I’ve been married for ten years. The last five have been difficult and my husband asked me to date others- after faking a relationship for a year I finally met someone- and our romance grew. After 9 months I thought it was time to leave my marriage but I find that I am holding back from committing with my boyfriend. Now after 3 months of seperation, during which my estranged husband was wonderful and understanding- everything he wasnt when we were together- he has asked for a second chance after he has determined that I have second thoughts about the BF. This is my question. Husband for ten years- knows me the best- wonderful father- excellent provider- who basically gave me away. Boyfriend- excellent lover-positive &socially active as I like to be-with clinginess and maybe not as intelligently inclined as I would like. I care for them both very much. But im thinking of my children and my future. Husband is stable we have a home- boyfriend is a renter and needs to quit smoking.help
I know its weird! Trust me I didnt think he was serious- at first it was a fantasy that later got stronger for the real thing- which is why I faked it for a year that I was with someone else. He now says it was the worst mistake to ever share me. I agree its weird- im not asking you to chose- maybe im asking whats the best way to chose and what I should consider. and you are probably right- maybe I should be alone first and figure out what I need to do for myself before involving other lives.
For our wedding my FH & I must give both of our families 9 months to 1 year notice to book travel and save money ETC… Also we live in the MD/DC area where if you do not book at least a year in advance you will not have a day
My FH sister is getting married in West Africa in August of 2009 since my FH & I have to take time from work in August we decided to make our wedding date in October. My FH dad has since informed me that his son should have known due to health reasons and the temperature in this region, (he is coming from West Africa) he can not travel to America in October he wants us to push the wedding until April.
Also if he were coming in April he could stay for 5 months and visit family etc… The trip is costly so he wants to make it worth while. I really want to get married and live with my husband. Having a civil marriage and a wedding ceremony later on is not an option. I feel the wedding is not about me but the joining of two families so I want our parents there. The hall said we have until Thursday to change the contract and is holding both dates. So would you do October 2009 without his folks or April 2010 with his folks? MY FH and I are posting this to see what outsiders think.
a civil cermony with a renewal of vows is not an option
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy.
We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week.
We still kiss eachother and “hookup” and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public.
I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feeling for him, he listened to me and said he needed to think.
So the other day i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said “Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out.” is this a good thing?
:/
we been broke up for 3 months i broke up with her because she was to clingy. i was stupid but i want her back. she dated my friend for four days and they broke up two days ago. this is a letter i wrote her.
dear angel( a nickname i gave her)
hey how you been? we’ll hopefully good.. but anways let me get to the point of why im writing you this letter. honestly i been thinking about you lately and its hard to get you off my
mind. i mean all the good times we had. from you being really shy, to us talking on the phone late at night, spending time at the movies, your house, at the park, or out shopping.
it really didnt matter what we did we always managed to have a good time together. the 9 months we were together were the best part of my life
and i dont care how long i pretended not to like you, but the truth is i never stopped thinking about you.
the reason i been ignoring you is beecause i know your family most likely doesnt like me and i understand.
i dont blame you if you dont even like me. but just know you will always have a special place in my heart no matter what.
i miss talking to you. hopefully we can be friends, but if not its ok. talk to you later hopefully.
p.s. keep this letter to yourself please. im 19 shes 18. i just turned 19
Me and my ex have been broken up since the 23rd of January.He hasnt spoke to me,called or contacted me.Its as if he has forgotten me completely.I had made a mistake begging for him back,and making myself feel less than i am.That only made me feel worse.You cant force someone to love you.Two days after the breakup i asked him if he still loved me,he said no he didnt,which really hurt,because how can u possibly forget someone soo quickly.I mean we spent 9 full months together doing everything.He was my best friend.He was my first true love,which i heard takes alot of time to get over.I had made some mistakes of my own.I have disrespected him several times,made him feel as if he had to choose between me and his family,distracted him from God.this all happened when i was selfish and too confident in the middle of the relationship.My sister had told me If he really loved you he would have pushed and never gave up on the relationship no matter what.She is now married to a man that she says puts up with everything she says and does,because he loves her.His reasons to why he broke up with me were You never changed,we werent going anywhere,and i feel that God wants me to be single,and focus on him.I respect that,but i mean seriously i do not deserve this hurt,and do not believe it.His ex-girlfriend before me he had visited her in Ohio before we were dating last last christmas.It was a long distance relationship,he had payed 200 dollars plus the christmas gifts.when he arrived she had broke up with him,and had flirted and talked to one of his best friends.He had missed her from what he told me,but that is absolutely ridicolous.5 months into that relationship by phone and email and he still spoke to her,and 9 months with me and no contact whatsoever.im confused.I mean yeah i gave him emotional hurt i didnt see,but i still holded on to him and kept going strong.i had lost my dog and i begged him when he could to pay half of my new one and i would pay half.All i could do was apologize and make him see that i did not want his money or materials soo i returned them back to him.all i wanted was his support and love.from s guys perspective,do u know if he will come back,and is hiding his feelings right now?or should i just move on and let it go?why do you think he discontinued talking to me?Is he thinking bad things about me that he didnt see and telling everyone?It hurts to feel like you are the bad person.
