We dated for almost 6 years. he started seeing someone 2 weeks before we actually broke up and got into a relationship with the other woman soon after. They dated for about 5 months until he decided that she is such a negative person and almost suicidal. He kept in contact with me halfway through their relationship then we finally hung out and he started to feel regret and slowly let her go but she would take drugs and threaten to kill herself if he left her. He had to stick around a bit longer and pretend to be her boyfriend until he could get past her negativity and leave her alone.

It has been almost 7 months since he ended his relationship with the negative girl & we’ve also been talking. We just recently discussed why he cheated and went through that phase. However, I still feel angry and disgusted that he had sex with her even though we weren’t together. I guess it’s because we were each other’s firsts and there was no one else. I don’t know how i’m going to get past this & trust him again.

I want to know why guys cheat after being in a long relationship then all of a sudden go back to us. How do I know he really regrets his mistake? I want to take him back, but not too easily… I just don’t know if what he’s showing me now is worthy of taking him back. How did you get your ex-girlfriend back after you cheated on her?

He gave me 4 promise rings that I wore almost everyday & I gave them back to him when we broke up. He wears one with my name on it everyday on his pinky. It even left a tan line on his finger. I told him that I couldn’t hold on to them for as long as we don’t have a relationship.

He’s taking me out on an official date this thursday to watch Goapele. She sang our song: Closer. I have a feeling that he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend w/ the rings I gave back to him. As sweet as the setting may be almost perfect, I’m not sure if I am ready…

I dont want to take him back too soon to think that i’m that easy. Is 7 months a long time?

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we were together over 13 years since i was 17. we were married 11 of them. I come from a broken home my mother is married to an alcoholic that was abusive to her. My grandmother took me away from her when i was 10. but every time they would get into it. We would go get her and help her get away from him and then she would go back. This went on even until I was married with my own kids and own problems. Finally when i was 23 she moved in with us and i told her if she went back that I would never help her again because i couldn’t take it anymore. She went back less than 3 months later.
Well my relationship started at a time in my life that i was headed down the wrong path and at 17 i had my heart broken to many times falling for the wrong guys.
then me and my ex started dating and we were in separable. We married just a little over a year dating i got pregnant. Had my first son at 19. My ex always had a temper and would blow up even before we got married. he was really jealous. i couldn’t go do stuff with my friends unless he came.
He didn’t start drinking till after we got married. i was 7 months along.
We lived right down the road from his parents. So i got really close to them. Some verbal abuse and his drinking got worse over time he would push or just threaten me.
Time went on we had another son and it would get so bad that i would l leave and get away even if i had to sleep in my car. i debated on leaving for years. but he has a good paying job and anytime anything would happen i would go buy me something.
It wasn’t always bad we had a lot of good times too. I love him more than anything he was my world. His family was the family i never had.
But when things would happen no one ever knew cause i would pretend we were a perfect family because that’s all i ever wanted. then 3 years ago my dreams came true we found some land built us a new house.
but during the time of building our new house he had started hanging around a guy that is a drug head and theif.
He would lie to me and go pick the guy up without my knowledge and put himself insituations that were he could have been killed.
Of course we would fight and pushing and shoving got worse with the verbal and emotional abuse. I would catch him in lies over and over.
one time went swimming with this guy with my kids after dark in a creek. He would never answer the phone and come to find out he was skinny dipping with 2 girls. But i stuck in there was getting my big new house.
Time we on the lies the fighting the drinking got worse. Finally after not even living in the new house i gave up. I found out he was selling pills and just hanging out with losers that don’t work and were single. i just started to hate him. So 6 more months went by just getting worse. I was going crazy cause I loved him so much and was begging him to change. Pick me or his drug loser friends. So finally Christmas morning in 2007 i refused to go to his family because of the fighting morning. I told his mother that i couldn’t handle the drinking anymore. Two nights later we went out with friends for drinks and met another man.
well now it’s been 1 1/2 later. I’ve divorced him. but i keep going back in forth between my ex husband and ex boyfriend. I love them both in different ways, they have both now physically and mentally abused me. But my ex boyfriend has went to counseling and still talks to a pastor. My ex still drinks as always and even now has started cussing my kids. But I still Love him!!! i wish everything could work but i can’t take the lies and the verbal and physical abuse. i want to go back now! but not even 2 weeks ago he choked me till i almost past out!
he doesn’t spend much time with my kids but he is trying.
My ex boyfriends worships the ground i walk on!! He loves my kids and they love him. What should i do go back to there dad? Get back with my ex boyfriend. Just confused please HELP!!!
Plus all my so called friends love my ex husband since they know as the great couple lol but they go back and tell him what i’m doing. so i have no friends to turn to… thanks

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How Do I Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back?

