Okay so first of all, I’ll give you a little background information on my situation and try not to bore you too much.
– My ex-boyfriend and I broke up late last September, and it was definitely the hardest break-up I’ve ever been through. We only dated for a few months, but during that few months we spent a LOT of time together and it was the first real relationship I’d had so naturally I grew pretty attached. After the break up, I couldn’t get him off of my mind. We both went separate ways and he eventually started dating another girl, but they broke up fairly recently for some reason. I had grown used to it and though I still missed him and thought about things occasionally, it was no longer an issue for me. We remained on good terms with each other, but only talked one time.
About a week ago, I got a text from him asking how I was and we talked for a few hours and got along great. Later that week, I was having some friends over and decided to invite him and his friends. While we were talking alone in our room and everyone else was downstairs, he kept bringing up old times and turning on some of our songs, and then we kissed and things got a little heated up, but we did not do anything else except kissing because he had to leave soon and our friends were right downstairs. He even invited me to go bowling with him and some of his friends on valentines day. We were supposed to get together at my house yesterday, but plans changed and it didn’t work out. He texted me asking if we would’ve finished off where we left off on the night we kissed, and i told him that i’m not sure if i wanted to have sex with him because i didn’t wan’t to develop feelings for him again. Neither him or I really want to be tied down to a relationship right now…but i don’t want to lose him from my life. We started talking about having a "friends with benefits" deal, and of course he was all for that. I told him that I would think about it. The more I think about it, the more i can’t decide though. Both of us want to have sex, but i’m afraid that if i do it’ll bring back too many old feelings and i’ll be left in love with him again and he won’t feel the same way.
Is there anyone out there that has any advice for me on what to do? Any is truly appreciated, and please be honest…even if it’s brutal. Thank you all, and sorry it’s so long!
So.. before i begin my story ill give you some background information. and please dont think this is just high school drama, because its so much more than that.
im only 17, and im in love currently but messed up and needs help emensly. this summer has been probably the roughest time of my life. before my current boyfriend i had another that i had dated for 2 years. just last month he died in a drunk driving axident that i feel hard to beleive yet hard to get over mentally. and my current boyfriend i feel is all i have left thats the closest thing to my ex. not that their alike. i just like comfort. who doesnt..
so all this sounds nice and dandy but ive messed up in the past and somehow it found me and payed me another visit. i dont want your pitty for my ex and i understand what your about to read is really messed up, so please no name calling or bi**h outs. just advice please.
okay so, to begin when i was dating my ex about a year into our relationship i got drunk with my friend hannah and her boyfriend we all messed up that night. i didnt nessacerily have sex with him, but we made out and i told my ex the next day. about six months ago my ex and i broke up for a while and yet again i got drunk and hooked up with his best friend branden. (which i deeply regret) he never found out about it… we broke up but he still took me to winter formal. this was around valentines day this year. on valentines day itself he was supposed to pick me up and go to a party where he said he was going to ask me out. he ended up ditching me and hooking up with my bestfriend who is currently mourning him because they dated.
about a month after they started dating, me heartbroken and angry desides to find another guy. i did his name was mason and he was one of the best wrestlers in our state. hes muslum and extremely hard headed (i soon found out..) lol. i had had one serious boyfirend before that and he had never had a girlfriend. we soon dated after he got back from sping break and it was good untill the little immature fights came. mason soon started breaking up with me over the dumbest things and i had never delt with that with my ex. i didnt know what to do. he became EXTREMELY attatched to me and i think i took it all for granite. i thought i liked him alot, but at that point i just got so fed up with it all i did something stupid. one night mason broke up with me and he sounded seriously different this time. i felt uncomforted so me being dumb called up brandon. we drank and did everthing but sex. (regrettingly) mason and i soon got back together and i didnt want to tell him because i didnt want to hurt him cause he was being post breakup but kisser and i loved it. he really trusted me. and one day after my ex’s funeral, brandon and mason become friends somehow and the secret slipped out. mason stayed with me to this day. he doesnt trust me and all of his friends hate me. everyone now knows about everything with me and brando too. and just recently i told a little lie and i lost all trust with him. i didnt relize it before but i really need him. i am a girl of physical comfort which is rare. please dont think im a sl*t. im truely a sweet girl that just gets put in bad situations and makes bad decisions. i know now i truely love mason and possibly want him for the rest of my life (i know im extremely young, im just showing you how much i care) i need help, i cant feel heart broken again cause it hurts. how can i get his trust back fast, even though i know itll take alot of time. im ready to grow up and change. i do have a problem with lying that i want to overcome. im done partying, even though i dont do it that much. i need help because i need mason. i love him.