was cheating on you 5 years before during separation, then shes moves back in, 3 months of counseling, she moves out again…says she will get into counseling for 9 months and doesn’t, pushes for a divorce but kept up the relationship for with me for 2 years after the divorce (I know it sounds crazy) all during while I was trying to reconcile, us being together with our son the whole time in two different homes, leading me to think that there was a possibility of reconciling, then cuts it all off abruptlty swearing there is no one else…then I find out the whole time she was with me she was seeing another guy and now she is marrying him this summer…and trying to move my son 2 hours away from me…also finding out that a dear friend of 20 years knew about it the other guy and never said anything to me during the affair…how am I supposed to be supportive of my son – getting to know this guy – he doesn’t like him and he was instrumental in tearing our family apart? all this truth…
comes out now…I end up paying attorneys after she tried for custody twice last year…hiding the guy…after the second attempt he comes out of the woodwork..and in the last few weeks I find out she was covertly being with this guy on a regular basis claiming confusion, and we can get remarried, annouces it publicly one year after the divorce…knowing how I felt about her and family, knowing she had no intention and I kept her alive going through almost K…stopping her from gettinf evicted…not knowing she was seeing this guy at the same time…helping her…and then she lieds in court to try to take my son away from me becasue she knew the marriage was coming down the pipe…how does one NOT get angry…how does one keep cool about all of this…fgor the best interest of my son whom I love very much and care for and now he is being thrown into this den of liars and home wreckers…low morals…and this new guy has alot of money…on top…she abducted our son 6 years ago.
Being mental as it was stated was an attempt to keep our family together with a woman who experienced 911 personally and went off the deep end…missed her home country and her family and ran with our son…I always believed that this affected her very deeply…but then I find out I was wrong and 911 had nothing to do with the abduction…she lept me believing alot of things that I had no idea was going on…I was trying to get her help…so does one just give up on a family in shreads or try to find a way to keep it togehter…and if so…how long does it take to put a family back into balance (Just a Thought)
For over two years on many weekends she would drop my son off with me gladly to take care of him and then go off to "be with our friend" and all along meeting up with this other guy…then would come stay with me for 3 or 4 days…then create a fight…two days later…back to me..me at her place…her at my place…all three of us together…that was my focus…my therapist told me "she is zig zagging…trying to find her way back to you…she will sned you through heL& but you will have to take what ever she throws at you if you really want to win her back…ALL along…her knowing she was never coming back but using me to stay alive.
and now she is taking my son to all the things that we used to go…all the fun spots we all visitied…restaurants, game plexes…movie theatres…parks…and he lives 2 hours away…staying over at her place duruing the weekends while my son is there…my son cant stand the guy…so he says repeatedly…but now every week for 3 months she hits me with something new about my son…accusing me of alienating him from her and her future husband…and my son says I don’t say anything bad about her or him…I have asked to meet him…she denied ot for weeks…then agreed…the day before the meeting…she calls it off…I want to meet his guy…my son wants to live with me…he doesn’t want to move away from me or his friends…she doesn’t have to move…nothing about a job…so he should have to cimmute if he cares for my son not taking him away from me…I live 5 minutes away from him and we spoend alot of time together…I am in the 5% category who sees their kids alot…why must she do
Okay, so I dated this guy for 9 months. We were madly in love. But then he left for uni, and within weeks our relationships fell apart. We broke up in November. Apparently I didn’t show enough care for him, and seemed emotionally detached from him. But I was going through a really hard time at the time, but I don’t think he quite understood that. He also felt he didn’t know me as well as he should have. Anyways, he came back from uni and we met up, it was nice but there might have still been feelings there. We still keep in contact, and no, there isn’t any other girl. He’ll be back in 8 weeks and we’ll probably meet up again.