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a little over 7 months ago, and now were just friends with benefits. I still love him and want to be with him again.

We live 2 hours apart so it’s kinda hard to get together much.

What do I do to get him back?

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We dated for almost 6 years. he started seeing someone 2 weeks before we actually broke up and got into a relationship with the other woman soon after. They dated for about 5 months until he decided that she is such a negative person and almost suicidal. He kept in contact with me halfway through their relationship then we finally hung out and he started to feel regret and slowly let her go but she would take drugs and threaten to kill herself if he left her. He had to stick around a bit longer and pretend to be her boyfriend until he could get past her negativity and leave her alone.

It has been almost 7 months since he ended his relationship with the negative girl & we’ve also been talking. We just recently discussed why he cheated and went through that phase. However, I still feel angry and disgusted that he had sex with her even though we weren’t together. I guess it’s because we were each other’s firsts and there was no one else. I don’t know how i’m going to get past this & trust him again.

I want to know why guys cheat after being in a long relationship then all of a sudden go back to us. How do I know he really regrets his mistake? I want to take him back, but not too easily… I just don’t know if what he’s showing me now is worthy of taking him back. How did you get your ex-girlfriend back after you cheated on her?
He gave me 4 promise rings that I wore almost everyday & I gave them back to him when we broke up. He wears one with my name on it everyday on his pinky. It even left a tan line on his finger. I told him that I couldn’t hold on to them for as long as we don’t have a relationship.

He’s taking me out on an official date this thursday to watch Goapele. She sang our song: Closer. I have a feeling that he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend w/ the rings I gave back to him. As sweet as the setting may be almost perfect, I’m not sure if I am ready…

Is this a hint that he’s actually trying?

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Me and My ex (of 2 years) have been split up for about 7 months. We have both been thorugh a bad relationship since we broke up. No we are both single! We talk a couple times a week and i have been to his house to hangout and talk. I wonder if he still cares about me and if he would take me back. We stopped dating because we were fighting alot and we wanted to spend more time with friends. Now, i have grown up and experienced alot of stuff. I have learned the hard way about some relationship things from a previous relationship. We both enjoy talking and listening to each other. How can i get him back???
Well, we were talking about the old days and we didnt say we missed them but laughed and joked about them!? Idk what that means?

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My husband lost his second job in 6 months. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We have 3 other kids. All he will do is sleep. My dad offered him a small job and he went to bed. A friend offered him a small job and he went to bed. Right now he is sleeping of the couch while our kids are fighting. He won’t help me at all. I am so sick of this. I get so mad that last night I locked him out of our room. He tried to call me at 4:00 in the morning to let him in. Would you try to work it out or call it quits?

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My husband and I have been married for 7 months and about 3 months ago he left, over some jealousy issues and his family was encouraging the leave. I was helping my sister with the youth group at our church and some of the kids started texting me. The one that the problem was over was a 17 year old male. He said ‘love you’ a couple times, but in my church we say that. I’m not justifying it because it was wrong, but nothing to leave over. We were together for 5 years, before we got married. My husband left that day (in August). Right after the leave, he told me he wanted to work things out and get counseling. Then about two weeks later, he filed for divorce. He changed his phone number so for about a month, I couldn’t call him only email, but he would never respond. I called a couple times to his parent’s house for him and his father said "stop calling here, WE got rid of you"! By the way, since 8th grade and dated, his parents never liked me, and didn’t approve of us dating. Didn’t even approve of us getting married.
In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don’t love you anymore. I don’t miss you. We’re going through a divorce.
In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he’s contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him “Do you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won’t come when I ask.
He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn’t service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.
In December, it’s gotten better. We’re talking more, he’s coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won’t answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he’s not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?
Let me know if you have any questions about any detail?

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Also, he made a facebook when he left and won’t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying "If you don’t want to talk to me anymore just tell me"!!

No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.

His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn’t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.
Yes, but I’m trying to get some more input

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I want my husband back!

My husband left 7 months ago but didn’t file for divorce until 4 months later. He told me he wouldn’t come back no matter what I said or did. The back story: We met almost 19 years ago when I was dating another guy. He and I hit it off immediately but because I was in a relationship, we had to be “just friends”.

