How can I show my girlfriend I love her? (pic)?

Summary: I know this is long so…in summary basically her sister has treated my g/f like crap for the past few years, and it’s made her hate herself and not see how much I love her.

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Well, I’m 20 and she’s 19…we’ve known each other for 5 years, and have been going out for 2. Since I’ve known her she’s had no confidence whatsoever – she was depressed at the age of 12, and her elder sister took the chance to destroy her confidence. 

She would call her fat, ugly and stupid and totally belittle her, and obviously it led to her believing it all. There is much, much more to say about her sister however if I wrote about all that this question would be stupidly long.

From the moment I saw her I had a crush on her – she looked beautiful, and was a really nice, but shy girl. I was also really shy, and when our friends started hanging out together, we also did and that’s what made us get together. For about 6 months after we got together, she was too scared to tell her family because she knows her sister would not ‘approve’ of me – whcih is honestly because I was a shy, sort of nerdy guy, and her sister likes guys that are essentially wannabe gangsters. Anyway, when her family found out her sister laid into me behind my back, saying she’s disgusting for going with someone like me, blah blah. Obviously this effected me, but that’s not really the point of this.

The problem is…she doesn’t believe I love her in the slightest. She thinks I find her ugly, and that I’m only with her to ‘wind her up’. The truth is I love her with all my heart, and I really would do anything for her. And I find her totally georgous, both her appearance and her personality. Everything her sister tells her basically sticks in her brain – one time, when she was called fat, she ended up almost being admitted to hospital because she wouldn’t eat and was dangerously close to being anorexic. This was really upsetting to see how much she hates her body, and I would do anything I could to show her just how beautiful she is, but she doesn’t see it :(

We don’t really have a sex life because she is terrified of me seeing her body, and me being disgusted and leaving her. I really do understand how she feels like this after all the things her sister has put her through, but knowing my girlfriend is thinking that about me is wearing me down, and my confidence is greatly lowered because of this. She doesn’t like showing any positive emotions to me at all – for example, she’ll tell me she hasn’t missed me one bit and that she wouldn’t really care if we left…which I really am starting to believe, despite her telling me that she’s just really scared of saying, and she actually does love me/miss me.

I’m the only one that knows how bad her confidence really is – her mother doesn’t really know about her feelings much, and assumes we have a normal, healthy relationship. I feel really helpless on my own to help her, despite me wanting to so much….her sister has done damage which I don’t know how to repair. Her sister moved out last year, although it’s nearby and her sister tells her to go to hers, and she’s too scared to say ‘No’ so does almost everyday. And the more she’s around her sister, the worse she seems to get. About a year ago, she had a bit argument with her sister, and she stayed over mine for a few days. It was like being with a totally different person, she was much more confident and we were so happy.

I just want to do whatever it takes to show her how much I love her. She means so much to me, and always has – I enjoy every moment of being with her, even if I don’t totally believe she feels the same. We get on so well, we make each other laugh and I feel so lucky for even being with her. But her sister has ruined, and is continuing to ruin, our relationship. I can honestly see myself one day just exploding when I’m over her sisters and telling her what I think of her, and how I think she’s scum for treating her sister like she has. I really she’d cut off all contact with her sister and focus on being more confident, however I will never make her do that to her own sister, regardless of the situation, and I’m not going to force her to do anything.

Anyway, I guess my question is…what can I do to make her feel like she’s loved by me, and see how beautiful she is? And what can I do to show my love?

Thanks for reading…

Me and her: http://img261.imageshack.us/img261/1704/n1345030210206415135.jpg



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