i know i shouldnt =(

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High School Sweethearts- First Kiss, First everything I lost interest our their relationship because nothing was changing (I was still living in sin) for almost 6 years! He goes off to College in a different state. I break up with him because I was interested in someone else, and did not want to cheat. and also felt like I would never be good enough to be his wife. I did sleep w/ 2 people in those 5 months. A guy who I have known for almost 2 years, and this other guy who took advantage of me. I told my ex all of this, and all of the details. Maybe I was being too honest, but I love him and I know that he is the one for me but it seems like nothing I do is working. People cheat all of the time, and keep it secret, or their spouse forgives them. He has become quite religious, and I told him that god says forgive people of their sins as he did for us. So, do I deserve a second chance? Or is there no hope in winning him back?

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We dated for almost 6 years. he started seeing someone 2 weeks before we actually broke up and got into a relationship with the other woman soon after. They dated for about 5 months until he decided that she is such a negative person and almost suicidal. He kept in contact with me halfway through their relationship then we finally hung out and he started to feel regret and slowly let her go but she would take drugs and threaten to kill herself if he left her. He had to stick around a bit longer and pretend to be her boyfriend until he could get past her negativity and leave her alone.

It has been almost 7 months since he ended his relationship with the negative girl & we’ve also been talking. We just recently discussed why he cheated and went through that phase. However, I still feel angry and disgusted that he had sex with her even though we weren’t together. I guess it’s because we were each other’s firsts and there was no one else. I don’t know how i’m going to get past this & trust him again.

I want to know why guys cheat after being in a long relationship then all of a sudden go back to us. How do I know he really regrets his mistake? I want to take him back, but not too easily… I just don’t know if what he’s showing me now is worthy of taking him back. How did you get your ex-girlfriend back after you cheated on her?

He gave me 4 promise rings that I wore almost everyday & I gave them back to him when we broke up. He wears one with my name on it everyday on his pinky. It even left a tan line on his finger. I told him that I couldn’t hold on to them for as long as we don’t have a relationship.

He’s taking me out on an official date this thursday to watch Goapele. She sang our song: Closer. I have a feeling that he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend w/ the rings I gave back to him. As sweet as the setting may be almost perfect, I’m not sure if I am ready…

I dont want to take him back too soon to think that i’m that easy. Is 7 months a long time?

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Ok, so i dated a girl for about 5 months when we broke up about 4 months ago. About a month ago, she got another bf and they lasted for a month, until she broke up with him saying she still couldnt get over me. Its been 2 days since she broke up with her ex bf and we have texted/hung out/talked on the phone non-stop since then. We have been talking about all the fun we could have together and how she wants it to be us again. I agree with her, i want her back soooo badly but when i dropped the hint, she just keeps saying "im not mentally ready" she says she wont be ready for a while. How do i get that while to turn into like a week instead or two weeks. We both very much like each other and we are very open about it, but she doesnt want to date or have me be her bf. It doesnt make sense. Can any girls tell me what she is doing and why?? And what should i do?!?! i doesnt make sense that we both really like each other but she wont let me show it. Does that make sense?? Please help!!

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We dated for almost 6 years. he started seeing someone 2 weeks before we actually broke up and got into a relationship with the other woman soon after. They dated for about 5 months until he decided that she is such a negative person and almost suicidal. He kept in contact with me halfway through their relationship then we finally hung out and he started to feel regret and slowly let her go but she would take drugs and threaten to kill herself if he left her. He had to stick around a bit longer and pretend to be her boyfriend until he could get past her negativity and leave her alone.

It has been almost 7 months since he ended his relationship with the negative girl & we’ve also been talking. We just recently discussed why he cheated and went through that phase. However, I still feel angry and disgusted that he had sex with her even though we weren’t together. I guess it’s because we were each other’s firsts and there was no one else. I don’t know how i’m going to get past this & trust him again.