For a year and a half he followed me around as I did things with friends and invited him along, in addition to him showing up and calling me at work a lot to “check on our computers” (since he was our computer repair guy). My boss said we never got that kind of service from him before I started working there. He’d take me out as “friends” when my boyfriend was working or out of town, etc., and we always had a blast.

As soon as my then boyfriend and I broke up, my now husband was there to catch me when I fell. The blinders came off of my eyes and I finally saw what a wonderful guy he was and I fell for him, hard. We dated, moved in together months later, lived together over a year and then married. We were a couple for 17 years and we’ve been married for 15 years, plus the 7 months we’ve been separated. About 4 years into the marriage (about 7 years after we were were a couple) I started rescuing dogs and placing them in new homes whenever possible, until the homes started drying up.

We had as many as 12 dogs (and a cat) at one time. When he left me we still had 9 dogs (and the cat). He told me he left because I wouldn’t get rid of the dogs as he kept asking me to do, and that I was emotionally abusive to him and treated him like a doormat. I disagree, and I reminded him of how I had been in a severe depression for over 5 years, and that’s why I couldn’t part with the dogs then, because I needed them more than they needed me (I hadn’t been feeling the love from him for a long time, but they made me feel loved).

Since he left (saying he wasn’t coming back no matter what I said or did) I told him I’d get rid of the dogs and go back to marriage counseling, but he said it’s too late. Later, I found out he told his best friend (who’s also my best friend) that he would have gotten rid of the dogs the next day if I left him and they were his dogs.

When he left he said he wasn’t coming back, no matter what I said or did, but I still tried to find the dogs homes one by one, in case he would change his mind seeing that I was able to let them go now. He told the friend he didn’t think I was serious about placing them.

Anyway, now that 1 dog has been placed and 2 have since died, and the others will be placed very soon, he’s saying it no longer matters because he’s just not coming back.

Now he says his counseling is helping him learn about himself (from the marriage counselor we had both been seeing, but that I had been seeing with him but had left for good reason), and he says if he would have known himself then the way he does now, he wouldn’t have gotten married. This from the guy that followed me like a puppy dog for a year and a half, while I was with another guy, and even dated my roommate at my request so he could spend more time with me (he told me this a couple of years after we were married).

I don’t know what to believe now. He wanted me, waited for me, married me and now says he knows himself better and wouldn’t have married me. All this was said AFTER I got rid of the dogs that he said he wanted me to get rid of (the ones that were supposedly the main reason he left me over, in addition to my supposed emotional abuse of him). I feel he thought I was emotional abusive because he kept things inside and I always tried to get things out in the open. He hates conflict of any kind, because of his parents’ tumultuous relationship during his childhood.

Is there any hope for us? Does anyone out there know what’s really going on inside his mind (and NO, he’s never, ever been unfaithful, ever, me neither), and how I can reach him? He’s VERY prideful and doesn’t want to admit to ME that I hurt him by not letting go of the dogs and that he felt I didn’t love him enough and loved them more than him (which was NEVER true).

He’d tell me that in the past, but I didn’t think he was serious. Now he’s told friends that too, but he won’t tell me now that it’s part of it (mainly the biggest part of it according to our friends, and to me). Please help if you can figure him out and have answers for me. And please hold the negative and mean comments, I’m very emotional right now and raw, and I don’t need that kind of thing, trust me. All legitimate helpers with possible helpful answers are much needed to reply.

Thanks.

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My DH and I have tried to conceive for 7 months. We went through one miscarriage – and our relationship seemed to be stronger for what we have gone through.

I finally got my BFP on Wednesday. My DH was out of town, and I couldn’t reach him as he seemed to vanish except one text msg. I started cramping on Friday and went to the MD – they said no fetal heartbeat but a sac and to wait and see. When I finally reached my DH – he said nothing except "I am confused over my ex wife."

I went to the MD today and everything is beautiful with the baby. My hCG levels are not increasing quite as quick as they should be so that is very concerning but the baby is there – 8 weeks 3 days and has a heart rate of 171. It was amazing to hear and I burst into tears because I was there alone. I told my doctor and she is horrified as she knows we have been trying. Anyway…

Well I told him not to come home Sunday night – to go somewhere else and he did. I am with my family so I am not alone and today he tells me he is going back to his ex wife. When I told him we are having a baby and the baby is fine, he says he wants to know if I would allow he and his ex wife to have the baby live with them because she is sterile and they always wanted a baby. OMG – is he off his rocker? We aren’t children – he is 38 and I am 28. Not that it matters, but I am a clean cut, alcohol and drug free woman with a stable home, great job, etc and he leaves me when I am pregnant and thinks he is going to take MY BABY to play house with his ex wife?

