Would Like Suggestions From Middle Aged Folks….?

NOTE: I posted this in a different forum a bit ago & while I appreciate the answers, I would really like to get responses from some middle aged folks if possible.

My ex doesn’t seem to want to talk to me much, but she has told to come over any time.

I am confused, does this mean she may not be done with me? She broke up with me a few weeks ago after 2.5 years. I’m getting mixed signals, when I see her we talk & get along great, but email & phone conversations are very terse & short, and she absolutely does not want to discuss the breakup. I tried to just cut all ties at least for the moment a few days ago & she got upset with me, said I was "cleansing" myself of her, & hinted that I was wanting to see someone else. (not true, I wasn’t) I wonder if she feels differently when I am around vs not? I don’t know. Can anyone give me advice?

She has 2 kids from her ex husband 13 & 16 years old, & she is very open to me taking them golfing, or whatever. I just don’t get it!

What do I do?

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Ok, so it sounds like I need run for the hills, here. I guess I’m just sad at the prospect of that. I really care for her, thought she was the absolute one for a couple years, the breakup was my fault, I put my job way ahead of her for to long, & it ultimately cost me dearly.

I was hoping that her telling me to come over any time was a sign that she was maybe open to something….I know I want this back so bad it hurts, but I’m not willing to be strung along & made a fool of, only to still be the one on the outside looking in.



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How Do I Get Him Back?

How do you get the one you love back, when they’re the one that let you go. Okay, there’s a story to this:
About 6 months ago I met a absolutely perfect guy.
I saw him at the rink and thought he was so hot!
I told my friend, Dylan, to tell him.
So Dylan told him and he was all over me the next two times he seen me.
It was just the flirt in him, I was guessing.
Little to my surprised, he liked me.
I found this out because the next time I seen him we were acting all shy around each other.
But that same night I texted him after I got back from the rink, and we ended up going out!
It was so freaking amazing.
Well it ended shorty after.(One week :[)
I cryed.
I know it sounds lame, but I had liked him forever and It really hurt.
Well I wen to the rink the next week, although we had broke up.
I tried to have fun, but just actually seeing him and talking to him and knowing it was over really hurt.
A few weeks later it was a totally different story.
He was all over me and we ended up making out

* 9 minutes ago
* – 3 days left to answer.

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3 minutes ago
And SOMETHING else happened.
I let it happen thinking that maybe me doing whatever he wanted would get him back.
He told me he just didn’t want a girlfriend in his life.
That really killed me.
But I lived with it thinking, "I’m his girl for now"
Well I texted him like three days later and his sig said me&&Kristen.
I was basically the hoe of the night for that night, or that’s how it seems.
I went back the next weekend, and he totally ignored me.
He didn’t even want to be around me.
Didn’t say hi or anything!
He had never done that before.
I cried, yet again that night.
I just want to know how I make him want me more than ever so that he can sort of feel like I do. Any ideas?


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How Do I Get Him Back….Please anwser…?

How do you get the one you love back, when they’re the one that let you go. Okay, there’s a story to this:
About 6 months ago I met a absolutely perfect guy.
I saw him at the rink and thought he was so hot!
I told my friend, Dylan, to tell him.
So Dylan told him and he was all over me the next two times he seen me.
It was just the flirt in him, I was guessing.
Little to my surprised, he liked me.
I found this out because the next time I seen him we were acting all shy around each other.
But that same night I texted him after I got back from the rink, and we ended up going out!
It was so freaking amazing.
Well it ended shorty after.(One week :[)
I cryed.
I know it sounds lame, but I had liked him forever and It really hurt.
Well I wen to the rink the next week, although we had broke up.
I tried to have fun, but just actually seeing him and talking to him and knowing it was over really hurt.
A few weeks later it was a totally different story.
He was all over me and we ended up making out

* 9 minutes ago
* – 3 days left to answer.

