what does the bible say about marriageIf you are wondering what the Bible says about marriage, it really depends on which book you read.  Obviously the views of the Old Testament are rather stricter than those expressed in the New Testament.  You need to be careful when looking to the Bible for answers. Sure use it as guidance but the contents need to be interpreted in the light of the times those people lived in.  Not all of the information contained in this book is relevant to the issues and crisis that can affect marriages today.

For example, the “What God has joined together let no man separate” teaching is wonderful if you are in a successful marriage and both of you are happy. But I don’t believe God would want any woman to stay with an abusive husband or vice versa. And while I believe that marriage is for life, there are always exceptions to the rule.  Unfortunately in our society today, the number of marriages breaking down is on the increase.  This could be for a number of reasons, not least of which is that divorce is more socially acceptable these days. It could also be the fact that people often enter into marriage contracts without putting enough thought into whether the other person is the right match for them.  Just look at any number of celebrities, some of whom appear to believe that a Wedding chapel should be fitted with revolving doors.

It is very easy to walk away when your marriage hits a bad spot and sadly that is the mistake a lot of people make.  But the fact is that every relationship will hit the rocks on occasion.  What is important is what you do to put it back on the happy track. Men and women are so different that it can lead to communication issues. Then you add in life hassles such as worries over children, money, mortgages, jobs etc and it is easy to see why romance may go a little cold.

But before you head for the divorce lawyer, why not invest a little money into some education. Buy the Magic of Making Up and see if you can apply these theories to your own situation. So many people will separate from their partner and end up living a life of misery on their own. Or they move onto the next marriage and then the next etc.  If you once loved your partner, you can rekindle this lost love and it really doesn’t take a huge effort. In fact it usually takes less time and energy than trying to find someone else to love and learning how to handle their faults.  Better stick to the devil you know and usually love on some level!

So pay less attention to wondering what does the Bible say about marriage and start concentrating on getting those romantic feelings back into your own.  You will be very glad you did.


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Ever notice when the marriage ends men take little from the house, in some cases just their clothes?

I understand in some cases the woman and kids remain in the home so you wouldn’t take or divide material possessions. Excluding this situation, I’ve seen many men just leave cheerished belongings & everything and just walk.

A) Do men do it because they don’t want painful reminders?

B) They are conditioned to give everything over to the woman?

C) The man is shattered by the system, by failure & feels unworthy?

Not looking for sympathy at all, just raising awareness, because I feel men’s issues lack major understanding & support. I also think there’s a link between this and why children are fatherless.

At the rate we’re going if nothing changes children will eventually have one parent.
* Maybe the 37" plasma TV his prize prossession at one time. The Bedroom set. the couch, etc.
****** Some call men Losers, They don’t see there kids.

Women don’t admit they worked vindictively hard to remove the Father from the childs life.

With all the claims, he was an abusive husband it a miracle Father’s have any rights period.
Jude: In a generalized way you portray women as Victims & Men as Abusers.
Women leave and divorce and break up the family at a much higher rate than men.
You have all been indoctrinated by focused interest groups, by their advertising & propaganda to believe one thing.

Women are innocent victims & Men are oppressive abusers.
George: It sounds like your saying There’s a political agenda to elliminate the role of father.
Reducing men to Sperm & ATM machines.

George, where are Men & father’s in the Movement? Is it just starting to gain strength? Where can I be of best help? I know men are become active as have received the short end one too many times.


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Im not looking for people to tell me just to leave him..find someone new..the same thing everyone says…because I know this, and its much easier said then done…..NO ONE UNDERSTANDS unless you have been through it, or are going through it…..

My husband of 4 years is in jail right now because last Oct. he hit me in front of our 2 year old daughter so I put his ass in jail..they gave him 11 months and a felony charge…..I stopped all contact with him, blocked his calls, he would call me at home and work..then he would have strangers call me for him to relay messages or do 3 way calls..then I got emails from strangers with messages from him…he would send letters to my work….for the first time in our relationship, I was able to be strong enough ignore him..(for awhile)…3 months later I couldnt take the guilt anymore from all his letters saying he would kill himself without me and our daughter..how could I put him in there? Telling me he has learned his lesson, promising never to put hands on me again….promises, promises…all words, no action..I need to see actions! I will never allow him to hit me again…he convinced me that it was only a few times and that he never punched me so according to him, it wasnt that bad..according to him, I exaggerated…..