To say I became hysterical, sobbing and irrate is a gross understatement. I told him over my dead body will that happen and he said he "didn’t want to miss all the firsts and time with the baby" but I am supposed to because he is a selfish SOB? I told him that is the price you pay when you leave your pregnant wife – you don’t get to have it all.

The crappy part is that I am crushed, devestated, irrate and heartbroken. I have this little miracle growing beneath my heart and I know that my DH is wrapped in the arms of his ex wife as we speak. He told me she said "She will love the baby as her own" so I shouldn’t worry about how she will feel towards the baby. I am devestated. I feel like my soul is being ripped out of my chest and my lungs cannot even breath my heart aches so much.

What do I do? I want to hate him, but I am so madly in love with him that my heart is in a million little pieces. My OB/GYN told me she cannot imagine what I am going through, but said this stress is not good for the baby. How do I do this?

I need advice…

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I met my ex about 2 and a half years ago. We got along great for a while than I just started suspected things were going on behind my back. He wouldnt take me around any of his friends for about 7 months and when he finally did a girl that I had always been suspicious of who he told me was "just a friend" was very rude to me. I got upset and just had a feeling like something happened. He continued to talk to this girl and even went on trips with her and others. He kept telling me that he never did anything with her and if I couldnt trust him I shouldnt be with him. I let it go well tried my hardest atleast though it always bothered me. A while later we seemed to be doing much better. I was living with my mom as I am a single mother of two kids. He came to spend the summer with me and we lived together at my moms (He lived about an hour away). Things went pretty well while we were staying there and he got me an engagement ring and we got our own place down his way. We had been living together for only a couple of months when he told me that he didnt want to be with me anymore that I am too controlling and that I didnt treat him like a human being. We still lived together and ended up getting back together. Things were going good again for a while and he stopped talking to most other girls that I ever had suspicions of. He got me a new engaement ring for Valentines day this year and surprised me with a bear he had delivered. We got into a fight about a month later because he went out all night and didnt come home til the next day. It’s not that I didnt trust him, I really dont think he was doing anything except drinking with the guys but ive always told him that I dont care if he goes out but we have a family and he should be home at night. In a rage of fury I packed some of his stuff and told him that if he didnt love me to go. He told me he loved me more than anything in this world and didnt want to leave. I had a class the next morning and when I came home he had all the rest of his stuff packed and moved out. He was still coming for dinner once a week and than one day he said maybe we should start dating again and we took the kids to the movies. People started telling me things he was saying behind my back, that I took advantage of him and that he took care of my kids (he watched them while I worked, not for anything else) and that he wasnt going to get back with me that i just kept nagging him. I called him and asked him and he yelled at my that it’s a bunch of high school bs and hung up on me. I told him to get the rest of his stuff out of the house and to just let me alon that I couldnt play the games anymore. It’s been about 2 weeks now and I havent heard a word from him. I sent him a picture of my ultrasound (turns out Im 9 weeks preg) and he told me that it wasnt his and Im not really preg. He talked to the kids on Easter but he wont speak to me. He told my sister that there is no chance of us ever getting back together and that when the baby is born he will take care of it but besides that he wants nothing to do with me. Also it came out that he was seeing that other girl when we first got together. I was the longest relationship he was ever in, the first girl he ever said I love you to and the only person he’s ever lived with. He still has some of his belongings here and also the cable and water bills are in his name. I’m just so torn on how you can give someone a ring one week and decide your done the next. He is moving four hours away in about a month and I am afraid I am going to lose him forever. I gave up everything to move down here and be with him, my family, friends and job. Is there anything I can do to make him want to come back home?

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her. I emailed her and simply said that I would like to try and make our relationship work. She told me that she misses me as well, but she needs more time, which I am going to give her. Before she broke-up with me, she said I had been a "heel" at times, not quite a jerk, bust just a thoughtless, selfish, stupid ass. No verbal abuse, we always respected each other, certainly no physical abuse and no cheating by either of us. I know she will get to the point where she will be over me entirely, and I will lose my high school sweetheart (she found me after 26 years of looking!) Please, no smarmy answers, I’m hurting here. Have you taken somebody back that was a little insensitive at times (together 7 months), but who you knew was very sorry and who is, in fact, capable of change? I really would like to think that she just needs that time, but that we can run into each others arms again (OK, I know, a little too sappy). Thoughts? TY!

