i met this guy the day after i found out i was preg. with my 4th child and we hit it off then he loses his job as a truck driver and over time i decided i would get back with my babies dad because the truck driver lived in another state and i didnt think we would be back together because of a long distant relationship but i made a mistake by getting back with my babies dad and he is no out of the picture and the truck driver and i remained friends and still have dealings like we are in a relationship and i do love him and i want to spend the rest of my life with him and he loves me and my kids i want to know how can i get this man back in my life the wqay i want him its like when he’s here i’m complete and when he is not here a part of me is missing please someone help me find an answer on how i can get my one and only true love back all the way
Funny saying it because last year i tried every trick in the book to save my marriage which was once healthy and everything i ever wanted…My husband hide few things about his ex and i found out later…they are in touch due to the child they have…I felt so betrayed but still i tried to over look ..Then he refused to have baby with me and week later went on to meet his child in another city..
I was with him through thick and thin….i have good job so i help financially…but my life is stuck in one place.
being with him for 10 years and now aproaching 31 i am to scared to leave.
PS for last 2 years since his secret is exposed we are fighting and few times he hit me and stuff…last fight got ugly decided to leave and thanked god we have no babies.
Now i have this great big plans…to start over and finish studies and save money..But sometimes feel like i wont be able to do it…or regret later that i left him.Though i dont feel same for him anymore…i feel shut down.
How can i take step of leaving my marital home and start all over…i feel so lost.
My hubs and I met in high school. We dated 6 years before getting married. We waited until after college. We’ve been married for 7 years and we have 2 children under the age of 3.
We’ve been happily married until our children came. I LOVE our babies more then anything. We were always the couple that were touching or kissing, holding hands….
After the birth of our first child I tried really hard to not put my hubs on the back burner, but after awhile I realized I was paying more attention to the baby then him. I tried to fix it and we were ok for a while. Then my hubs started working on a “hot rod” car that he bought to fix.
My son and I basically spent every weekend w/ my mom, even spending the nights b/c hubs was in the gararge from sun up to sun down. My hubs never gave me a break to sleep in. He did care for our son when I specifically asked him too.
Soon I went back to work full time not getting off until 6pm. It was usually 645pm before I got home with the baby while hubs had been home since 4pm. He didn’t help w/ the chores or doing dinner, always working on the car. We grew distant and I actually started taking antidepressants b/c I was so unhappy.
I tried a MILLION times to talk to him about how I felt, he said he was sorry and would help out for a few days… then back to the old ways. I started feeling better when he sold the car and came back to us. I got prego again and was put on bedrest w/ our daughter at 28 weeks. I quit work and stayed home all day w/ our toddler son (ON BEDREST). Again, not much help from hubs unless I specifically asked and had to ask a lot.
After our daughter was born he had 2 weeks off-spending most of the time on projects around the house and helping only when I asked.
He went back to work and worked 1 month straight with no days off (at a power plant) working 16 hour shifts. We never saw him. He came home to shower and sleep only. So I had to take care of a newborn and toddler by myself. I was resentful towards him for not helping out, when he could have asked off…. especially when he decided to go hunting out of state and asked off a day from work!!
Now our daughter is over a year old and I feel nothing for him. I’m angry a lot of the times for him not helping me out, for not giving me a break. I’ve stuffed my face w/ food and gained weight, I don’t care about myself at all. I have no self esteem b/c he’s also been hiding an addiction to porn all these years. I’ve caught him looking at it online so many times and he’s promised to stop, but always looks again soon. I feel like I’m a failure as a woman and don’t want him to even look at me.
Everything makes me mad at him and everything irritates me. We haven’t had sex in over 2 months and before that it was 1 month for sex.
Tell me what to do! How do I get those feelings back? I don’t want a divorce. I’m a Christian and have struggled with these feelings. I know I should love my hubs. He’s a great provider, he is great with the kids, he’s nice to me. I should be so thankfull.
I remember what it was like to love him. I just don’t know how I got off track. I’ve talked to him until I’m blue in the face, HUNDREDS of times. Things are good for a few days, then back to normal. I’m tired of living this way, tired of stuffing my face full of food (as my only comfort), tired of feeling inferior to those porn girls he looks at, tired of having no self esteem, tired of crying. I don’t want to leave him, I just want to feel better and love him again.
Checkita: My mom tells me the same thing. She says marriage is the hardest when the babies are small and things will get better when they are older. I just don’t know where I went wrong. I always thought we would have a great marriage, we used to talk about everything…..
Now I don’t say anything half of the time b/c I don’t want to be a “nag”. Thank you!
Miko: He’s always looked at porn, since high school. I just didn’t know until after we were married. I am not taking any anti-depressants-I stopped when I got prego w/ our daughter.
The system is bent. My children are very healthy, smart, and well taken care of. I was framed and I so scared for my babies. By the way, if Clinton County, Frankfort IN means anything to you, their system is way BENT!!!!!!!
My boyfriend just left me I am 5 months pregnant. I would like to hear from other women that have been through this and had their babies by now to know how things worked out.