Basically, I want him back deep down. But I don’t know what to do about it. Which is why I’d like your help! I don’t want to move on, I just want us to get back together again… I can’t afford "The magic of making up".
Now I know most people will say "tell him", but how do I tell him? He’s at uni now. He can be stubborn at times, so I need to find a way to prove to him that I’ve changed, and that he was wrong to break up with me. I need your help!
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy. We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feeling for him, he listened to me and said he needed to think. So today i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said "Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out." is this a good thing? how can i get him back ? :/
okayy…so, i dated this guy, then broke up with him (and i regret it). he got another girlfriend, and it i hated seeing him w/ her (and i dislike her) but they finally broke up after 9 months. but me and him have been talking and might get back together. any songs?
ok so i went out with this boy 9 months ago. and at first it was just a little crush then a big crush then we fell in lovee witheach otherr. we went out for 3 months. then i broke up with him because he was cheating on me (the night of our 3 month anniversary) and so i cried so hard that night i was sick and i cried in the morning and so on and so on. i cried that whole summer. then when we got back to school i was walking down the hallway and who did i see. my ex boyfriend and he was looking like the best thing on this earth. he was staring at me and i was staring at him. but that was it. though. a few weeks after that he starts going out with my friend i was pissed off. (did i mention i was still crying every night because i was STILL inlove with him) but then they broke up and we started talking again. then we went out again OMG i was the happiest girl in the universe until i had to open my big mouth and say that people were talking about us because they was hatin on our relationship. he said he couldnt handle the bullshit so he broke up with me, then he started going out with my friend. i was sooo heartbroken. and so she got my permission to date him cus i cant stop them anyways. then the new girl came and he started going out with her. i was so jealous of her all the dudes wanted her but he had her already. she has hazel eyes and she is "thick" and he says he loves her more than me and it broke me down. because he still loves me and i was his first love. yes…they still go out but me and him still talk and say we love eachother but why is he telling me he loves me and he wants me to have his kids if he has a girlfriend? and why am i still inlove with him after he has put me through so so so so much pain i have been crying over him for 9 months for god’s sake.! i thought i was supposed to get over him. and i think he is playing with my emotions but why am i still inlove with him….why? and he said that when we went out i was a good girl and what he did was wrong and he said when we went out it was good times. it made me feel good and i always forgive him and take him back and he also asked me that if i could get back with him would i ….and i said yes. just like he thought i would and he asked me why. and i wouldnt tell him. then he said "you know that would be my decision though, right?" and that made me mad and he said he can get me anytime he want from whoever and wherever…but i think he was just playing…please help me i know i typed alot but still i really need a answer.. PLEASE
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy. I used to talk to him everyday when we were together and constantly wanted to be with him, but now i can go days without saying a word to him. We were extremely close to eachother and our family’s and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. I mean I really care about this kid because since we broke up I kissed 5 different guys but i could care less about them, it just doesn’t feel the same. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feelings for him, he listened to me but told me he doesn’t think I have changed my old ways and said he needed to think. So today i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said "Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out." is this a good thing? how can i get him back ? :/
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months. We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I told him im starting to like him again and I have feelings for him, and he said he has feelings for me as well, but he doesnt want to hurt me again. I have already felt the pain and i know i could NEVER feel that bad again. So if he treats me like this why can’t I just be his girlfriend again? Maybe he doesn’t want to be tied down, but what’s the difference? Because right now we are "friends" but friends don’t "hookup" if you know what i mean. But i truly want to get back with him, whats going on here? :/ ohh & he calls me baby, and brought me in front of his family again like it was no big deal. It sucks because i get the urge to tell him i love him, but i can’t 
i was with my boyfriend for seven years and we broke up about 9 months ago and im still not over it.
i still think about him everyday and am struggling. is this normal??
My husband and I have been married for 7 years we have a little boy together. We were separated for 9 months and he came back to visit me and my son recently so we could work on our family.