I want to know why guys cheat after being in a long relationship then all of a sudden go back to us. How do I know he really regrets his mistake? I want to take him back, but not too easily… I just don’t know if what he’s showing me now is worthy of taking him back. How did you get your ex-girlfriend back after you cheated on her?
He gave me 4 promise rings that I wore almost everyday & I gave them back to him when we broke up. He wears one with my name on it everyday on his pinky. It even left a tan line on his finger. I told him that I couldn’t hold on to them for as long as we don’t have a relationship.

He’s taking me out on an official date this thursday to watch Goapele. She sang our song: Closer. I have a feeling that he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend w/ the rings I gave back to him. As sweet as the setting may be almost perfect, I’m not sure if I am ready…

Is this a hint that he’s actually trying?

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Ok. Here’s the deal. Me and my ex were together for like..5 months and then we broke up bcuz I was being stupid and it was all my fault. But I still love him and he still loves me but he’s with this other girl…and we want each other back he just doesn’t know what to do with his girlfriend right now. So how can I help him make a choice…[break up with her to be with me !!!]

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Ok so my ex and i only dated for about 5 months, but during those 5 months we grew VERY close and fell head over heals for each other. He moved in with me and everything was going well. At times, he was hard to trust. One day he ran off to vegas with his friends.. and cheated on me. I broke up with him. I got with my new boyfriend soon after (possibly a rebound?) My ex still comes by my house looking for me ( i hve never been there when he comes by) He tells my mom he loves me and he wants to marry me. I have been with my new boyfriend for two years and he has been with his girlfriend for a year and a half. He still comes by my house looking for me and tells my mom how much he wants me back. I havent seen him since we broke up! TWO YEARS!!! and he STILL hasnt let me go.. what do i do? i still think about him a lot and often dream about him. i would hate myself if i left my current boyfriend to go back with him and he did the same thing and hurt me again. i dont want to make the wrong decision! ugh! helppp meee pleassseee. and no stupid answers. i really need help on what to think of this

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Ok so my girlfriend which is now my EX have dated for 2 years and 5 months. Ive recently started to go back to school because she told me to show her that you can improve with your life. So after signing up for classes, I reminded her that I was going to be busy with work and school. I work 40 hours a week and with school in the way now, im super busy. Anyways, a couple nights ago she broke up with me because we’ve been rocky for about a month and us being too busy with each other. I’ve done so much for her even hop on to her phone plan to help ease stress and pay half the bill for her. She’s been hurt by her EX bf’s and I thought she would understand how it feels and im sure she does because I told her that she must know how Im feeling right now. But anyways, she said it was the last straw and doesnt have the same feelings anymore. I try and try till this day for her to take me back and she still doesnt budge. I’m planning on giving all the stuff she gave me back to her on her birthday. After giving all her stuff back Im going to ignore, not that I want to but Im sure this is what she wants. Me out of her life..Question is, how do you think she would feel?

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Six months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months. I had this feeling that I didn’t like him anymore and the day right after I was like shoot! I still do like him! I’ve been trying to be his friend for the past 3 months (the 3 other mnths of the summer dsnt rlly count)… So this year when I started school he turned out to be in my class. I really really like him! And well I want to get back with him. But one small problem he has a girlfriend. But he never tlks to her when am around, and ignores wen am around too. And I’m pretty sure he’s not doing tht to care for my feelings because he dsnt even knw I still like him… please please help me!
I don’t want to break them up. they’re pretty cute together. But ijust want to be his friend and he’s not letting me 4 sum reason.. I mean cried rite after i broke up with him *literally*… and thts when i realized i STILL liked him… so wht shud i do??

