I’m afraid that my ex-girlfriend is trying to get some sort of revenge on me. I mean, I don’t completely blame her, but I’d rather find a way to get out of this situation. Here’s the backstory:

I was kind of a jerk for a long time to my ex-girlfriend. I repeatedly cheated on her, treated her like crap and when I broke up with her I told her to just go get a life and leave me alone for now on.

So yeah, maybe I’m kind of a dick, so what? That’s life, you know? But last week she called me up telling me about certain pictures she has of me. I don’t want to talk about what are on those pictures since its really embarrassing and there’s no point in anyone knowing. But the point is that she is trying to use those pictures as blackmail to get me to do whatever she wants. What you all need to understand is that if the people at my work see those pictures I am completely out of a job (since what I’m doing in those photos are kind of illegal… it really is a long story). She’s friends with a couple of the guys I work with, so that really scares me.

So I agreed to come over to her place a couple of nights ago, figuring that whatever she wanted me to do so that she could get even, it couldn’t be that bad. What she had me do kind of freaked me out though.

She wanted me to put on one of her old costumes, which happened to be this sort of slutty Alice In Wonderland outfit and model it for her. I was completely shocked at how completely weird that request is and I refused at first, but then she showed me proof that she had some of those photos digitally backed up online. So I went ahead and put on the costume, pretending it was funny instead of just freaking me out. She also put full makeup on my face and had me wear hosiery and a wig. After having me do some pretty weird stuff like dancing, singing and acting stuff out for her, she eventually let me change back into my clothes and go home.

So up until last night I was kind of relieved that she had finally had her revenge and we were totally even. But she called me again last night to tell me that she wants me to come over next Saturday to do similar things with one of her friends there.

I couldn’t sleep at all last night and I’m really stressed out about this. I don’t want to have to keep going over there so that she can get her kicks out of dressing me up like a girl, but there’s no way in hell that I can let her show those pictures to anyone, especially not my coworkers. I’ve thought about taking legal action or something, but I’m really worried about the fact that what I’m doing in those pictures is illegal. A part of me thinks maybe it might be worth it to just let her do this for a while and hope that she’ll get bored of it or just let it go.

Her revenge is retarded anyway, since I don’t feel any worse about all of the things I did to her. In fact, I’m more glad that I caused her all that pain now. Sure, she was innocent in the situation before and it does make me kind of a bad guy for doing it, but she’s not the innocent one in the situation now.

So what should I do? Is there a way to keep her from doing this, or should I just let it happen and hope that she’ll get bored?
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Like I said, I don’t regret anything I did to her, so you can call me an ass if you want but your probably just as crazy as she is.

If you realized how embarrassing the whole night was, you might change your mind. It wasn’t just because I looked and felt ridiculous, it was because I looked a little too much like an actual girl with all of that on. Any guy in here would be able to understand how messed up it is to feel like your masculinity is being stolen away from you. Sorry if you chicks can’t understand.


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I’ve asked this before, but the chicks on here are almost as crazy as my ex lol. Anyways, I’ve got a serious problem on my hands.

‘m afraid that my ex-girlfriend is trying to get some sort of revenge on me. I mean, I don’t completely blame her, but I’d rather find a way to get out of this situation. Here’s the backstory:

I was kind of a jerk for a long time to my ex-girlfriend. I repeatedly cheated on her, treated her like crap and when I broke up with her I told her to just go get a life and leave me alone for now on.

So yeah, maybe I’m kind of a dick, so what? That’s life, you know? I’m a little sexist against women, but anyone who isn’t sexist is just fooling themselves. So last week she called me up telling me about certain pictures she has of me. I don’t want to talk about what are on those pictures since its really embarrassing and there’s no point in anyone knowing. But the point is that she is trying to use those pictures as blackmail to get me to do whatever she wants. What you all need to understand is that if the people at my work see those pictures I am completely out of a job (since what I’m doing in those photos are kind of illegal… it really is a long story). She’s friends with a couple of the guys I work with, so that really scares me.

So I agreed to come over to her place a couple of nights ago, figuring that whatever she wanted me to do so that she could get even, it couldn’t be that bad. What she had me do kind of freaked me out though.

She wanted me to put on one of her old costumes, which happened to be this sort of slutty Alice In Wonderland outfit and model it for her. I was completely shocked at how completely weird that request is and I refused at first, but then she showed me proof that she had some of those photos digitally backed up online. So I went ahead and put on the costume, pretending it was funny instead of just freaking me out. She also put full makeup on my face and had me wear hosiery and a wig. After having me do some pretty weird stuff like dancing, singing and acting stuff out for her, she eventually let me change back into my clothes and go home.

So up until last night I was kind of relieved that she had finally had her revenge and we were totally even. But she called me again last night to tell me that she wants me to come over next Saturday to do similar things with one of her friends there.