My husband has this female best friend that he’s known for 20+ years he knew her since school. He said he and her never dated or had a relationship besides being friends. This woman told my husband that I cut her off from him back in the day when I never said that. Since my husband never introduced me and her together I introduced myself to her via email (he was there when I sent the email and he knew every word I wrote) and she twisted my words around making me look like a bad person and my husband felt the same way saying I cut him off from her and he also resents me for it!!! I told my husband I am your wife you knew everything I said to her via email I never cut y’all off and that you always had her contact info the least you could do is defend me. He said he didn’t defend me cuz he didn’t wanna be with me anymore I told him you were still with me at that time and you are still with me now! He said I’m controlling and jealous and that I have trust issues and if our marriage is going to survive I have to trust him!
When he came back to visit us, I found a couple of emails he wrote to another woman (I was using his laptop one day). I did some research and it turns out this woman is an internet webcam stripper from iFriends whom he befriended. He spent lots of money on her. He is a guillable man and believes everything the stripper tells him. I told him that he needs to quit talking to this webcam stripper because it’s harming our marriage and he told me to leave her out of it and that he had already spent alot of money on her around 00 for her private shows. He still emailed her wishing her a Happy New Year. He said he only considers her as a friend and isn’t interested seeing her naked anymore and he said that she is a good person and she gave him the emotional support he needed when we were separated and he told me he doesn’t like when I refer this woman as a webcam stripper. And then he said he doesn’t want to lose her as a friend and if I tell him to quit contact with her he will just become more distant to me. I asked him "Why should befriend a stripper what do I have in common with her besides you saw us both naked??!"
I do not know what to do anymore I am trying to save my marriage and stop my divorce but I feel I can’t do it without his help. I had already filed for divorced and he also filed when he was served divorce papers. We both told our divorce lawyers to hold on to our papers so we can try to salvage our marriage but I feel like I am the only one who’s trying on my own.
I went to counseling. I read lots of relationship and marriage books. I try to be the best wife he says I’m beautiful and sexy but apparently I am not good enough for him.
I need advice help!
i do not plan on dating when i am still married even when I’m separated i don’t want to committ adultery.
I started dating him when i was in my early 20"s.. I lost my virginity to this guy, it was my choice, i loved him and chose him. Well He ended up cheating, so i left, he started seeing one of the girls (there was a few) he was cheating on me with,, i wished him well and moved on, he kept trying to come back into my life and i refused, he then ended up marrying someone else he was cheating on my with, there marriage lasted 9 months, again he tried to come back , i refused, He thought i was oblivious to the fact that he was using me as his back up… Anyway, October of 2008 he started contacting me again because we had gotten into an argument and i cut off contact…. he wanted to apologize, so i excepted his apology, i had no intention on anything else.. he showed up at my house with flowers.. and charm.. so i started going out with him about 3 time’s a week.. we had Absolutely no sexual contact, for the first time he respected my wishes.. we were just friends…. well one day in january 2009… we ended up having sex after reminiscing about our past together…. after we were finished.. he rolled over and told me he was in a serious relationship with someone he was unhappy with…..at that moment,I felt so completely cheap and worthless you have no idea,
I got up,I put my clothes on and proceeded out the door, he ran after me and grabbed me by the arm and said "this is not the last time im going to see you… your mine, i was your first and I will be your last" (Nut Case) I just looked at him and walked to my car. when i got home I called my phone company to change my phone number…..
This still did not stop him.. he started contacting me through email,, so i changed my email… he started showing up and my work… do i call the cops? How far do I go? I knew he wanted me to have kids with him.. he had wanted this since we first started dating 7 years ago…..well,,, im not stupid.. he wants children with me to trap me…..so what better way to get rid of a man then to tell him I aborted his Child? When we were together the last time we had unprotected sex.. I did not tell him i was on the pill .. i was…. so a little over a month later…. i sent him an email… telling him he got me pregnant…and that i did not keep his child because he was a deadbeat dad to the children he has now, and that he would never be good enough to be the father of my child. ……….Harsh.. i know…. but hey… he put me in a really awkward position, and I am still having problems at 30 years old with relationships do to my trust issues.
I felt horrible after i did this…. but i knew it was the only way this man would stay out of my life…I desperately needed him to hate me…..and well.. it’s been almost a year.. and there is no sign of him =)
Spare me the Criticism… i had to do what i had to do… he treated me like a whore, when all i ever was to him was supportive. So screw him and who ever thinks Im a bitch for this!
I later find out he is Bipolar and on Anti-Depressants. so I needed to get away from him… this was the only way to make him hate me!
Men’s feedback please.
