Why not ? And doesn’t this make women cheapos I mean its not like it’s the 50’s, men paid cause we made SUBSTANTIAL more money than women now women caught up ALOT. Why cant women pay the second date and pay dates on alternate basis’s in relationships ?

I mean I have no problem taking my girl out and treating her good ( definitly not a cheepo) but if im doing that on a 70 to 30 bais meaning im doing more generosity than my women and she has a job, Im going to drop her like a bad habit.

Ladies dont think for second men do this to be gentlemen or at least most men. They do it because society tells then they HAVE TO. In most of there minds they are thinking " this is BS I have to pay all the time she has a job too, I would like to be treated to also but I have to or chances Im going to get la#$ed will sink like the stock market". Thats what they think and THAT IS SAD GUYS……SAD THAT MOST GUYS GO ALONG WITH IT.

GROW A PAIR, TELL HER YOU LIKE TO BE TREATED TO/ ROMANCED TOO. SHE MIGHT LISTEN AND CHANGE IF NOT DUMP HER…TRUST ME YOU WILL THANK ME. If she actually loves you she might change.

Wheew. What do yall think ? And oh yeah ladies dont be CHEEPOS and men stop being UNITS. Be fair, I see most women as my equal, yall say you want to be equal…… so act equal its not the 50’s anymore. Guys dont take that "BUT GENTLEMAN DOES THIS" excuse please it is pure BS pure manipulation and they are just trying to save money/ being cheepos. Take your girl out but dont be only one doing it

What do yall think ?
And if any of you disagree with my opionion. Bad relationships or future divorces are in your future. Money is a issue most the time in divorce
By the way women rarely ask men out. So the rule "whoever aks pays" is kinda of bs and unfair to men dont you think?

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~ i want him back so badly
~i was thinking of making him jelous…how shuld i do that?
~ i love him and i was thinking of telling him that on a txt since i cnt see him right now. just tell him that lke i love him and blah blah
~ he said he broke up with me cuz he didnt want a girlfriend(i doubt that) and he thought i didnt like him.
~ i dont think he knows i like him still anymore
~ We were fighting.were just frends now.
~What shuld i do
okay bye the way i dont see him in person alot so dont ring up the "do it in person" shit cuz it will have to be over a txt or call. cuz i wont see him in person..

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Ok, So I met this guy online and met him about a week later and we hit it off like magic. We get along well, never fight and never argue and things have been going great. In the past, he has been through a few bad relationships where girls would say they love him and in reality they dont, I have gone through the same thing. He tells me all the time that he loves me and is in love with me and wants to be with me forever because Im the best thing that ever happened to him and he couldnt be happier. I feel the same way, however, there are some downfalls that really make me question how into this relationship he really is. I have friends on different chat networks that I used to talk to on a daily basis, I mean afterall they are my friends! Recently, he has made me sign up for facebook so he can show me off to his friends, I agreed and downloaded facebook. Now, every time I am at his house he is constantly hounding me and asking who I am talking to and half of the time its no one because I am doing college classes. But, he is constantly texting on his phone, talking on different chatting networks with his friends and yes, some are girls that he talks to. I dont think this is very fair and I bought it up to him and he got a little upset so I just let it go.I live 2 hours from his house and we both agreed that we would go 50/50 with travel and so far I have done all of the traveling to his house and everytime he tells me hes coming to my house something always comes up to where he cant come and I always end up going to him, I dont have a problem with it, but its annoying to me. He also talks about his ex gfs alot, how the sex was and what their relationship was like. I have no interest in hearing this but if I bring it up he gets mad if I tell him to stop. I am a virgin, waiting until Im married and hes always getting on my case some about it. He respects it, but annoys me with it sometimes by bringing up what his ex used to do even though he hates her. Lately I have been telling him that I love him, and I do. But everytime I tell him I love him its like hes not reassured enough. Im not really sure what to do at this point. I really do love the guy, I have given up alot to make this relationship work. Is he truly in love with me? He treats me like a princess but sometimes I wonder if hes fully into this relationship or is friends, playing x box and texting on his phone the whole time Im with him, what he really wants.