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I want my ex back. i broke up with him 7 months ago. we still talk, and everything and his friend told me he still has feellings for me. Only thing is, he has been messing around with other girls like doing things. his friend says its a way to get over me. what should i do?
should i talk to him?

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i love my ex soo much! it hurts and i just wish the pain will go away and i could get over him. but i love him like crazy. i wish that me and him lasted longer he was my best friend and boyfriend. i loved him up to the point where it hurts. i mean he broke up with me because "we werent connecting" but really it was because i was too emotional and i complained to much. because he told my friends that. and he broke up with me on december 2 on the phone. me and him went out for 7 months and hung out alot. i miss him and i wish knew what to do to get him back. i mean i did the most romantic stuff in our relashinship. it was like a freggen love story. someone please help me on how to win him back. or should i just wait till he comes or give him signs i dont hate him for what he did. PLEASE HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP.
also i saw him the other day at the high school. i go to a school for freshmen and hes a junior. and my stupid friend was like "HIiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii" and he said hi but i didnt know whether to say hi to him or not because i know he thinks i hate him but i dont. he also sometimes asks my best friend how im doing.

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Hi there, just a little bit of advice.

I met a guy at his work i was out with my children, we added each other on a social networking site, i knew him for about a month.
We got chatting on the site, i have been engaged for 7 years with 2 kids, he has been married for 9 years. When we got chatting we got a bit flirty u know.
Things can become outta hand if u know what i mean.

He said he liked me, started developing feelings for me after speaking to me every-night for about a month. I was feeling the same way. We both met in the park he brought his kids i brought mine, they played together an stuff we got talking more.
So we knew each other for like 2 months, i told him i wanted to be friends, he said he would always have feelings for me still but he would still be there for me. I quite liked that!

Anyway he ended up telling his wife about face-book, his wife saw he had a female friend, didn’t like it, deleted his facebook & his number, even got him to stop working where he worked. (that’s where we met)
He said he was falling outta love with his wife, same with me. It had been like that for a while.

So my fella found out too got on the phone to this guy shouting abuse, then his number changed, obviously by his wife.

So anyway i just let it go, 7 months down the line, somebody i knew told me where he lived as i was telling them, they knew him too.
Me & my mate went up there, saw him at his kids school. (this was 7 months after this ordeal) I went up to him to ask what was going on, he looked like a tramp, said he was really depressed, had problems etc… weren’t gonna go back to work. I really couldn’t believe how much he had changed in 7 months.
I explained to him that i still had feelings for him, he said he didnt wanna get back into all this cos there was loads of trouble the last time with his wife. He seems scared of her. He didn’t look happy anway.
I spoke to him for about half an hour, he didn’t wanna know at all, still said it was nice to see me & give me a hug but still didnt wanna know with being depressed & his wife etc.. said he was getting councilling to get better but why did this man tell me he had feelings & everything then just suddenly dissapear. I really had something there for him, but now this has just left me all confused. I wanna see him again but don’t know how to go about it. Any ideas?

Don’t forget all the kids involved were really happy in this situation, there weren’t a problem at the start.
Me & the man ive been with for 7 years anway weren’t happy!

I mean the fella who said he had feelings for me says he did have at the time, so question im askin is do u think he has or ever did have based on what ive told you. I also wanna get back in touch with this guy but dunno what to do??

Sorry about it being so long, any answers much appreciated.
Cheers.

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me and my ex talked for like a year, then we broke up like 7 months ago because it didnt work out and now she wont leave me alone. She constantly call my house, cometimes she will be down the street a her cousins house watchin up the street at my house. She will ask people have they seen me, then last month she tried to break me and my girlfiend up. Im tired of this shi* I am about to go crazy. What would you do?
talking to her doesnt help, Im at the edge with her. Do you know how that shi* feel? And then she has a boy friend!

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We were dating for around 7 months and everything was going great! sex was good, we communicated great, and we just made each other happy! Than one day when i was texting her she tells me that she has a class with her ex boyfriend, her most serious relationship before she met me. than while talking a few days later she breaks up with me.. out of no where!! i didnt even see it coming. apparently this guy told her that he still loves her and how sorry he was for cheating on her. so whether or not they will get back together i dont know, but im guessing they are if she could just leave me like that.. any advice to get her back!!?? its been a week and im going crazy! I mean i know im only in grade 12, but i honestly thought this was the girl i could marry! she keeps telling me that she still loves me and cares for me, but she needs to get her head straight or some BS.. anyways if u could give me some words of advice that would be great!!!