Fallenbose.. yes i do think extremely highly of my self…….and i will say it… he is not lucky enough to father my children…..and i will continue to find a man that is worthy of that…. as far as him playing with my head… i was 28 old… im not foolish.. i know when men are messing with my head… if i was as stupid as most women out there that are needy and immature enough to put up with a man like that… then i would not of went as far as i did to get him out of my life….. you seem know understand him, maybe you are guilty of the same immature, insecure action he is guilty of. So of course you will defend the behavior….. My opionion… People that Cheat.. are inserucre with who they are. and Are to needy and clingy to deal with the reality of there insecurities!
Curious………how is it i allowed him to treat me like a whore? just curious? for date someone for 3 months prior.. is’nt it proper to tell someone who you are "Just friends with " that you are ina relationship? and why was he spending so much time with me instead of this so called girlfirend? So i ask you… how did i allow him to treat me like a whore? Are you one of those christians that does not belive in sex before marriage? if so please spare me about what the bible say’s… open your eye’s please… and relise we are living in a time that is not of the stone ages!
as far as me stooping to his level/…. there’s so much you don’t know about this guy… if i wanted to type a novel i would..
LOL the men’s answer’s are great by the way… it looks like i hit a nerve.
That’s all I needed to know……. I did exactly the right thing….. he hate’s me… is discusted with me… and that is exaclty what i wanted! Mission Accomplished………….
And yes.. im online thinking about it a year later… Im not afraid to admit i loved him.. and it bothered me…. but i had to do what i had to do to get him away from me!
Job Well Done!
So me and my ex recently started talking, he just broke up with his recent gf but still "loves" her. we hung out this weekend and he tried kissing me! he says he does’nt have feelings fer me but that there is a possible way that he can get them back. and i want him back so much! i still have feelings for him after 9 months of being apart :/ help? what can i do to make him get feelings back? make him jealous? idk, im so confused :/
My bf broke up with me over the weekend because we’d been getting into lots of little spats last week. I tried to explain to him that it was probably because we both have exams, and I’ve been worrying about the summer (how things would work, etc.). He said he realizes that, but he thinks this is the best decision. He told me he still loves me and wants to hang out a lot. I told him that I miss him, and he said he misses me too, and he hates having to do this, but sometimes we have to do things that aren’t easy. He said he thinks we’ll work better as friends.
I’ve tried to tell him how I feel, but how do respond when you tell him you still love him and he says, "I know, I still love you, too, and I always will?" I really want him back – he’s been indecisive in the past – I’m hoping he’ll realize he made a mistake.
What do you think? What can I do?
I’m 23, he’s 24. We’ve been together for 9 months.
I’m finding it hard to get over him and make me cry at times. It’s only been a month since we’ve last seen each other. And i heard from his friend that he’s kind of seeing someone. We dated for 9 months and i fell in love with him. I love him so much and just a month ago he’s decided to stop seeing me. I don’t know what to do… I’m still hoping that one day he’ll get in touch with me again.
My friend has an out of state ex – she told him she is pregnant – took pics of a false positive and sent fake docs… and told his mom, sister and ex wife that he begged her to get an abortion – who are all Catholic by the way! She threatened to name the child after his ex wife and mistress (first, middle) but later said she would let him name it. She also told him that her midwife thought she might be having twins but would let him know after her OB GYN appt. And the thing is, she’s not even pregnant! She plans to tell him after 9 months that either 1., she is moving out of state / country to marry or raise them on her own – since he didn’t want them to begin with or 2. that she miscarried some months prior but it was too painful for her to talk about and didn’t think he cared anyway! What do you guys think? Is this the worst revenge story you’ve ever heard in your life? What is your story of revenge – what do you think of this one?
Separated for 9 months and she was staying with another guy.What if she comes back and my worry is the above…..
My ex broke up with me after 9 months. I was heartbroken, and spilled myself to her for 2 days after the breakup. But I did some research and found out the best thing to do is give her space and not contact her.
So a week went by and she sent me a text saying,"I hope you don’t hate me"
Another week went by without talking and she sent me this email:
Hey 
I hope everything is going well for you, we haven’t talked in a few days.
Hope you can help me with the graphs from this article too :)
I need Figure 3 on page 656, figure 4 and figure 6 on page 657.
Thanks you soooo much I don’t know what I would do with out you!!!
Always,
ME
I want her back. The article she sent me doesn’t even have graphs and the pages arent even in the article so I’m thinking this was an excuse to contact me. Is her contacting me first good? Does is show she still has feelings? What should I do next?