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I have a wonderful husband whom I love with every inch of my heart. Together we have a beautiful baby boy who is almost 3 months old. My husband is the best father that I could have ever asked for my son. He loves his baby boy so much. And I know he loves me too, but I’m questioning whether or not he is IN LOVE with me anymore…

Like I said, I know he loves me. I have been going through alot with family and he is always there for me with a shoulder to cry on. Anytime I am sad or upset he is always there to make me feel better. He goes to work 7 days a week to provide for me and our child. He comes home every day after work and takes care of us. I know there is no other woman in the picture…
I just don’t know if I make him happy anymore. We seem to always argue over the smallest things. He is not as loving towards me in terms of affection and whatnot. He used to help me cook and clean and things of that nature but now he is acting like most other men in the world in thinking that I have to do all that myself, on top of working a full time job. I just don’t know what to do. I love him so much. And I am still very much in love with him.
Does it sound to you like he is falling out of love with me?
And any advice on things I can do to make him feel happy again?

I guess I should have mentioned that I have been very sad and upset lately about work and family stuff so do you think maybe he is just tired of dealing with my sadness??

Advice…

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Ok So its been a while since the break up between me and my ex whom I was dating for a year and a few months. He dumped me at the end of Summer over some stupid reason. I am Soo Heartbroken and I still love him He was my first in alot of things,but If it wasnt for my best friend I dont know how I would have gotten over it..She know everything about us. She was there for me right..

WRONG..

At first she was only talking to him,and I tryed to not let that bug me..As much.
But for the next few weeks theyve been talking and stuff and like then next thing I know She lies to me and is
DATING MY EX BOYFRIEND?!! She went behind my back saying she was doing school stuff when really she was flirting with HIM?!

And dont get me wrong I have tryed to date but I just get rejected every single time and I still love him so much!

And now my friend isnt talking to me anymore. When I found out the rumores where true. SHe stopped talking to me..

And I never thought she would do such a thing..

I feel so betrayed, heartbroken, mad, and even sick. I hate seeing them at school together I have every class with them, And it hurts So Much I cant stop crying like every day!

There planning double dates infront of me and flirt infront of me, it hurts to feel so invisible and alone..I dont know what to do?

I still have feelings for him, But my so called friend lied to me and is now dating him and it PISSES ME OFF!!!

What do I do?

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I have a son son who is eleven months old. I missed out on alot in pregnancy and birth due to his extreme prematurity. I *think* I would like to have more children, but I’m scared about another preemie. I also worry that I would be having another child to try to "make up" for what we missed. So I have weighed the pros and cons of having more children very hard. I always thought I wanted lots of kids…but…being a mom is hard work and I want to make sure I do it right everytime, and I can’t be a SAHM forever, I went to college to work doing what I love. I worry about my son being an only child too…is that fair to him??? Oh geeze..I’m rambling again. My question is, in your opinion, what is the perfect number of children to have? Please don’t answer unless you are willing to say why you think your answer is correct, a simple number doesn’t help me process this. Thanks all.

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I want to get my ex-boyfriend back!

My boyfriend of a yr & a half broke up with me this past week & the week before. the week before he decided he wanted to work on things.

I’ve been trying to not contact him but i failed & called him the other day & he asked how have you been doing babe & talking to me. I went to see him at his work yesterday & asked if he would get back together w/ me & we could do things slowly.

He still loves me but we were fighting alot. I am likely to see him at a mutual friends birthday tonight. I wrote him a letter but don’t know if i should give it to him, since I cried my eyes out in front of him at his work.

He said hes just been focusing on himself for now…hes not interested in being with anyone else & hopes I don’t do the same. I told him i can’t wait forever & put my life on hold. Our relationship was good when we didn’t fight.

I love him so much still.

I want us to get back together before Valentines day. I want this badly because last year this time, we weren’t together. He had broken up w/ me after 2 months, but since then we’ve been back together since last march 08.

What should I do to make this happen? I’m just so heartbroken.

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oke so my mum and dad are arguing alot mainly dad being a newb oke down to buisness me and mum have both noticed when we go into a room where hes on 1 of his 2 computers he minimizes the page or closes it then loggs off.we dont know his password to any of his 2 computers and he always deletes his history every time before he loggs off.is there any way we can find what hes going on .mum thinks hes having an affair! i hope not

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Ive noticed that alot in my surrounding, people become friends with their ex’s, but for some reason they get back 2gether.

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I feel like girls always are so heart broken after a break up. Is this the same for guys? do they move on quickly? and if they "move on" do they really forget their once strong feelings for their ex? and do you only miss an ex who you were in love with? do you ever hope you can go back with them in the future or do you want to move on compelely if it didnt end so good because of the guys fault? Also one other thing- if alot of time has passed do you lose intrest or not care? or do you still think about them and love them the same?