I couldn’t sleep at all last night and I’m really stressed out about this. I don’t want to have to keep going over there so that she can get her kicks out of dressing me up like a girl, but there’s no way in hell that I can let her show those pictures to anyone, especially not my coworkers. I’ve thought about taking legal action or something, but I’m really worried about the fact that what I’m doing in those pictures is illegal. A part of me thinks maybe it might be worth it to just let her do this for a while and hope that she’ll get bored of it or just let it go.

Her revenge is retarded anyway, since I don’t feel any worse about all of the things I did to her. In fact, I’m more glad that I caused her all that pain now. Sure, she was innocent in the situation before and it does make me kind of a bad guy for doing it, but she’s not the innocent one in the situation now.

So what should I do? Is there a way to keep her from doing this, or should I just let it happen and hope that she’ll get bored?
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MY BACKSTORY

My ex girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years and were extremely connected emotionally and spiritually. We spoke in depth about marriage and families, and she made it clear on numerous occasions that she’s "done looking" and "I’m the man she hopes to marry". As much as we both really wanted it to work out, unfortunately it just didn’t, and the break up was extremely dramatic for the both of us. Our relationship ended in mid-October and I was fairly devastated. 2009 was a very challenging year for me, because I was searching diligently for a new career with no luck, and therefore I wasn’t the most pleasant person during this time. She started dating a new guy about 3 weeks after we broke up and is still currently dating him in what I consider to be a rebound relationship by definition. I do know for a fact that he was unrelated to her and I breaking up, for he wasn’t even in the picture. He’s 100% not her type physically, and I’m not saying I’m her only type, but after being with someone for 2.5 years, you tend to know the type of people the person your dating is attracted to physically based on previous boyfriends and athletes/actors they might be attracted to. The guy is overweight and unhealthy looking and apparently at least one of her girlfriends calls him "turkey neck" behind his back.

In the last month, the status messages and posts on their facebook walls’ have been more and more romantic. Posts like, "<3 u", "don’t miss me too much this weekend", and quoting love songs. Her and I didn’t speak much over the last 2.5 months, and a large majority of our communication was amicable, but some of the communication was very dramatic like “I hate you” and “my friends and family want you out of my life, and so do I”. I backed off about 4 weeks ago and the drama has begun to subside between her and I. I have been dating a new girl whose posted cute stuff on my facebook wall too, implying that we’re dating also. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been facebook friends for almost 2 months now, and everything I know is from a mutual friend. I wouldn’t normally question the validity of my ex girlfriend’s feelings for this new guy, but in the past week she’s reached out and sent me a few text messages saying "I just wanted to say that I hope you’re doing okay" on Dec 26, "just so you know, I always believed in you" on Dec 29, and "happy new year" on Jan 1 at 2am (possibly a drunk text). I didn’t respond to any of these texts and I haven’t heard from her since.

MY OPINION

If I was completely content with another woman, then I can’t see a reason why I’d contact any ex girlfriend, unless I heard of something tragic like a death in the family or something similar. Therefore, I was shocked to hear anything from my ex girlfriend after I backed off, especially considering they’re in the middle of the so called “honey moon stage” of the relationship.

MY QUESTIONS

My question is pretty clear, but factoring in the backstory, why would my ex girlfriend be texting me? Guilt, feelings, or a combination of both? Could she have gotten word from a mutual friend that I’m dating and now she’s a little jealous? Has she not completely closed the door on us yet, and is looking to keep the door propped open? I really think she might be falling in love with this guy, based on the comments posted on a public forum like facebook, so then why the ambiguous text messages to me? I’ve ignored her texts up until this point, and I’m afraid that it might’ve been a bad decision to do so, should I now reach out (maybe mention that I’ve secured a great new career since our break up)? Considering it’s not hard to warm the heart of a wounded woman that’s hurt and that he’s clearly unattractive (she’s gorgeous), could this really be a rebound relationship that’s become more serious than usual? Lastly, should I just give up and let what’s meant to be…be, or should I put things in motion while she’s seeing this guy?

Does anyone speak girl, thanks so much!!!
My exgirlfriend finally posted a pic of her new guy and herself on facebook. Pics were at her brother’s wedding reception (Jan 2) and the rehearsal dinner (Dec 30) which he was a guest at both. Now I dont know what to do.

She seems well on her way into being fully involved with this guy now which is crazy to think after the many years and memories we shared. I dont know how any woman or person for that matter, could begin a new relationship so soon while recovering from a broken one. It amazes me. Still for whatever reason she reached out to me 3 times last week thru text as Ive already stated. I will not try to sabotage her new relationship but I want to leave the door propped open for a possible reconciliation. So at this point I feel like I have 3 options:

1. Wait for her to reach out again and then respond kindly.

2. Send her text in the next day or so. Something like "happy belated new year", "tell ur bro & his bride congrats on their marriage" or mention my job.