The worst was his jelousy, and controlling EVERYTHING I DID, who i talk to, always accusing me of looking at other men…I actually trained myself to walk around not really looking around, just sort of looking down and using my perifrial (sp?) vision so he wouldnt think I was looking at other men…Sometimes I would walk right past friends in the store because I never looked around..I wasnt allowed to shake men´s hands when introduced…timing me when I went ANYWHERE, I never got back fast enough…I must have been talkin to someone….quizzing my 11 yr old son about what i did when he wasnt around..my son knew what to say and not to say….and that really kills me……..crazy things like this are just a few…I look back and cannot believe I allowed him to have this power over me..I had NEVER been in an abusive relationship before and my father never layed a hand on my mom so I dont understand why I stay with him???

At the beginning he charmed me..then I started getting those gut feelings and red flags..like the first time he threw something in my face..a plastic baggie full of Q-Tips..a silly thing like that but he threw it so hard it when it hit my face it shocked me…then he proceeded to tell me that Im worthless…my stomach was sick after this..but he sweet talked me into forgiving him….the next thing that happened was a month later I found some flirty texts from a girl on his phone..I confronted him. I ended up getting pushed up against the wall and choked….that time he cried and begged for forgiveness..this is when I started to get scared…scared of why I was still with him? do I really hate myself that much?….

The next phase was the pushing…but he always said he was "blocking me", with his arms crossed across his chest he would push up against me so I couldnt leave the room, couldnt leave him..that was the worst, when I threatened to leave…he would lose it..or if I didnt do what he said…

the next phase was when he wanted me to come out to the living room and smoke a cig with him..i didnt want to, I dont know what we had been fighting about but I just wanted to be left alone…he ended up dragging me off the bed by my ankles and dragging me into the livingroom….after that was the first time he slapped me….I cant remember after that, the order of all the fights..or why we fought…

After a year, I started fighting back…I punched him in the mouth knocking his tooth loose and giving him a fat lip..He was so proud of me after that..I remember how he seemed happy after I did it..he kept telling me how proud he was of me…I didnt understand at the time why it made him happy..but now I know it was because then he could justify his violence by saying that I did it too….or maybe he just gets off on violence……maybe I do too….maybe its some sick way to kill myself slowly and painfully…I have slit my wrists once with him and spent many months in a deep depression, we became homeless because I couldnt handle my job anymore..mentally I was too sick and it was making me physically ill..plus I would show up at work crying, or with puffy eyes from crying..he would harrass me at work and if I tried to tell him to leave, he would humilliate me in front of people yelling that I was a slut and a whore..talking about my private parts in public to make me feel dirty and worthless…..after we lost the apartment, we had to stay in motels, bad ones..moving from place to place…I went and took out about 00 in PayDay Loans which I never could pay back…I did it for him…so why do I do this to myself??

I feel so alone!! I feel like no one understands but I know it happens all the time…..One day we were


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My therapist says that it is worthwhile to save abusive 12 year marriage because of the history and we have 2 small kids. I told her that I want to leave and she’s telling me that I am giving up too easily (we’ve only been to her twice). I feel that I can’t take it anymore and it is not worhtwhile to me. I don’t think he’ll really change his core, just his behavior for awhile. I am in so much pain because of his verbal and emotional abuse that I go back and forth from strong to weak like I believe I am a stupid, ignorant, worhtless bitch who should drop dead from diabetes. That my kids are so unlucky to have a mother like me, etc. I have a place to go(my mom’s), until I get on my feet again. He tells me not to say a word about his ‘people’, but they can curse me out and he does nothing and agrees with them . I have to make a decision, but therapist is confusing me. She says he doesn’t really mean what he says he just is acting from his littleness. What do you think? I’m confused!
He has also choked me 3 times in the past(over 5 years ago) and i feel intimidated by him when he’s yelling in my face. Therapist is my individual therapist for 5 months prior and she’s the one who enabled me to grow stronger to be able to leave. noew she’s saying I’m giving up to easy. She has never advised me to leave though.


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