Me(21) and my boyfriend(26) were together for 3 years. Few months ago (mid Oct.09) we got into an argument. It was actually for a small issue, but we fought about it for a whole month. I accidently told him its all over and were breaking up.
But this wasn’t the first time we told this to each other, always happens. But this time he took it seriously. While we were arguing he was speaking with another girl and he was sharing our problems to her. She supported him and showed love while he was depressed I guess.
Then he started to love her and went to the extent to kill him self to prove his love for her, plus she also loves him too. He probably was with her for less than 4 months. He called me and told me that he loves her and things went out of hand and now he engaged her and its all over between me and him.
He got engaged with her in December. Its not because she is pregnant or anything. Its because while he was with her having xxx i guess her little sister walked in on them and told her parents everything. Now there sceretly engaged. Only his friends and I know about this.
I still love him, he was my first love and I wanted to be with him forever. He isnt a bad person or anything. When he gets mad he never thinks too hard before he does anything. He’s like that. It took him only 4 months to find another girl and get almost married to her. But I know that he still has some love for me. For sure he will never forget me, and I can’t too.
He have to be with her just because he engaged her. I know for sure that he will never love her as much as he loved me. He was my first love, and first for everything. Same goes for him. He didnt give him self alot of time to think before he made major decisions. I don’t know what to do. I still want him though. Plus that girl is everything that he never wanted me to be, I dont know how he changed this quickly.
I’m the reserved type and he loved me for that but she’s the opposite. She has a lot of guy friends,party girl etc. I know for sure his family won’t like him to be with a girl like herself. So yeah, he probably for got about me now, but for sure I’m still in his heart and he still has the love for me. I don’t know what to do, I can’t forget him or think of moving on with my life. Its too hard, because I don’t remember going through any bad times during our relationship. I only have good memories. He loved me off.
Anyways. What should I do??
My friends and family want me to move on. But something is holding me from doing that, I don’t know why I’m like this. Does engagement mean its all over between us and he’s offically married now. I can’t love him or try and get him back? I’m not trying to get him back anymore, I gave up. Whats the point of running after someone who isnt interested in coming back to you.
He still loves her but I don’t know if its true love or not. Ho wlong does it take to love someone truly and marry them? God. I stopped all the contacts with him. I’m concentrating in my life, still going through depression. He’s going out with her. But I’m waiting for him to come back to me still. No matter how hard I try to forget him, its not working. I can’t imagine the guy I loved deeply an dmadly and wanted to be with all my life is not “married”.
Anyhow I know that they won’t be initally married any sooner because she is 21 yrs old, and he doesnt have a proper job and other issues. I still have some time left. But I don’t know what to do suring that time. How do I get him to realize my true love that I still have for him. I really want him back in my life. I don’t want to lose him. I’m sure that other girl doesnt love him as much as I do. I’m really confused right now. I’m scared that I will lose him completely. Its hard to move on in life knowing that someone else have the something that you used to have and you loved soo much.
Please give me some advice. 
If does come back to me I’m willing to forgive for all the mistakes he did and accept him back into my life. i know things won’t be the same but I’m sure we can still have a happy life. But I’m scared, I don’t know if he’ll ever even come back to me.
He’s 26 and I’m 21.
I’m in Uni.
My parents know about this and his parents too know, but none can help. Its his decision right.
I’m just worried that I will lose him forever, since he’s engaged. His parents don’t know this yet. If he did realize my love can he break out of the engagement?
I know I sound childish and desperate. Thats what everyone is saying. But what can I do? I just love him. No one is understanding how I feel.
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