was cheating on you 5 years before during separation, then shes moves back in, 3 months of counseling, she moves out again…says she will get into counseling for 9 months and doesn’t, pushes for a divorce but kept up the relationship for with me for 2 years after the divorce (I know it sounds crazy) all during while I was trying to reconcile, us being together with our son the whole time in two different homes, leading me to think that there was a possibility of reconciling, then cuts it all off abruptlty swearing there is no one else…then I find out the whole time she was with me she was seeing another guy and now she is marrying him this summer…and trying to move my son 2 hours away from me…also finding out that a dear friend of 20 years knew about it the other guy and never said anything to me during the affair…how am I supposed to be supportive of my son – getting to know this guy – he doesn’t like him and he was instrumental in tearing our family apart? all this truth…
comes out now…I end up paying attorneys after she tried for custody twice last year…hiding the guy…after the second attempt he comes out of the woodwork..and in the last few weeks I find out she was covertly being with this guy on a regular basis claiming confusion, and we can get remarried, annouces it publicly one year after the divorce…knowing how I felt about her and family, knowing she had no intention and I kept her alive going through almost K…stopping her from gettinf evicted…not knowing she was seeing this guy at the same time…helping her…and then she lieds in court to try to take my son away from me becasue she knew the marriage was coming down the pipe…how does one NOT get angry…how does one keep cool about all of this…fgor the best interest of my son whom I love very much and care for and now he is being thrown into this den of liars and home wreckers…low morals…and this new guy has alot of money…on top…she abducted our son 6 years ago.
Being mental as it was stated was an attempt to keep our family together with a woman who experienced 911 personally and went off the deep end…missed her home country and her family and ran with our son…I always believed that this affected her very deeply…but then I find out I was wrong and 911 had nothing to do with the abduction…she lept me believing alot of things that I had no idea was going on…I was trying to get her help…so does one just give up on a family in shreads or try to find a way to keep it togehter…and if so…how long does it take to put a family back into balance (Just a Thought)
For over two years on many weekends she would drop my son off with me gladly to take care of him and then go off to "be with our friend" and all along meeting up with this other guy…then would come stay with me for 3 or 4 days…then create a fight…two days later…back to me..me at her place…her at my place…all three of us together…that was my focus…my therapist told me "she is zig zagging…trying to find her way back to you…she will sned you through heL& but you will have to take what ever she throws at you if you really want to win her back…ALL along…her knowing she was never coming back but using me to stay alive.
and now she is taking my son to all the things that we used to go…all the fun spots we all visitied…restaurants, game plexes…movie theatres…parks…and he lives 2 hours away…staying over at her place duruing the weekends while my son is there…my son cant stand the guy…so he says repeatedly…but now every week for 3 months she hits me with something new about my son…accusing me of alienating him from her and her future husband…and my son says I don’t say anything bad about her or him…I have asked to meet him…she denied ot for weeks…then agreed…the day before the meeting…she calls it off…I want to meet his guy…my son wants to live with me…he doesn’t want to move away from me or his friends…she doesn’t have to move…nothing about a job…so he should have to cimmute if he cares for my son not taking him away from me…I live 5 minutes away from him and we spoend alot of time together…I am in the 5% category who sees their kids alot…why must she do
