I am having an extremely hard time letting go of a long relationship of ups/downs with a cocaine/alcohol abuser. He broke it off with me twice for no reason. (this being the second time) but i was told he had a girlfriend. he was coming off a 3 day bender when this happened.
He has done this before but we ended up back together after a month. He would often get mad or bug me about not being able to drink a lot or refusing drugs when we were together. I tried to convince him he doesnt need these things and has so much going for him. He cant see what he could be and it hurts so bad.. hes being troubled since he was 10yrs old and been through alot of bad things since then. Is their hope he will change or seek help even though now he doesnt want it?
He says its who he is and everyone knows he’ll die doing this. He makes things up and actually beleives them which has caused fights between us before… I know i may need to seek counselling i am a sucsessfull loving girl, and i have a great family/friend group who all hate that i ever got into this relationship. Its been a week and Im happy then sad & hoping for him to call…
I fear that it was me who wasnt good enough, or that he is happy with some other girl, treating her well & showing her love. I did everything to show him i cared for him so much, nothing was ever enough and didnt seem appreciated at all..he tells me he doesnt deserve me he wants me to hate him, he wont be around long ect, then he can tell me im the one whose f*cked up and annoying ect and he’ll stop talking to me.
This time he told me he has a gf and not to wait around or call him, or book us a trip. (we were planning a summer vacation) it was literally so sudden and things were so good with us.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating now for over three years. Were both 20 and will be 21 this year. We both come from Two very different backgrounds. I was always into my school work and he had a falling out with school in highschool, related to drugs. He kicked the habbit so I thought and He moved in with me when I was away at schhol. I found out he has a problem because he confessed to taking pain killers very often. He seeked help and he has been on a medication for over ayear now. Although sometime I will find signs of him faling to get better. this weekend I found a straw in his pocket with white stuff in the straw. Im tired and stressed out. i have been in so many fights with him over drugs. im scared that If I leave him he is going to do something stupid to himself, But i cant keep letting that feeling hold me back. I have given him a lot of chances and I just need advice on how to break up with an addict and if this is the right thing to do. We have an apartment together. What should I do?
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I am not an addict but I need to have sex. I want to make love to my wife. She keeps on rejecting me for no apparent reason. She says she is just not in the mood. We still are very close. We spend a lot of time together. Everything is perfect except that we do not make love anymore. I have heard that some people just are uninterested in sex. Can you become uninterested in sex? How can I reignite the passion? Thank you!
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so basically, im trying to write a novel. there are five girls… here are their descriptions:
B: pretty energetic, enthusiastic, funny.. sorta a mix of bridget from sisterhood of the traveling pants, and serena from gossip girl
S: really dramatic, pretty and she knows it, a little bit insecure… pretty much like blair from gossip girl
L: loyal, cute, loves boys, very outgoing… a lot like lily from hannah montana, and jenny from gossip girl
E: sort of the peace maker between the five friends, funny, loving .. a lot like tibby from sisterhood of the traveling pants, but more indepentant, and outgoing.
J: really funny, likes teasing friends, loves life, fearless, and a little boy crazy … a lot like bridget from sisterhood of the traveling pants, but also somewhat like carmen from sisterhood of the traveling pants.
B has a summerhouse in Long Island, New York. S and E are staying there with her. L just comes back from Greece when B, S, and E are at B’s summerhouse. L has a summer house near B, so they meet up at the summerhouses. J isn’t with them, she’s in Florida, vacationing.
I don’t want any magic, or fantasy involved (even though im an addict to fantasy books). I was thinking the girls would get into a big fight over something, and it changed the whole friendship. If you have any ideas about the cause of the fight, what the girls will do during the fight, and how the make up after the fight (if they do) PLEASE tell me ! and keep it appropriate please.
thanks a bunch. its a lot of help, darlings ! i might owe you one day.
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Ok, so I dated the most amazing girl in my life. We were together for 5 months and during this 5 months we told ourselves how we were the perfect person for each other and how we would never be able to find anybody better. We even talked about marriage, even if the relationship just started. But then, about 1 month ago, she moved because her college is too far. We were only able to see us the weekends, and it wasn’t always nice. Both of us are studying, have a lot of homework, we work when we have time, we have a couple of other activities so when we were seeing each other, it wasn’t as nice as before. We were hurting each other more than we were having pleasure. Because I wasn’t seeing her a lot I called her a lot and became kind of addicted to her. This is a thing she told me bothered her so 2 weeks ago, she asked me if I would accept to have a week where we wouldn’t talk to each other. It was hard but I accepted. During this week, I asked myself what made it not work like this, and I realized the more I was becoming "addict" to her, the more I was pushing her away. I decided that when we would get back together, I would be ready to change. When the weak was over, we decided that it really couldn’t work. We agreed to break up. The thing is that she told me she still loved me (so did I) and that if real love couldn’t work like this, how would she be able to love again (I think the same). It just couldn’t work at this time. This bothers me a lot, and I try to tell myself there are hundreds of other girls, but in a way, I don’t want to forget her in case it would work again. I want her back and read some things on internet where people tell you that the most important things to get your girlfriend back are to keep in contact with her so that she always have you on her mind, make her feel that you can live without her even do activities with other girls (not necessarily going out, just like do activities) and then like meet her and remember the good moments of your relationship with her. The problem is I don’t know if it’s the right thing to do and if it is, I would like some tips and tricks so that I don’t mess anything up. Also, I think it may be just a period of adaptation for her, she may need some time to get used to the beat of her new life, but I don’t want to only put hopes on this.
P.S. I forgot to tell you, it is her birthday in 3 weeks and when we broke up, I gave her a beautiful necklace made with gold and diamonds and asked her if she could wear it sometimes and think about us and she told me she wears it. I had also bought tickets to go see a show of one of her favorite musician and we both agreed to go together as friends because it would be fun. The thing is that the show is in one month and until there I don’t know what to do so that she doesn’t forget me or do anything stupid. And if you think the show would be a good occasion to like get back together, like maybe at the supper before talk and anything, just tell me.
Finally, I would just like you to tell me if things can still work between us and if yes, how to get her back? You can comment everything I said if you want, just give me tips?
(Another P.S. I know it may not be super useful, but also sexually I was the first guy with who she ever had an orgasm so I think it can’t be because of this, we were always having good sex)
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