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I was working yesterday @t a factory, Now I know there are alot of RUDDERS running around in factories now days but this chick told me for day one that she was a touchy person, how ever she didn’t tell me she would have my husband try and fix something and grab his arm and say yeah you’ve got muscles you can do it for me! I told her not to touch my husband and she said well I touched him in front of you not behind your back! and I said I know I watched you and I didn’t like it so don’t do it again, she was like Ok! Dp you think I over reacted? Then I asked my husband if I was right and he said "depends on you" wtf we’ll get to that question in just a few minutes!

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he told me he has shaved his head alot of times and that it want take that long. he said he owuld have hair back in 2 weeks just not as shaggy like i like it. lol. but that would take a few months. soo will his hair grow back faster this time. or what. and just estimating how long will it take it to get alittle longer.or whatever

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I’ve been through alot with my husband this is the first time i’ve been married.But his exwife likes to control him still like they are married still and we’ve been to court i forgot how many times.We now have a 2 year old together.I really do thank that he still has feelings for her not becuase of the kids but for each other.They got married when they where young and started haveing kid 2 boys. I love the boys with all my heart.But one day i was talking with his youngest and he said that his mother which is my husbands ex-wife.Said that her and her husband of 7 years was going to spilt up.Then after 3 mins told me that his mother never would get back with there daddy which is my husband.When i was telling my husband this he told me that he wouldn’t take her back becuase she’s on drugs and he would make her stop and she wouldn’t stop,and would’nt take are son around her.I told him that it seemed to me he would take her back and he told me i was reading into it to much….What does that mean to you i i’m so confused.And then she called lasnight on his cell but waited untill her husband left for work and the kids where in bed i know it had to do with the kids but she was all talking nice and he didn’t want me to say something to make her mad that’s what he told me.
For the poeple tha judge they really don’t know what i’ve been through at all ok..I’ve put up with his crap for 3 years he has lied and we have a kid together.He has cheated in the past and they do have a history together i can deal with that but that ex wife always tryed to get us split up…

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i posted this in weddings and was hoping for more feedback

alot of you know my situation from my last posts…..and i love all you guys because you all give such helpful advice….therefor im coming to you guys again. background is my fiance cheated on me and afterwards said she was sorry and came back, then left again sayign she couldnt stay away from new guy, and wanted to be friends and live with me even while dating the guy she cheated on me with (because her college is right beside my apartment, otherwise would have to drive 1 1/2 a day both ways) i allowed this for a while but then decided she had to go because it just hurt too much to see s\her everyday but not be with her and know shes with him. so i made her move out again. that lasted all of 2 days till she asked to come back, and promised things with this guy was over and it was just me and her (which is what i want most of all, shes my life and i cant see myself going on without her. she stayed at the apartment till friday then went back up home to visit her mom, saturday came around and she texted me and said we had to split up again because she shouldnt be with anyone while she decided. she ended up having sex with him the next day (up until then it was always fooling around, which doesnt make it right, but ive explained to her that intercourse to me took it to a whole nother level and i could forgive the folling around, but if she crossed that line its over forever) she crossed that line, so in my mind it was over for good and i had the worst hurt yet of the entire month, (this whole thing started jan 1st.) because i really felt it was over and i had lost her forever.

then tuesday came around, and she almost wrecked driving those 11/2 hours to school because of the bad weather…so she asked if she could stay at the apartment tuesday night because she had to be at school wednesday. i couldnt see myself saying no…the roads were horrible, and what if i did say no because she had sex with him and it was over and something happened where she wrecked. so i let her stay.
things seemed to just sparkle between us that night….and she eventually told me that it was just the thrill of the hunt and that even though i said if she crossed that line it would be over forever, she had to sleep with him just to kinda "conquer the quest" and that the moment it was over, she knew she could move on from him. i explained the situation that i was in, how if i were to take her back i would always fear for her leaving again, that i would be setting myself up for another heart break, that if i let her get away with it that she would never learn that every action has a consequence.
im sorry this is so long, so ill get to my question. i love this girl more than anything, and i cant handle the pain of losing her..so when she promised me he was out of her life for good, and that she would do anything to make me know she was back forever, and that she wanted to grow old with me and have kids…i allowed her to come back. the problem lies in me trying to trust in her.

a part of me thinks shes just coming back to me to be in the apartment so she can be close to school, which ends in may. i fear that she is playing me and come may she will be gone again, with a degree that i supported her throughout getting, and im going to be hurt all over again. i know im probably the dumbest guy out there, and i know there is gonna be alot of answers that say "dude leave once a cheater always a cheater" but what im asking is maybe some advice from people who have been cheated on, and tookl that person back, on things i can do to trust her and not have this hurtful feeling inside of me everytime she is off work, or everytime her cell phone gets a text, etc. i want to be able to sit at work shile she is off and not fear she is going up there with him and having a laugh about how i thinks shes with me but its just so she doesnt have to drive. its been 5 days now…and ive been able to work when shes aty school and off when she is off so i can know where she is….but eventually that isnt going to be the case…..please help someone. i HAVE to keep her in my life i need her, but if i cant trust her and am always worried im going to go insane with the inner battle my mind is going through. please help!
1 hour ago – 3 days left to answer.