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Did she ever really love me?

Hello everyone, I “dated” a girl for 7 months. After about a month and a half she told me she loved me. I already felt like I loved her, but did not say anything. Once she said it I did too. I thought she was the best thing that ever happened to me. We worked together and kept it a secret. That was what she wanted and I agreed. We both agreed to keep it exclusive. About 2 months in she tells me her ex is texting her and she wants to be friendly because they have mutual friends.

Things ended badly and friends were picking sides. Anyway, she starts to become more distant. At around 3 months she comes over 1night crying. She doesn’t tell me what’s going on but she puts on old love songs and cries her eyes out.

I figured something happened between her and the ex and that’s why she became distant and also why she is crying now. He probably screwed her over again. So we go away on a trip. She told me it was just going to be me & her, but somehow it was cheaper to bring more people so we have 2 of her friends come along. One of the friends works with us so we kind of keep our distance so her friend won’t find out. Once we get to our destination it turns out there is another friend ( a guy) that she knows there. We all go out drinking and I’m getting tired and want to leave. She keeps stepping outside to smoke with her guy friend. When they stepped out to have another cigarette I stepped out as well. I saw them hugging and his hand on her ass.

I was so pissed that I grabbed my luggage and left. A couple of days pass and we talk. She tells me she never intended for that to happen and she is sorry. I decide to forgive her. So one day when we’re 4 months into this she is in my house and goes to work and leaves her email open. I know I shouldn’t have put I looked. Turns out she wrote a goodbye letter to her ex during that second month she was being distant. In it she says she loves him and how could he screw her over even though they made love the night before. I felt crushed. There was also a pic she text’d to another guy of her in a bra showing her cleavage. I never told her I saw these things. We have been fighting for several months because I want her to spend more time with me. She never makes plans for us, and she only comes over on her days off after she goes partying. I told her people that people who love each other want to spend time together. Every time I broke it off (and there have been alot) she calls, or texts, me saying she misses me. The break-ups almost never last longer than 8 days not talking.

We went away together the end of August. Then in September she becomes distant again and I saw her only 2x that month. Then in October we spend several days together. I’m over at her house and she asks me to hand her her daily planner. I see that at the end of August she has a guys name written in as “he lands”. I ask her and she says it’s a friend she had to pick up from the airport. So now I wonder if he is the reason why she became distant in September. I have recently found out that on facebook she has been clling this “friend” hot. And that she asked him “when are we going to hang out?”

I have been asking her to hang out on a regular basis for months, but she never makes time. She only does it when I break things off. I believe she loved me cause she said so and whenever I wouldn’t speak to her she would call/text me. She has even cried on the phone with me. I again broke things off with her 3 weeks ago. She says she is used to me doing that so it doesn’t bother her. I have been crying alot recently. I really love her and would gladly forgive her if she were to see me more often and stop her nonsense.

Does anyone else think she may love me? She seems like it doesn’t matter to her that we are apart going on a month now. I tell her I still love her and that she needs to stop contacting me. She says she will then she calls/texts. She doesn’t do it to get back together of work things out. She does it to hear my voice or vent about something. I wouldn’t even mind that but when I need to hear her voice or talk she is never available. And because we were a secret we could never been seen together at work. Yet she goes out with guys from work all the time. She does it on a regular basis. She tells me it’s cause they are friends and we actually date. She makes me feel like shit all the time. I just can’t let go of her.

Please give me some advice.

Thanks.

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I’m 21 yrs old he is 22 we’ve been married for 7 months and it seems like all we do is argue sometimes about the stupidest things and sometimes really bad yelling at each other. When we first got married he was looking at porn while I was gone for work( he was on vacation) and I told him I didnt like that. He stopped and even asked me to block everything for him. I noticed because we are very active sexually and all of a sudden he wouldnt be interested at all, it would bother him if I touched him, thats how I knew something was up. That was about 6 months ago, it stopped and now I feel like it’s happening again( work is very slow now, so he has to stay home here and there) I get home he feels uncomfortable if I touch him or whatever, but porn is blocked on the computer, the phone records only have numbers I know, we live in an apartment with only way older people that leave to work everyday and we never talk to them, he plays xbox all day yes, which doesnt bother me, and when i come home the house is clean and sometimes he cooks dinner. I dont know whats going on, why is he acting this way. I try and try to talk to him and he says "all this accusing is killing us baby" he only wants to make love once at night which is ok, but I know my man and even when he works out in the sun all day, we both come home and have 2-3 times before bed.