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Me and my ex have been broken up since the 23rd of January.He hasnt spoke to me,called or contacted me.Its as if he has forgotten me completely.I had made a mistake begging for him back,and making myself feel less than i am.That only made me feel worse.You cant force someone to love you.Two days after the breakup i asked him if he still loved me,he said no he didnt,which really hurt,because how can u possibly forget someone soo quickly.I mean we spent 9 full months together doing everything.He was my best friend.He was my first true love,which i heard takes alot of time to get over.I had made some mistakes of my own.I have disrespected him several times,made him feel as if he had to choose between me and his family,distracted him from God.this all happened when i was selfish and too confident in the middle of the relationship.My sister had told me If he really loved you he would have pushed and never gave up on the relationship no matter what.She is now married to a man that she says puts up with everything she says and does,because he loves her.His reasons to why he broke up with me were You never changed,we werent going anywhere,and i feel that God wants me to be single,and focus on him.I respect that,but i mean seriously i do not deserve this hurt,and do not believe it.His ex-girlfriend before me he had visited her in Ohio before we were dating last last christmas.It was a long distance relationship,he had payed 200 dollars plus the christmas gifts.when he arrived she had broke up with him,and had flirted and talked to one of his best friends.He had missed her from what he told me,but that is absolutely ridicolous.5 months into that relationship by phone and email and he still spoke to her,and 9 months with me and no contact whatsoever.im confused.I mean yeah i gave him emotional hurt i didnt see,but i still holded on to him and kept going strong.i had lost my dog and i begged him when he could to pay half of my new one and i would pay half.All i could do was apologize and make him see that i did not want his money or materials soo i returned them back to him.all i wanted was his support and love.from s guys perspective,do u know if he will come back,and is hiding his feelings right now?or should i just move on and let it go?why do you think he discontinued talking to me?Is he thinking bad things about me that he didnt see and telling everyone?It hurts to feel like you are the bad person.

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I have been talking to this girl for about 5 months. And we had alot in common. music and stuff. I asked her out and she didnt give me an answer rite away. So i said "Take your time ok" She said alrite. so i was waiting for a while and couldnt take it. So i went out and bought her roses. 70 dollar roses. And i made sure she was feeling me. Like I asked her the day before if I was cute and she said "yeah" and i asked if she could come up to me and say that she said "yeahhhh" so i had a really good feeling it would work out for me. i sent her the roses and she died. She loved them. She told me it was one of the cutest sweetest things any guy has ever done for her. I said well im just a charmer. She said shed call me after dinner. So i was on AIM talking with her. And i asked her for an answer. She said "NO". And I was devastated. I felt so bad. I wanted to kill myself i felt so bad. And then i said to her if ur with a guy tommorow I’ll kill him. Not really meaning it. And she wont speak
to me. Her reason was that she flirts to much and she said she was sorry. But now i feel so bad that i scared her so much. I have had quite a few threats from people. And i just want a good way to get her to talk with me again.
She also said she didnt want to hurt my feelings. And idk wut to do. Im still upset over the whole thing and feel like she was the only 1 who made me feel better when i was sad. And she was. I feel like no one else can do that for me. I am a very depressed person if u havent noticed. And i need some1 to answer me.
Hey ok i dont seriously mean that at all and i bought them cause i thought she liked me. But she just lead me on a wild goose chase for so long thats why i was so pissed off.
Any one who says im a creep is wrong. Im 15 and shy ok and i think it was bold what i did and guess wut i have to fite someone next wensday cause of wut i did.
thanx to everyone else who was actually positve
=] made me feel a little better with the logic