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i am in the 10th grade, and the girl i like is in 9th. we went out when she was in 7th and i was in 8th, but it didnt work out as we wanted to wait for when we were both in highschool. now that we are in highschool, i asked her if us would ever happen again. she said "probably not". ive liked her ever since for the 4 years and i dont know what to do. i really do like her alot but what should i do? we both go to the same church and her parents love me. everytihng is perfect but the fact that she doesnt like me back currently.

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Im 16 years old and I am truly Devoted to saving my First Kiss for marriage and i know theres alot of people out there who say they’ve never met people who have done that. . well I have! =) plenty matter of fact but i just wanna hear what you guys think not that anything is gonna change it!!
HAHA I totally understand what you all mean but. . y not go into marriage and not have to compare everything he does to someone in the past? just a thought

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Me(21) and my boyfriend(26) were together for 3 years. Few months ago (mid Oct.09) we got into an argument. It was actually for a small issue, but we fought about it for a whole month. I accidently told him its all over and were breaking up.

But this wasn’t the first time we told this to each other, always happens. But this time he took it seriously. While we were arguing he was speaking with another girl and he was sharing our problems to her. She supported him and showed love while he was depressed I guess.

Then he started to love her and went to the extent to kill him self to prove his love for her, plus she also loves him too. He probably was with her for less than 4 months. He called me and told me that he loves her and things went out of hand and now he engaged her and its all over between me and him.

He got engaged with her in December. Its not because she is pregnant or anything. Its because while he was with her having xxx i guess her little sister walked in on them and told her parents everything. Now there sceretly engaged. Only his friends and I know about this.

I still love him, he was my first love and I wanted to be with him forever. He isnt a bad person or anything. When he gets mad he never thinks too hard before he does anything. He’s like that. It took him only 4 months to find another girl and get almost married to her. But I know that he still has some love for me. For sure he will never forget me, and I can’t too.

He have to be with her just because he engaged her. I know for sure that he will never love her as much as he loved me. He was my first love, and first for everything. Same goes for him. He didnt give him self alot of time to think before he made major decisions. I don’t know what to do. I still want him though. Plus that girl is everything that he never wanted me to be, I dont know how he changed this quickly.

I’m the reserved type and he loved me for that but she’s the opposite. She has a lot of guy friends,party girl etc. I know for sure his family won’t like him to be with a girl like herself. So yeah, he probably for got about me now, but for sure I’m still in his heart and he still has the love for me. I don’t know what to do, I can’t forget him or think of moving on with my life. Its too hard, because I don’t remember going through any bad times during our relationship. I only have good memories. He loved me off.

Anyways. What should I do??

My friends and family want me to move on. But something is holding me from doing that, I don’t know why I’m like this. Does engagement mean its all over between us and he’s offically married now. I can’t love him or try and get him back? I’m not trying to get him back anymore, I gave up. Whats the point of running after someone who isnt interested in coming back to you.

He still loves her but I don’t know if its true love or not. Ho wlong does it take to love someone truly and marry them? God. I stopped all the contacts with him. I’m concentrating in my life, still going through depression. He’s going out with her. But I’m waiting for him to come back to me still. No matter how hard I try to forget him, its not working. I can’t imagine the guy I loved deeply an dmadly and wanted to be with all my life is not “married”.

Anyhow I know that they won’t be initally married any sooner because she is 21 yrs old, and he doesnt have a proper job and other issues. I still have some time left. But I don’t know what to do suring that time. How do I get him to realize my true love that I still have for him. I really want him back in my life. I don’t want to lose him. I’m sure that other girl doesnt love him as much as I do. I’m really confused right now. I’m scared that I will lose him completely. Its hard to move on in life knowing that someone else have the something that you used to have and you loved soo much.

Please give me some advice. If does come back to me I’m willing to forgive for all the mistakes he did and accept him back into my life. i know things won’t be the same but I’m sure we can still have a happy life. But I’m scared, I don’t know if he’ll ever even come back to me.

