He went abroad 2 study&won’t come back b4 2years.He’s 22&I’m 25.We’ve matured together&been through a lot.I love him very much&can’t stand even to imagine him with another girl since I used to dream about getting married to him someday.But nowadays I want 2 meet new people&experience new relationships both emotionally&sexually. Whenever he has time he comes but we don’t have a great time.I’m not sure if he’s the one.I’m a dominant person&he’s usually passive.I don’t want my dreams in life to be his dreams;I don’t want him to live MY ideal life.Sometimes I feel that he may be much happier in the long term with another girl&it would be better for me to be with a person who is more masculine.On the other hand,I have a feeling that I can’t find someone better because he’s the best man I’ve ever known including my father.I’m afraid of regretting later.Also we have so many memories together&I’m such a melancholy person that I dunno how to recover if I break up.But I feel that I need a change
My mind is really mixed up.*sigh*I wish I could just pause my relationship for some time and live another life and then decide.But I know this is impossible.
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One time three years ago when they were dating, I was helping them with a class assignement at college, and while my cousin was distracted writting on the computer she rubbed her breast on purpose against my hand while I was holding a book dictating to my cousin.
Then, on another occasion, my cousin and he were in the front of the car and he was telling ehr that his family wanted to meet her, i was sitting in the back with anothe friend, then she turned around and held my hand caressing it, and said: "there is nothing more important to me than my passion" and smiled. i was dumbounded and chose not to say anything and let it slip.
Later when they got married I was his best man, i never told him anything. Now as married couple, one time she started changing her clothes with the bathroom door open so i could see, and my cousin had to tell her that we could see her.
Advice please, what the heck do I do? Do i tell my cousin, or do I keep playing dumb and save their marriage?
I mean, i must be honest, she is hot, but I am also not gonna do something to hurt my cousin, plus: I am married too now!!! This i think is going to create a problem for me in the future.
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They were married twice. She cheated all the time. He took her back all the time. He finally left for good about 4 years ago, but still took care of her emotionally and financially until about 3 months before we met, which was October 2004. We are engaged to be married 10/14/06. They have 3 kids. She calls asking for favors all the time, i.e. can I borrow your truck to move some stuff, got some materials I need for my biology class, etc. I see red when she calls. My fiance says I am insecure and he has no desire to have any type of rel’ship other than co-parent. Yet he also says it is the right thing to do, ie. be nice to all people even those who have done you wrong. I am so jealous of their past. This (me?) is ruining my happiness with the best man I’ve ever known and I need to know how to get over this. Thanks for any advice. Oh, I believe I am jealous of her looks. She’s thinner than me, longer hair. I am very successful, grounded, faithful, kind. She puts self 1st.
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I do not know what is going with my wife now. We have problems when I was deploy. I was over there for 15 months. It was over bills that came up when I left and she wanted to divorce me and I thought we were fine until when I got back I find that she cheating on me. I forgive her and she knows that. We have 2 yr old son. We were taking slow and were doing good. Now she about go over there now. She is in army reserve. I am active duty. She is Ft. Dix training. She have her cell phone up there. I admit I was calling alot at first. Now, she acting like something is always wrong. She want divorce again. It says it over money and i was calling to much. We talk and she want me to tell her if I am going to spend money on something that I want not need. She talking like she crazy again. I cannot deal with this. I am giving her my all. I sent boxes. I sent her anything that need or wants. No love. I am trying my best to give her my unconditional love. But it getting hard. Nothing going change. I do not want to divorce her while she doing her thing. I do not want to do that to her because she treating do it me and do not want to do that. I need help because I am going recruiting duty in TX. I want be best man I can for her. I wish i know how but it so hard. Please help. I am solider. I am not trying to leave her behind I want to get attention to stop.
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