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In November of 2008, I met the best thing that ever happened to me. We met online and fell for each other quickly. We had a great relationship with a few bumps in the road. I was more than your average boyfriend. I cooked her dinner and sometimes we would cook together, bought her dinner, bought her roses on occasion just to say I loved her, helped her financially if needed, and did all of the little things that mattered. She has had a troubled past when it comes to guys. Because of that issue she was very insecure. I always plead and swore that I wasn’t going to leave or cheat on her. About 5 months into our relationship she met a new guy from her work. She had a lot of guy friends that I didn’t mind her seeing at all, but this guy was different. After a week of knowing her he offered to pay hundreds of dollars worth of car maintenance for her car. He offered to pay for a new tattoo, took her our for breakfast all of the time. I knew what he was trying to do, and I demanded that it stop. We argued for a long time over what was going on and I was given the jealous and insecure label. She ended up cheating on me nad leaving me for him around our six month mark. I was devastated. She told me she wanted me in her life still, but I denied the offer. She would still send me text messages but I would ignore them because I was bitter. I gave her a diamond necklace for Christmas, and a watch for valentines day that she ended up giving back to me when she left. I also returned the promise ring that I was going to present to her on our six month anniversary. I wanted to prove to her that I would stay honest, commited, and true to her until we were ready to be engaged in the future. Her relationship with the new guy didn’t last long at all. They only "saw" each other for a few weeks. Months went by and we didn’t really speak to each other. About 3 months ago I decided I needed to get over her and move on. I deleted her off of my facebook to begin the process of healing. About a week ago I received a message from her on facebook asking why I deleted her off. I thought, "Why should I respond?" So I ignored her. She responded again and was upset that I didn’t respond. She told me that she still wanted me in her life and wanted to be friends. She told me that the guy she was dating at the time was cheating on her, and told me she was sorry for hurting me. She told me she understood if I didn’t want to talk to her. I responded back and told her how I felt about what she did, and told her I would think about being friends. She responded back and told me she worried about me a lot and thought it would be nice if we went out to lunch sometime. A few days went by and I accepted her offer for friendship. She was fine with it, and told me she only wanted to be friends because she had just broke up with her cheating boyfriend and wasn’t ready for a relationship. I told her I understood, and I wasn’t ready for one either. I decided to be a nice guy and I told her that if she needed someone to talk to for comfort I would. She sent me a text and thanked me for my thought, but there was nothing anyone could do. She had to get over it herself. She told me she wanted to have lunch and I told her that would be fine and to let me know when. She was okay with it, and wanted to start a conversation. I had to cut it short because I was going to bed, but I told her I would talk later.
Does my ex realize what she had lost, and slowly wants to come back to me? I do love her still, and I would give her a shot if she proves that she has changed. Ladies..what do you think..does she want me back? If she doesn’t, why would she want to talk to me again after her breakup? I thought I had women figured out, but I was dead wrong.

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My wife and I have been married 4 years and she quit her job a year ago because we wanted to start a family and she got pregnant fairly quick. She did all of the housework and laundry in our home untill she got 5 months pregnant and then she just stoped cooking,cleaning, and would only wash my work clothing. I also noticed she started spending a lot of my money on stuff for the baby without telling me, so I took away her bank card and started giving her a 0 allowance which at the time seemed like a smart idea even though she resisted at first she accepted it. By 6 months our house had not improved so I asked my wife what was wrong and she said she was tired and her feet were swollen so I told her I was going to hire a maid twice a month and have it come out of her allowance. I ended up hiring a maid at that left her with only 0 and we both argued for a week about it and then on a friday I got home and my wife had packed her stuff and left. She left me a note telling me how much I hurt her by making what was supposed to be the most amazing time of her life into something she wanted to forget she also reminded me of how she took care of me after my accident and never took my bank card away or put me on an allowance. When I read that it really hit home and I drove to Georgia to bring her back home and she didn’t want to come back with me and then I really knew I messed up big time. My wife and I are still legally married but she said she wants a divorce once our son is born and that she doesn’t want to see me till after she has the baby, so I won’t even get to see my first son be born. I feel awful about how I treated her is ther any way I could try to save our marriage or Am I just hurting her by trying to save it? I already send her flowers daily and call her daily but her mom says she doesn’t want to speak with me. Her mom did tell me she cries a lot and says that she thinks my wife still loves me. What else can I do?