He’s 26 and I’m 21.

I’m in Uni.

My parents know about this and his parents too know, but none can help. Its his decision right.

I’m just worried that I will lose him forever, since he’s engaged. His parents don’t know this yet. If he did realize my love can he break out of the engagement?

I know I sound childish and desperate. Thats what everyone is saying. But what can I do? I just love him. No one is understanding how I feel.

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My exboyfriend and I broke up over something crazy and now that I told him about how he been acting an ass over something that I did four month ago and just told him about a week ago for days I have been hold alot of anger in side so I decide to day that I was going to tell him off and I did so he seem to think that I have ATTITUDE but im tired of his bull shit I mean dont get wrong I do love him but I will not take and shit from either

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He’s just being very hard-hearted right now & stubborn. He lives with a woman, too, that I know he doesn’t love.It’s most likely because he can’t stand to be alone. What can I do to soften his heart for me again? We have 3 beautiful daughters together.
I left him about a year ago due to his drinking & taking drugs.I felt uneasy at that time & was thinking of the kids, too. I do remember alot of good times in our many years together & I guess I just still need the man he was. My girls talk about him alot & he does call them & I guess that’s what’s keeping me still *involved* with him & my feelings, too. IT’s just so hard. So many years together. I get asked out by other men, but just don’t want to go. My heart is still with my ex. Everytime I think I’ve moved on…it happens again. Those memories…our family the way it used to be…

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ok so i broke up with her on the 15th, broke her heart. i was upset too but i was going through ALOT of emotional stress, college, parents annoucement of a divorce, and other minor things like christmas and that had taken its toll on my mind along. i told her i would not be coming back and i was interested in other people. but i found myself missing her and i love her and it was utterly stupid to break up over that stuff.
now i went to her house the 31st told her this and she has been talking to a guy since the 25 or so. she told me she cares about me and if i had come back b4 that guy we would be dating again and the only reason she is talking to him is cuzz he treats her like i did- that came out of her mouth. we hugged and cried together and i wanted her back but she said she just cant do it, it was a taste of my own medicine, i asked if she loved me and she said yes. but she obviously likes this other guy. and said she didnt like her heart broken and she wouldnt break her friends heart. she said she didnt even expect them to last long and we would be bestfriends and see what happens

. i am so confused to say the least. please help me. i need advice! i want to just wait it out to show her i care and not really talk to her but i find myself wanting to txt her now, but i just dont know what to do…

she has txted me atleast once a day the past 4 days, she said goodnight on 2 of those days. also we dated for a year before we broke up and have done almost everything together as a couple and she is a real close friend with my sister. does this help my chances? what do i need to do to get her back in my life?

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I like this ALOT. I’ve liked him for a while, but…he has a girlfriend. They’ve only been dating like 2 months but still. The things is, I never really like guys thatmuch but I really like him. And he would flirt with me and stuff and talk about me all the time in gym ( my bff has his period gym) and he never even mentions his girlfriend when all the guys talk about theirs….but he’ll talk about me. He says and seems to think I don’t really have much interest in him, PLUS he was talking to my ex in gym who hates me. He was sticking upo for me and stuff when my ex said I was ugly but then he said "She will like a guy for the longest time and as soon as she gets with him, she stops liking them and dumps them" and the guy I like was like "….she does that?" and he had said to my bff without really admitting "say a guy…breaks up with is gf to go out with her…and he gets attacthed…then she dumps him…he’d be crushed" well since then, we’ve ttalked on myspace and such and now I’m in bball class with him. And he like always wants to hang out with me and keeps asking me about it, but we’re both kind of grounded. And he always IMs me whenever he can get on myspace…like he just IMs me first and it seems like he really wants to be friends with me.
But it confuses me because….could he possibly like me and really wants to get to know me and go out with me and his gf…he’s only dating her for status….just to have a gf? I mean I don’t know her personally at all, but people have told me she’s super clingy and annoying…but idk…I mean he has so somewhat like her to be dating her right? But then why would he be pursuing me so much?

&& my biggest question (to get to the point) is: From what I’ve gathered I THINK he might be really into me but he’s nervous because of what my ex said and that fact that he’s so use to clinginess and girls admitting they like him but with me…he kind of knows I like him but I’m not very aggressive at all about it like I don’t try to talk to him…it’s always HIM talking to me….but the last two days we’ve been having a long conversation the enture period while we sat out on gym. And we always hug each other goodbye. And when we were passing each other through the doors in the monring I thought maybe his gf would be there so I just waved and passed by but he pulled me back and said "Uh uh I get a HUG" and I laughed and hugged him. So like we’re getting to know each other now….but he still has the gf…so even if something happens…is he going to break up with her for me?