Ok, this is not as ghetto as it sounds. Basically, i met this amazing girl one night playing pool. We really hit it off and we were together until last week about 2 and a half months. Everything was fabulous and we really clicked well. The dilemma is that she has a 2 year old daughter and she just broke up with the babies father 2 months before she met me. They have joint custody on a week by week basis so she obviously has to see him. I am a guy with no kids, 24, doin ok for myself. Anyhow, just to paint a picture, i guess she had moved into an efficiency to get away from her ex and try to start her new life without him when i first met her. They had been togather for three years and they have broke up like 4 times during the relationship already. So she told me she was ready to move on, so we became official. After that, we spent most of our time together when we weren’t working, and i would keep her company as well on the weeks she had her daughter. I began staying the night at her house alot, and she also had her little brother staying with her who slept in the same living area as her, seeing how she was in an efficiency, it was just like a big living room. She finally upgraded to a different unit next door so we could have our own privacy, own room etc,. Well this place had some characters that lived there as well and they were all like drung attics and things, not so good of an atmosphere. Anyhow one day, i woke up and heard my girlfriend arguing with someone outside. It was one of the low lifes that lived there, and i guess he had been banging on her door while we were sleeping trying to look for her brother. Anyhow he got mouthy and i ran out cuz nobody is gonna talk to shit to my girl…..anyhow i confronted him, shouted something caveman at him and he walked away. Well, i had been fed up with the shit that she had to put up with living there as a mother just working to survive, so i thought what the hell, i was looking into renting out this nice house closer to my work anyhow, and my friend was kinda flaking who was gonna move in anyway, so i asked if she might be interested because she would save money on what she was paying at the roach motel anyhow, so i took her and her little brother to see the house. She was immediatly happy and things just went better from there. Here is where it gets weird. Everything is still going good and it was two days before we put the money up to move in. She came to see me at work like usual, and we went for lunch and just browsed some other places, but everything was as great as it always was. She mentioned something about her babies father hearing about her moving in with me and threatening to take her car away, which i guess was in his name, some 94 lexus, nothing special, paid off , but i guess he was the primary lean holder on the title. Well i have a truck and i wouldn’t mind helping but of course i hope it wouldn’t come to that, either way, nothing i couldn’t handle. So that same day she takes me back to work after lunch, same old same, "so your gonna come over after work and spend the night tonight right?" Of course it was what the routine was lately so of course i said yes and i’ll see you later. Well, i came over later on when she got home from work, and i could tell something was wrong she immediatley became someone different. She sat down said we needed to talk, and began to tell me that she needed some space and can’t commit right now. I AM TELLING YOU THAT THINGS WERE GREAT BETWEEN US THIS WHOLE TIME. It was like unexpected, but i decided to give her a day or two, i hugged and kissed her then left. I didn’t know this was the last time that i would see the girl. The next day her brother came up to my work with some of my stuff like my xbox and one of my shirts with a note from her. The note said she was totally into me and everything we had was true, but she is in conflict with herself and her life. It was like i’ll miss you see you down the road type thing maybe. Anyhow, i was pretty upset and sad, but i gave her a couple days and went back to her place one night when i couldn’t take it anymore. She was GONE. The property manager said she had moved out the night before with the help of her ex-boyfriend/babies dad. I finally got a call from her a couple days later and she had moved back with this guy out of nowhere! She stated her strong feelings for me, but she had to do what was best for her daughter right now, she said she may be making a mistake because of what we had, but she said she needed to at least give it one more try with 100 percent of her self, so if it didn’t work out she could of least said she tried her best. She is 23, very beautiful, she had explained when i first met her that she didn’t even want to have the kid in the first place but she was down in florida all by herself, and she was from ohio. She said the only thing close to family down here was her ex’s family and they were all convincing her to have the kid and telling her how bad she would be if she wouldn’t. I believe that the ex and his family have alot to do as far a brainwashing this girl. The guy is like 30, i mean common, what are trying to seal your future by getting a beautiful girl pregnant when she isn’t even sure. Way to care about someones life. Anyhow, i may sound crazy, but it was just so real that i can’t help but be hurt and want to fight for this girl, but i don’t want to hurt her situation. It was just so sudden and i haven’t had feelings for another girl since my last relationship which was over a year and a half ago. What would you do? What should i do?
On 8/10/06 my wife left me after i vented some frustration regarding my 7 year old step daughter. I used foul language and yelled, my step daughter was not home during this venting. My wife has sinced moved out and filed for an anullment, she has also cut off all communication with me. My wife who i love dearly has a "PAST", since her 7 year old daughter was born she’s had seven significant relationships. 1 the babies dead, 2 a fiance who left her, 3 an old high school boyfriend who cheated on her, and 4 me. I knew this going in but was fully committed to the both of them and loved them with all my heart. I have sent her e-mails expressing my love and asking for her forgiveness. I have even gone to her moms house where she is leaving and said i am sorry and all she said was "you got her involved". I gave the child all the love and attention in the world, more than her own father. I just had trouble with repeating myself go clean your room your mom wants it clean. i love them both.
