Please help, I think I have the worst boyfriend in the world…
ok… my boyfriend and I met on the street in my neighborhood when I was on my way back home from the grocery store back in 2006 he always told me he loved me but as our relationship went along I started to notice that he did not mean it.
He was doing drugs and one time he stoled from me and gave to his friend to buy drugs with it and when I tried to get it back from him he yelled at me and then he slaped me in the face. As time went along he started treating me real bad he was always blaming me and accusing me of cheating on him while he was at work. He barely ever took me out and when he did it was only to go bar hopping and get me drunk.
One time he got me so drunk (he took me out to a restaurant and ordered me nine drinks) that I almost lost consciousness and when I got home I was vomiting and I was already 2 weeks pregnant by him.
My family was so mad when they found out I was pregnant they wanted me to get an abortion but I refused I told them I was 19 and old enough to make my own descions they said they were going to take me to the abortion clinic anyways and get the abortion done I told them I wont go so they spoke to their friend and she advised for them to force me to have an abortion against my will but they said they did not know how to do that. My boyfriend is 35 and very immature for his age he blames my family and curses them all the time and says he hates everyone.
He urinates in the street on the sidewalk and sometimes on people’s cars. He cheated on me with the irish bartender at the local irish pub and then gave me HPV. We lived together for a few months and when he could not have it his way he would get aggressive and hit me one time he was choking me and so I screamed and the landlord from downstaires heard him so he knocked on the door and asked what was going on it was only then when he stopped. He was mean to me once and told me to get out and was shoving the door of his apartment on me and he got so mad because I told my mother that he was doing drugs and giving me drugs while living at this apartment.
He barely ever takes me anywhere except to a restaurant or bar hopping to get me drunk. Usually when he calls me he only wants me to go to his apartment to have sex and nowhere else. He says that he is my husband even though we are not married and that I have to do whatever he wants. When I was pregnant and he knew I was having a girl he was talking about her private parts and said some sexual things about her and said that if I was with another guy he would rape my daughter because she will not be his biological child and he will not like her because of this.
He loves to fight with my family and says if I ever cheat on him he’ll kill me and the guy. On new years day he caused a big scene he was calling me on the phone and talking to me about my grandfathers death so I put it on speaker so my grandfather could hear what he was saying. My grandfather told him never to call again but he kept calling when my grandfather shut off the phone he ended up at the door banging loudly demanding to be let in and cursing everybody out my grandfather said if he didn’t go away he was going to call the security he did not leave and my grandfather had to call security and when the security came he was arguing with them and got 2 summons to go to court 1 for tresspassing and the other for disorderly conduct.
He says that since I am his wife (which I am not) I have to take care of him and cook for him and clean his house I told him I wont do it because I am not a maid he does nothing for his 2 and a half year old daughter and does not pay any child support whatsoever. He blames me for not having my own apartment and still living with my parents at 23 and not being able to cook or clean. He is an illegal immigrant from Ecuador and not legal in America. My parents tell me the only reason he is interested in me is because he wants to try to get legalized on my behalf. When I was in the hospital having his baby he was there all night long because he wanted to make sure his name was on the birth certificate, he refused to leave until the hospital personnel kicked him out.
I was sick for some time and did not go to his apartment for 3 or 4 days. He went to the local pub and cheated on me with that irish bartender and then gave me HPV from her I also found some calling cards from escort services in his apartment. When I asked him about it he denied it and said it was old calling cards that he used when he was single and that he forgot to throw them away. I also saw some phone numbers which had female names in his phone book.
I had to get 2 surgeries in order to get rid of the HPV that he gave me and he was not with me in the hospital when I had these surgeries. I really think he’s a terrible guy and I want to leave him but I am also afraid of being single and having no one at all. I also want to have more kids and I know that without a guy I can’t get pregnant what should I do?
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