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3 minutes ago
And SOMETHING else happened.
I let it happen thinking that maybe me doing whatever he wanted would get him back.
He told me he just didn’t want a girlfriend in his life.
That really killed me.
But I lived with it thinking, "I’m his girl for now"
Well I texted him like three days later and his sig said me&&Kristen.
I was basically the hoe of the night for that night, or that’s how it seems.
I went back the next weekend, and he totally ignored me.
He didn’t even want to be around me.
Didn’t say hi or anything!
He had never done that before.
I cried, yet again that night.
I just want to know how I make him want me more than ever so that he can sort of feel like I do. Any ideas?


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I need help to make my ex want me back?

Okay so let me give you a run down on my ex.

And let me first start off by saying this.. Im going to make this clear! I dont want him back and i will never take him back!! I just want that feeling of him beggining and calling for me to be with him again, and yes i have the power to say no! I just want him to feel the way i felt!

We were together for 4 years on and off ,, only reason why we were on and off was because he cheated on me so many times STUPID ME!! KEPT TAKING HIM BACK! this time im through for real! =]
but through out our relationship he made me feel very insecure because he would leave me for a female txt me and say " your just not cutting it for me" and than she would skrew him over (karma) and he would come crying back saying he was sorry. He always told me i cant ever move on or get another guy cause hes got me wrapped around his finger F**KER!!!!!!!!

UGH! hes a real a**!! but my bff is having her 21st birthday party at a club, there kind of friends still but not really i want her to invite him to her party and i want to make him jelous as hell

the opinion i need is how should i go about doing so! =]

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UMM
I am very through with him!! im just seeing that its time for me to make him jelous and hit him with what ive been hit with for 4 yrz if you guys cant understand that do me a favor and dont comment me ;)


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Do I have an anxiety disorder and/or OCD? How do I tell my Mom?

Everyday I ask a couple of my friends if I look okay. They say yes, you look fine, then I ask again. Then they say that I look good, then I ask are you sure? They say yes, and then I ask if they are sure again, then again and again until I walk away not feeling satisfied. I have to check myself in the mirror between every period, and some times I get out of class just to see if I look okay in the mirror. I worry some times about being a homosexual, when I know that I won’t be, but I still worry. I check my weight too much, I think. I can check it twice or three times in a row to see if my scale changes it’s answer. Some times it does. When I see that I weigh like 106 lb or something like that, I plan to starve myself the next day, but I end up not, and I’m 5’4. I look up anorexic girls and say how ugly they are, then mention how bad they look to some of my friends, and then they tell me yes, they are. But I still always tell myself that I won’t eat, but I end up doing, because I get hungry. I have a four pack, but I still worry that I might be getting fat. I’m embarrassed because to go to the bathroom, I have to walk by the councilor’s room, and I think he sees me go to the bathroom lots. I go every morning, and he sees me do that too. I wonder if he thinks second about it. I very rarely have pimples, but some times I obsess over my face and start picking when nothing is there, then I have big, ugly marks on my face. Like I said, I also ask my friend(s) numerously in class if I look ok. Is this normal? What can I do about it? My friends also know the routine. Grrrrr….

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I’m not underweight. I look perfectly healthy, actually. But it would be a mistake to lose less. But gaining 15 pounds would not be necessary.

I also don’t know why I wouldn’t have self esteem. I’ve never been raped, or any thing of that matter. My Mom divorced twice, my biological father (when I was very young) and my step-father, last year. But I really don’t think it is because of that since I wanted her to divorce, but I’ve been under stress. A lot of people I know go through divorces, doesn’t make them right, but I think it was good. School is stressful (numerous reasons, of course), newish house, SO much stuff I can’t all list. I also used to have a downloading problem where I would download all of the songs I wanted and I would get a huge bill, and I just bought and bought and bought. It’s not healthy. I stopped that, but I don’t know why this would be.. I’ve had confidence issues FOREVER though. I hate competition. When I win, I used to run off and cry. When I stand up to talk, I get all shaky. When I have to do anything in front of a crowd, I get nervous and feel like crying. This has dated back forever. When I mess up, I take it too hard. I think I’m some what of a perfectionist. My Mom has seen me do it too. She puts me in lessons, I think I repeat the same thing, but now that I’m older it’s a little different.


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