So my ex girlfriend dumped me a couple of weeks ago because she will be graduating college in the spring and she may be going to work in Texas (we both currently attend college in Mississippi, and i am graduating a semester after her). We had been going out for close to 9 months, and we were and still are in love, and we had even talked about getting married in the future. Her reasoning for the break up was that it would be easier to break up now rather than waiting until spring. We had previously discussed the possibility of her going to work out of state and decided we would deal with it when the time came closer, and we even discussed me moving to Texas after i graduated, and we made an agreement that we would find a way to work things out. About a week ago she came over to talk and told me she was still in love with me and cried hysterically for close to 2 hours, and ive gotten a few text messages very late at night from her telling me she misses me, but she has also told me she does not want to get back together. I am trying to give her some space and am hoping she will realize she misses me, and i haven’t had any kind of contact with her for about 5 days, but its very hard for me not to try to not call her. I am considering calling her sometime next week to grab a cup of coffee, is this a good idea? I do not plan on bringing up getting back together i just think it would be good for us to go out because she may realize after seeing me she made a mistake. I am wondering if i am taking the right approach here? And if we grab some coffee what should be discussed? Should it just be a friendly thing, or should i bring up getting back together again? And if we don’t talk about getting back together that day when should i bring it up again? This is someone that is very special to me and i would do anything to get her back. I now this is a big question but any kind of help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
we was going out for almost 2 years and broken up for 5 motnhs now we talk everday for 2 months straight. well on friday we got into a fight ova the phone and he said that it was best for us not to talk nomore then the day b4 yesterday he im in yahoo saying if i still wanted to talk to him so i was confussed i thought he didn’t want to talk . well i love him and he says that he still love me too but not as stronger as we was b4 when we got together we still talk but im confussed i hurt him in the past when we was going out and i told him and he stood by me but 9 months lata he left .we both still care for each other i haven’t seen him since febuary 15 and well im just confussed he says that he wants to achive his dream b4 settling down again he says he don’t want a gurl because its too much worries but he said that he do think there is still hope 4 us in the future please help me i think he is confussed guys what do u think its up with him? he acts as if he still wants me sometimes
b4 he didn’t want me to date other guys and he use to try to comtrol me like if he was still with me i don’t know what to do i feel that if i leave again he might not come back to me apart of me wants to go but a part of me tells me that we could still work out the love we still have with us rite now i don’t know what to do please help im confussed. what do u think about him what up with him guys is u answer let me know for a guys point of view please
Alright here is the story, Me and my Ex were going out for about 9 months in 2007 and we decided it would be best for us to break up because we where both going to be going to different schools and we both live on opposite sides of town so we would never really see each other.
That was all back in 2007 and it’s obviously 2009 now so we haven’t been going out for a few years.
Starting in august we have started talking to each other almost every day and for the past few days now we have been talking for about 5 hours each day..
The other day she was telling me some things like how much she hates her ex boyfriend and she was telling me mean things people say to her etc. I replied saying not to listen to anything those people say as they are stupid! lol
Well basically i want to ask her to the movies and hang out with her but im not sure what i should say =/ She is currently on msn right now and we are talking but it says shes busy because she is watching a tvshow. How should i bring it up with out sounding completely random or w.e.?
I do want to get back together with her but im not sure if she feels the same way..
She is the most beautiful girl i have ever met and she has the most amazing personality.. i would just do anything to be with her again.. seriously just thinking about her actually brings a tear to my eye knowing im not with her right now.. =(
(And no im not just saying that)
I was emotionally depressed which led to me being verbally abusive to my ex, and not providing financially like i should have. We have two girls, have been split up for a year and divorced for 6 months. I have been going to therapy for 9 months now for depression. I now feel so much happier than ive ever been, but i get upset knowing how happy my wife would be if we were still together. We talk on a constant basis, she has fallen out of love with me to some degree, though she has agreed to date, but she has made clear that she does not want anything serious right now also wants me to know she will treat me as if im anyother man. Here is the big But, she says she doesnt know if she will ever be able to trust that things will be different and that i can overcome my issues. She has admitted that in the past few months i have seemed a lot happier and more of the person she fell in love with, but she still doesnt know if she could ever trust again. So my question is… is it possible??????
Forgot to tell we were married for 7years together for 8.