3. Ur option?



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**MY APOLOGIZES FOR THE LENGTH**

MY BACKSTORY

My ex girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years and were extremely connected emotionally and spiritually. We spoke in depth about marriage and families, and she made it clear on numerous occasions that she’s "done looking" and "I’m the man she hopes to marry". As much as we both really wanted it to work out, unfortunately it just didn’t, and the break up was extremely dramatic for the both of us. Our relationship ended in mid-October and I was fairly devastated. 2009 was a very challenging year for me, because I was searching diligently for a new career with no luck, and therefore I wasn’t the most pleasant person during this time. She started dating a new guy about 3 weeks after we broke up and is still currently dating him in what I consider to be a rebound relationship by definition. I do know for a fact that he was unrelated to her and I breaking up, for he wasn’t even in the picture. He’s 100% not her type physically, and I’m not saying I’m her only type, but after being with someone for 2.5 years, you tend to know the type of people the person your dating is attracted to physically based on previous boyfriends and athletes/actors they might be attracted to. The guy is overweight and unhealthy looking and apparently at least one of her girlfriends calls him "turkey neck" behind his back.

In the last month, the status messages and posts on my ex’s and her new guy’s facebook walls’ have been more and more romantic towards each other. Posts like, "<3 u", "don’t miss me too much this weekend", and quoting love songs. Her and I didn’t speak much over the last 2.5 months, and a large majority of our communication was amicable, but some of the communication was very dramatic like “I hate you” and “my friends and family want you out of my life, and so do I”. I backed off about 4 weeks ago and the drama has begun to subside between her and I. I have been dating a new girl whose posted cute stuff on my facebook wall too, implying that we’re dating also. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been facebook friends for almost 2 months now, and everything I know is from a mutual friend. I wouldn’t normally question the validity of my ex girlfriend’s feelings for this new guy, but in the past week she’s reached out and sent me a few text messages saying "I just wanted to say that I hope you’re doing okay" on Dec 26, "just so you know, I always believed in you" on Dec 29, and "happy new year" on Jan 1 at 2am (possibly a drunk text). I didn’t respond to any of these texts and I haven’t heard from her since.

MY OPINION

If I was completely content with another woman, then I can’t see a reason why I’d contact any ex girlfriend, unless I heard of something tragic like a death in the family or something similar. Therefore, I was shocked to hear anything from my ex girlfriend after I backed off, especially considering they’re in the middle of the so called “honey moon stage” of the relationship.

MY QUESTIONS

My question is pretty clear, but factoring in the backstory, why would my ex girlfriend be texting me? Guilt, feelings, or a combination of both? Could she have gotten word from a mutual friend that I’m dating and now she’s a little jealous? Could she be testing me and simply looking for a reaction out of me to gauge my feelings, even though she may feel the security of a new guy? Has she not completely closed the door on us yet, and is looking to keep the door propped open? I really think she might be falling in love with this guy, based on the comments posted on a public forum like facebook, so then why the ambiguous text messages to me? I’ve ignored her texts up until this point, and I’m afraid that it might’ve been a bad decision to do so, should I now reach out (maybe mention that I’ve secured a great new career since our break up)? Considering it’s not hard to warm the heart of a wounded woman that’s hurt and that he’s clearly unattractive (she’s gorgeous), could this really be a rebound relationship that’s become more serious than usual? Lastly, should I just give up and let what’s meant to be…be, or should I put things in motion while she’s seeing this guy?

Does anyone speak girl??? Please don’t provide me with lip service and tell me what you think I may want to hear. Thanks so much!!!
My exgirlfriend finally posted a pic of her new guy and herself on facebook. Pics were at her brother’s wedding reception (Jan 2) and the rehearsal dinner (Dec 30) which he was a guest at both. Now I dont know what to do.

She seems well on her way into being fully involved with this guy now which is crazy to think after the many years and memories we shared. I dont know how any woman or person for that matter, could begin a new relationship so soon while recovering from a broken one. It amazes me. Still for whatever reason she reached out to me 3 times last week thru text as Ive already stated. I will not try to sabotage her new relationship but I want to leave the door propped open for a possible reconciliation. So at this point I feel like I have 3 options:

1. Wait for her to reach out again and then respond kindly.

2. Send her text in the next day or so. Something like "happy belated new year", "tell ur bro & his bride congrats on their marriage" or mention my job.

3. Ur option?



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In my fantasy story I’m not sure how much to develop my magic system. I’ve got it quite basic as it is, and not much is exlained, even when the characters are ‘taught’ about the magic.

It’s kind of one of those ‘you do this and this happens, it’s just the way it is’ things. But I don’t see how else to explain it — I don’t want to have to weave in some crappy backstory like ”when the olde Gods of Gundoolplar made the worlde theye made the worlde follow certaine rules, and so when ye doeth this, that happens”.

Should I just make it simple, and trust my readers to suspend their belief? (After all they’re not stupid, and the point of fantasy is experiencing something that isn’t real). Or should I create a set of rules and a source of power, along with an origin, and then have to reveal this carefully in a non-exposition way?

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