My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. Planning on getting married. He has always had trust issues, however said I was the only girl he ever trusted. Well, a few weeks ago, after I had just recovered from a Staph infection and hadn’t seen him for a week, he told me he was going to fix his car. He didn’t come home until 1am, had gone to a friends all night. The next morning I called and he didn’t seem to think this was a big deal at all. I was SO frustrated because I had previously explained to him how it hurts me when he just goes off without letting me know, I get worried. So I did the same, I went and disregarded his feelings like he had done mine and hung out with a few old guy friends that he HATES! Well I told him about it, he almost broke up with me… we made up. He found out more of the situation I didn’t tell him about, he agreed our love was strong enough to get through, but wants a week long break, still talking but not seeing each other because he was hurt by this.
I am really unsure whether this break will just give him time to get over me, or will really strengthen our relationship? He says that maybe a week long break will help us appreciate each other, but I told him I don’t understand how we can work on our relationship if we aren’t even around each other. Not to mention, we have already spent a week apart and that didn’t make him appreciate me at all, that is how the whole thing started. I apologized and admitted I was VERY immature about the whole thing, I had just reached a breaking point. I love him so much, I am just scared that this break is going to turn into a break up. He assures me that it won’t, but I just have a feeling….
I realize I was being very immature, but I was so upset and made an irrational decision. I know perfectly well that two wrongs don’t make a right. However, he had gone out all night after an entire week of him just dissapearing and not letting me know what was going on, saying he would call me at a certain time and calling me 5-6 hours after that. I have anxiety issues and get really worried about him when I can’t contact him and he said he was going to the store 5 hours ago and still hasn’t come home yet. I had told him daily about how it made me feel and why, I was sitting at home with a Staph infection and would wait for his call and he would just disregard the fact that he said he would come home and call me. Then, the day after I can start seeing him again, after a week of not seeing me, he leaves the entire day when we were supposed to chill and just never let me know. I was very worried and it made me mad because he knew I would be worried and upset and did it anyways.