He loves me and I love him, but I feel like something is going on and I dont know what to do? he says "stop accusing me of shit I aint doing" and stuff like that, he doesnt get really angry, only if I start crying or something gets him frustrated….I want this to workout but he says he feels like he cant make me happy, im constanly accusing him and nagging him. I try to be a good wife to him, we go out on the weekends to dance movies or whatever, it’s just that every time he stays home alone, he looses interest in sex with me…….PLEASE HELP ANYONE!! I WANT TO SAVE MY MARRIAGE!

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My ex boyfriend and I broke up awhile ago, It’s been hard for me to get over him. Him and I dated for about 2 years and my junior and senior year of high school. He was a year older then I was and when i was a senior he went to away to college. He still came down to see me every friday and when he didn’t have a car I went up to see him every saturday. I loved him very much and I always thought we were going to get married. Even though we fought a lot I still very much cared for him. I would of done anything to make him happy. It’s been about 7 months since him and I have broken up. When he broke up with me I thought it would be just another break up and we’d get back togther like always. When we broke up I asked him if he’d be my prom date as friends. He said no so i went with someone else. When he found out he got mad and threaten my prom date. The next day of prom we started to talk again and i thought everything would be back to normal. We met up 2x and had sex. When i went away to vacation I didn’t bother to text him cause i was still hurt by him. He stopped texting me and one random night I found out he had a girlfriend on facebook. Little did i know his girlfriend would have gone to the same college as me. One night him and I decided to met at a park he told me that he was over me and wanted his promise ring and tiffany necklace back. I got very upset and i just gave it to him. He then broke up with his gf that he had. But during all this time him and I haven’t gone a month without talking to each other either by text or phone. Even though were not in good terms we would text each other random mean stuff. The other night he texted me telling me he has a new hot girfriend that he fucks all the time and has slept with 15 woman since me. It was a very random text. He then went on and started making fun of me but then asked me to send nude pics of myself. When i told him no that he has a gf and why would he want pics of me if he has a hot gf, He would respond by saying fine your right my gf is so much hotter. 5 min later he’d ask me again I then told him that his girlfriend would find out sooner or later because they always do. He told me ok and to stop texting him. I’ve only been with one other guy since him and it didn’t seem right. To me theres really no one else i’d want to be with but him but i dont forgive him for breaking my heart and sleeping with random sluts. I can’t help how my feelings are towards him. I was fine before he texted me last night and telling me how many woman his fucked after awhile I’ll be fine and not think about it as much but then he would text me some random nights. I dont know what to do, should i let him live his life? Or should i just stay single until i met someone new. give it time and see what happens? I asked his friend why he would tell me about him fucking woman randomly he told me that he is probably fucking with me and trying to make me jealous. He says that he is over me and doesnt want me in his life but why would he care to make me jealous? Do you think he still has feelings for me? Guys are so complicated! I do not know what to do HELP PLEASE

thank you for taking the time to read this

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Ok so I am 18 and my ex gf is 17. She broke up with me the day after Thanksgiving (a little over a month ago). I deserved to be dumped b/c I treated her like complete sh*t. I mainly did this b/c I was hurting so bad inside. I went to the Doctor December 14th (without anyone asking me to get help, so that right there shows you I am wanting to change!) and he diagnosed me with a severe case of clinical depression. I am currently getting my meds under control and start therapy next week.

I contacted my ex today for the first time in nearly 3 weeks and she said that she loves me, she misses me, but she doesnt want to get hurt again. She said it will be MONTHS (yes, she said months!) before we can even become SEMI-friends again. I couldnt believe this! I had admitted to lying to her in the past today, I have also been manipulative towards her, and I always got mad at her over little things, but I have apologized hundreds of times for not getting help sooner; but other than this crap, our near year long relationship was perfect. She said that its caused so much stress on both our families (my bro and her half sister are married…its really not weird or anything so i dont want anyone talking crap), and I will agree that it has. Her parents disagree with her dating me b/c they think we just arent right for each other. SO WHAT CAN I SAY TO HER TO GET HER TO GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW I HAVE CHANGED!?!

**Oh and I dont want to wait to long to get a relationship going again b/c in 7 months we will be going to different colleges that are about 30 minutes apart. BUT dont tell me to just move on b/c I am in absolute love with this girl and I just cant do that! Thanks a lot everyone!