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My boyfriend and I were together for a year and 3 months.. and for the most part, we were completely happy, the whole relationship.. To be honest, I was in love with him before we even started dating. So, obviously.. I care alot for him, and I have for a long time now. We spent pretty much every day of the summer together, and we got alot closer over the past 4 or 5 months.. we had one of those relationships that all our friends were jealous of, and everyone wanted to be like us.. just because we were always happy together. Well then, out of nowhere.. he just breaks up with me last Sunday night and says that he doesn’t feel like he’s in love with me anymore. I know it’s not true.. because, when someone loves you, that’s something you know. I think he just needs some time, but this hurts so freaking bad! Can anyone tell me what I can do to get him back faster? I need this guy in my life.. he is my world, and I’ll love him forever! =/

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So we’ve been dating for about 5 months, and we were both in a relationship before. I had remained single after my previous relationship for a few months until i’d met him- he was in a relationship and started developing feelings for me. (Nothing physically happened between us whilst he was with his ex)

I wanted to take things slowly, having been through a bad time with my ex and also because I had become used to enjoying my own company.
I felt that he had slightly pushed me, or possibly made me feel guilty about us not being in a relationship, but utimately it was my decision.
During our 5 months of dating I said something which he interpreted the wrong way and led him to beleive we were no longer seeing each other. I had a lot of assignments on and couldn’t deal with the stress of the way he had overreacted at what I supposedly said, and in that time period he got back with his ex. I found it surprising but I wasn’t particularly bothered.

So after much ado, we are together. However, I find him too needy. He constantly texts me and if I dont reply within half an hour he texts again. He tells me he misses me all the time- something that I frequently tell him not to say. He has also told me he loves me, I did not say it back and he said he wouldn’t say it again until I said it first, which he not has done. There are several other things that I find too overwhelming but I think I’ve gone on long enough lol.

I have previously told him that I find him too needy/clingy but nothing has changed, so I guess my question is how can I easily break it off with him, without him going out drinking and ending up in a mess. Furthermore I think that he just doesn’t like to be by himself (having been with his ex for 4 years). Also, he lives with a couple of my friends from uni, which are now ulimately his friends (prior arguments have left our friends often taking his side due to his overeactions), so how can I make them not feel uncomfortable? What to do? What to do? Thanks
I guess I didn’t include any good things in there because I have been focusing on the bad.
We do have a lot in common, extremely strange things that I have never had in common with anyone. Sort of freaky actually. He is very kind to me, and I know I take that for granted

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I really need more advice on my ex girlfriend. I met her In November of 2008. She was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. We both fell in love, and I did a lot for her in the relationship. Cooked, bought her dinner, did all of the things that mattered. She ended up meeting a new guy 5 months into our relationship and fought and argued that entire month. He was clearly trying to steal her away from me. He offered to pay hundreds of dollars worth of bills for her after a week of knowing her! There was nothing I could do. She ended up cheating on me and left me for him. She still wanted me in her life, but I rejected. I was devastated. I was a psychological mess for months. Her relationship with that low life last maybe a couple weeks. We didn’t talk for months. A few months ago I decided I need to get over her. I deleted her off of my facebook and my phone to begin the process. A couple weeks ago she sent me a message on facebook and asked why I deleted her. I didn’t respond..I thought.."Why should I?" A few days later she sent me another message and was upset over the fact that I didn’t respond. She told me she was sorry for what she did to me. Her "new" boyfriend at the time was cheating on her. She told me she still wanted to be friends and wanted to be a part of my life. I responded back and told her how I felt about what she did to me. I told her I would think about her offer. She told me she was fine with that. She said she always worried about me, and thought it would be nice if we went out for lunch sometime. I thought about things for a few days. I realized that deep down I still loved her and missed being with her. I told her I would give things a chance. She was fine with it and told me she just wanted to be friends. She had just left her boyfriend because he cheated and wasn’t ready for anything. I told her that I wasn’t ready for anything either. I decided to be a nice guy and offered my condolences and informed her to call me if she needed someone to talk to. She sent me a text that night and thanked me for the thought, but told me she had to get over it herself. Again, she offered to go out to lunch sometime. I was fine with it, and told her to let me know when she wanted to. She wanted to start a conversation but I had to get to bed. I told her I would talk later. We didn’t speak for a few days. I ended up landing a couple hockey tickets yesterday. No one else wanted to go so I thought I would ask her. I sent her a text and asked what her plans were for Tuesday night. She never responded. Today I sent her a text and asked her if she wanted to go. She accepted and told me that it sounded like a great idea. I asked her if she received my text from yesterday, and she never responded. It’s been almost 8 hours.