First off, I would like to give you guys some background information: I have a very lazy horse who needs spurs to get him going. Please don’t say "You’re mean for using spurs!" I need them.
Anyways, My horse is always getting spur marks on his left side (I have a stronger left leg). The first mark was a little rub/cut that broke the skin. I’m letting that one heal, by putting my spur lower. The first mark was unexpected because I’ve always used the same spur and it never left a mark. That was about 1 month ago. Since then, he hasn;t gotten any more marks. Today, after I rode, I discovered that I had rubbed some of the hair off right under where the first mark had been. It wasn’t as bad as the first one, seeing that there was no cub, only a rub.
Please don’t think that I don’t feel bad! I feel HORRIBLE! I love my horse so much and to see him like that makes me so sad. =(
Now, My questions are :
-Will the hair grow back?
-How long will it take the hair to grow back?
-What can I do to help the hair grow back faster?
-How can I prevent cuts/bad rubs? (I have to use spurs)
-I use rounded spurs, but are rubber tipped spurs more mild on the skin?
Well i lost the love of my life about 2mths ago. Ok well, let me gave you some background information..
I met this guy name brigand on jan 11 2007 though my bestfriend taylor she was going out with his step brother. his parent went bahamas and i have always had lil crush on him at school then oneday he taylor told me he was going to pick up from her house..
Then in the way to his house we kept flirting and stuff we got to his house and i had some shots caption morgan and then we went out to his pool and i sat on his lap.. the we started makeing out everywhere after that. we never hook up.. then that same week he ask me out i was only his 2nd gf ever.
He was 17 year old and i was 15 at the time. he serior and 10th grade. i mean i did thing that i would never thought ex..i step school and sneak out my house . but the thing my mom doesnt let me have bf. at all . we dated for 8mths .. go to part 2 of this question it wont let write everything please go to part 2 help me..
I’ve known her for about 7 years, together 2.5, we were each others first everything and shared many many great times together that we both won’t ever forget. I built my life around her, even transferred colleges just to be with her because we both felt that we would be with each other for ever. At the end of her freshman year we broke up because we were both at a difficult time in our lives and we needed space and breathing room…Although we were broken up, we still maintained contact…there was rocky periods but for the most part we had fun together, hooked up, the whole nine yards.
Where I am now:
College started again and I began to cling a little…I was annoyed at the fact that other guys she had met suddenly took priority over me. For example: When I would take her out to dinner, she would read and respond to their txt’s right in front of me! Although we were together exclusively…The jealousy really got the best of me and about a week ago she started to get sick of my constant plee’s for her attention. She told me that she just wanted to be friends with the option to get back together in the future…She also told me that she’s ‘set on marrying me in the future’…but she seems to change her mind about things often so I don’t know if that still holds true. Anyway, I broke down and for the first time experienced heart break/ache…and I’m still going through it. My mind is consumed with her every second of the day, but I have held strong and not made any efforts to contact her.
However, 2 days of silence past and she txt’d me telling me that she was wearing my sweatshirt…I replied an hour later with something very short and ended it…Since then she txt’s me at least once a day and tries to make small talk conversation, or asks me questions that she obviously already knows the answer too…I keep things brief and distant…Careful to not let her see how much of a total wreck I really am. All’s I want is for her to tell me she misses me…or that she loves me..but as much as she continues this small talk she doesn’t tell me how she really feels.
I’m not ready ready to be friends at this point…Although I really want to…I just don’t think I’m emotionally ready for handle such a drastic change…
What should I do? How can I get her back? I have plenty of friends…but I’m the only guy out of my group who seems to be the ‘nesting’ type…I just can will my self to be a player.