I have also been very suicidal lately and she knows about this and i think i hurt her more (not intentionally) by telling her this but i went and saw my psychiatrist and am getting it worked out now.

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Oh plus I dont even work so Im home constantly.
I got a inheritance when my parents died.
I was with my ex for 6 years and lived with her for 2.
She left all most a year ago and Im still not over her. I don’t stalk her or anything I haven’t even tried to speak with her in like 7 months but I cant move on.
Ive been in a drunkin drug induced stupper for god knows how long.
Ive had plenty of opportunities for a new GF and all my friends have tried to set me up and once in a while I will be messed up and have a one night stand but I will never let it move on from there.
I just cant get over her. Im all most 30 years old and im a mess. Booze an drugs are costing me all most a grand a week, all I do is get wasted and hope she will call. If and when I come to the conclusion shes not going to call I probably would completely fall apart and possibly commit suicide.
Where do I go from here? Im lost

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hey i know this is weird
im 14 and been going out with a girl whos now my ex for 7 months
she recently texted me outta the blue during school ( within the final hour of the day ) and she said shes sorry to do this by text but she doesnt want to go out anymore. why couldnt she do this in person

i dont understand this she says its cuz i dont kiss her or hold her hand any more
which i havent had the oppertunity to do

and she wont listen to me anymore i really wnat to get back with her

please helpp
i have texted her about 20 times all like 2 pages each telling her i still love her and that we could get through it if all she wanted was for me to be more passionate thats easy we used to be passionate then she came back from holiday and then it weent down a bit then i went away for 2 weeks went down moree then a few months down the line this

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Ok so I am 18 and my ex gf is 17. She broke up with me the day after Thanksgiving (a little over a month ago). I deserved to be dumped b/c I treated her like complete sh*t. I mainly did this b/c I was hurting so bad inside. I went to the Doctor December 14th (without anyone asking me to get help, so that right there shows you I am wanting to change!) and he diagnosed me with a severe case of clinical depression. I am currently getting my meds under control and start therapy next week.

I contacted my ex today for the first time in nearly 3 weeks and she said that she loves me, she misses me, but she doesnt want to get hurt again. She said it will be MONTHS (yes, she said months!) before we can even become SEMI-friends again. I couldnt believe this! I had admitted to lying to her in the past today, I have apologized hundreds of times for not getting help sooner; but other than this crap, our near year long relationship was perfect. She said that its caused so much stress on both our families (my bro and her half sister are married…its really not weird or anything so i dont want anyone talking crap), and I will agree that it has. Her parents disagree with her dating me b/c they think we just arent right for each other. SO WHAT CAN I SAY TO HER TO GET HER TO GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW I HAVE CHANGED!?!

**Oh and I dont want to wait to long to get a relationship going again b/c in 7 months we will be going to different colleges that are about 30 minutes apart. BUT dont tell me to just move on b/c I am in absolute love with this girl and I just cant do that! Thanks a lot everyone!

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Yes im thirteen and in 8th grade. I am not too young to be in a relationship. He is 12 and in 7th grade but i dont care if he is younger than me. I have gone out with him twice and broke his heaert both times): first time was for another guy after 7 months and second time was after 2months because i cheated on him. he can be immature sometimes but hes only 12. he gets real shy around girls he likes which i find totally adorable but it gets on my nerves sometimes. he is scarred to make a move which really sucks cuz im shy too! i mean we hold hands and what not but he wont kiss me and i dont like making the first move. i am 5′6" and he is really short id say 4′11" but theres nothing wrong with that i think its awesome. he is super athletic and teeny tiny!! hes got a great body extremely muscular with an 8 pack and nice and tan…. his abs are amazing lmao! he doesnt have a cell phone but i call him on his home phone and one night we talked from like 7:30 pm to like 5 am! my best friend has dated him too but also broke up with him for another guy (sometimes u just cant take the whole "neever makes a move even if his life depends on it" thing.). i just found out like 2 weeks ago that he likes me..yay..and i like him too. i saw him last night and wanted to talk to him about it but my dad kept following us so i never got to. i dated his bro too……but that didnt last long. his friend likes me but hes in 6th grade and dated my sister =0 and cuts himself and told me everything and trusts me with it cuz he likes me but i dont like him back hes a tad bit young for me and i told him i like the guy(drake) and he called him and told him and i dunno what to do…….help?

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