It’s been 10 months since our breakup. WHY IS SHE DOING THIS? I was thinking I would give her a second chance if she proves that she’s changed..but I’m beginning to think she hasn’t. Is she taking the hard to get game to the next level? Is she confused? I really thought I had women figured out. Advice would be appreciated!

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It has been one month since my ex boyfriend broke up with me over some trust issues I had with him.

He was previously married for 9 years and has only been divorced for almost a year now. Before me, he dated another woman for 5 months and he broke up with her the same way he did with me; he withdrew emotionally, physically and picked fights with her then broke up with her over the phone. He told me he did this once he realized he was no longer in love with her.

I know he probably broke up with me because he is probably rebounding from being married for so long. I don’t think he’s dealing with the emotional aftermath of getting divorced in the best way, by dating women so soon after the end of his marriage.

But I can’t help wonder if I can successfully win him back, even though he broke up with me.

I emailed him last week and asked him to meet with me to talk but he sent me an email back refusing:

"I understand meeting to clear the air but honestly I do not see us getting back together. Honestly, there are too many things that I need to work through and I just don’t see us being togther. With that being said I don’t think that I will be seeing you today. Sorry."

So, what do you think? Should I keep trying or just give up?

We’re both in our late 30s by the way.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. He says he is in love with me, he thinks I’m "the one", and already has plans to ask me to marry him when I turn 18 O_O. When we first started going out I really liked him, but I’ve never really felt that connection with him. I don’t feel like I can tell him everything, and I don’t really even feel like I can completely be myself with him. As mean as it may sound, we are on completely different intelectual levels, which makes it hard for me to have good conversations with him. My mom is also not very fond of him, to the point where she has forbidden me from seeing him.
Now, my ex and I dated for 5 months, and it had ended on a bad note. Since we broke up, he aquired a new girlfriend, but they just recently broke up. We have started talking again, and I think we’ve both realized how much we miss being with each other. We really did have that special connection you want to have. We have alot in common, he was and probably still is, my best guy friend. I tell him everything and he tells me everything. My mom loves him, he’s pretty much everything she would want me to find in a guy. The other day he told me that he still loves me, but he doesn’t want to cause any trouble for me. I do still love him.
So my question is, should I stay with my boyfriend and see if any feelings will develop? Or should I break up with him and see what happens with my ex? Please help, this has been eating at me for weeks.

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What do I do? My best friend loves me… And i want to love him back but i like this other guy… and this other guy has a gf.
Iknow hell neva love me cuz theyv been together for like about 5 months now, n how do i forget him?
Second problem: My bestfriend loves me. And he is the sweetest guy you will eva meet. i know he would be the best bf i could eva have. i want to like him, but im stuck thinking about the other guy.
Also how do i make sure our relationship stays the same. cuz he just told me (i already knew though) n i dont know how hes gonna be from now on, especially since we are th etype of friends who give each other tons o hugs n stuff. n i like leaning on him too…
What do i do???
P.S. I’d really appreciate it if you could help with all three problems.. thnx
Okay. so the second n third person to answer this ? told me to just go out w da guy who likes me, if i were to do that. woul it be okay?
n how exactly do i tell him yes after ive already said no…?
Well. i just saw him…
and were as normal as ever, although i do start wondering how he feels.
i kno this is the stupidest thing to ask but…..
Can i make myself fall in love with him??

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