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ok so i broke up with her on the 15th, broke her heart. i was upset too but i was going through ALOT of emotional stress, college, parents annoucement of a divorce, and other minor things like christmas and that had taken its toll on my mind along with her mother that is single and both of us agree she is a *****. i told her i would not be coming back and i was interested in other people. but i found myself missing her and i love her and it was utterly stupid to break up over that stuff. now i went to her house the 31st told her this and she has been talking to a guy since the 25 or so. she told me she cares about me and if i had come back b4 that guy we would be dating again and the only reason she is talking to him is cuzz he treats her like i did- that came out of her mouth. we hugged and cried together and i wanted her back but she said she just cant do it, it was a taste of my own medicine, i asked if she loved me and she said yes. but she obviously likes this other guy. and said she didnt like her heart broken and she wouldnt break her friends heart. she waid she didnt even espect them to last long and we would be bestfriends and see what happens. i am so confused to say the least. please help me. i need advice! i want to just wait it out to show her i care and not really talk to her but i find myself wanting to txt her now, but i just dont know what to do… she has txted me atleast once a day the past 4 days, she said goodnight on 2 of those days. also we dated for a year before we broke up and have done almost everything together as a couple and she is a real close friend with my sister. does this help my chances? what do i need to do to get her back in my life?

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What do i need to do to get my wife to want me again?

We’ve been together for almost 20 years now and we’re both in our mid to late 30’s. for the last 4 or 5 years shes kind of shyed away from me (even though she says she doesnt think so). we have kids and everything, but it never used to be a problem before. she says she loves me more than ever all the time, but i can never get her to instigate sex between us and im getting tired and bored of being the one who always does instigate it. ive talked about it with her til i cant even say it anymore because its like “beating a dead horse”. im lost as to what to do about this anymore… i love her to death, but i dont want to have a dead sex life at this point in my life already…
thanks everyone… alot of good answers! believe me, the sex isnt the only thing. we are both very much “into” one another, but we’ve tried almost everything that you all have written — about the only thing we havent isnt counseling. maybe that will have to be the next route. we’ve always been very open with each other about everything, so im a little leary about telling someone else our problems — we’ve always felt we could work any problem ourselves — and we pretty much have, but this one seems to be the biggest one we’ve had and neither one of us can figure out an answer… thanks everyone.

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Should i try to get back together with my ex girlfriend?

First off im a sophmore in highschool (15). My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago after an argument, but we stayed on friendly terms. the problem is that i really like her, and cant seem to get over her. Im not sure what to do, just leave it be and continue to try to get over her? Or should i tell her how i feel and see if she wants to get back together? i feel really conflicted, on one hand i miss her alot, but on the other hand i dont want to make things hard for her or seem like a needy loser

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Hi, I was wondering if these were signs my ex wants me back. Me and my ex were not talking for a while after we broke up we were friends after but i later dropped all communication because i needed to heal. and now im talking to her and shes sending alot of mixed signals when we first started talking again one thing i noticed when i got off the phone was we talked for 6 hours and 20 minutes. catching up and other things. on top of that for my bday she sent me a card that inside had a 3 page letter that told me how she was what her plans were for the future and on top of that she put her perfume on it which she use to put on all her letters when we were dating and its the exact same perfume too. on top of that she also said she missed me and understands why i didnt want to talk to her. since we started talking she also told me that when we werent talking she would check up on my facebook to see how i was doing. she also wore my necklace that i gave her for xmas 08 more than when i gave it to her. and she said she stopped checking it when she found out i was dating someone else (im not dating that person anymore) and then the other day she also sent me a list of songs that she listened too when we werent talking that made her think of me./us. she also still has all of our pics from when we were dating on facebook and she never deleted any of them she also put our personal dating album for her view only. so can someone plz tell me these are signs, that she wants me back cuz i really want her back cuz i love her but im afraid that i maybe wrong and i may push her away or hurt myself or both. so w/e help will be appreciated. Oh and one more thing if these are signs how should i go about getting her back
thanx
P.s. she broke up with me cuz she said she wasnt in love with me anymore but it sounds like she still cares about me the same way and so far shes called me 3 times this week already
oh and also she doesnt fully trust me yet due to me stop talking to her for a while

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