Ex Boyfriend started talking to me after no word for a year! How do I make him want me back for good?

last i saw him or talked to him was last December. We have been broken up for 2 years now but still saw eachother even after i moved out of his place and 3 hours away. I moved back in to town last november. We still occasionally saw eachother, but only every few months… Just last week he text me out of the blue. Telling me he got a DUI back in january and had been sober for 6 months. He thought not talking to me would make me forget him but "how could i?" I love the guy! He wanted me to fill him in on my life, and what ive been up to… I played cool the best I could, but inside I was going crazy!!! :) Does he want to maybe start seeing eachother again? I know we have to take things slow. The diversion classes and AA meetings made him look at himself and figure out what he wants to be. He told me he wants to be a better person and have a better family relationship. This guy is a bullshitter and total guy…. doesnt express himself at all like he did that night he was texting me. I truely care for him ALOT! and have missed him terribly… I dont want to mess up this possible second chance to get him back. He invited me to a party he may be having in a couple weeks and im STOKED! but also nervious as HELL cuz its been so damn long! I need some feedback and ideas… Hes a Leo and Im a Cancer, if anyones in to the zodiac….. THANKS!

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Thanks for the responses so fast! I just started doing this site. I think its AWESOME! ~~~~ I wanted to add that him an I had never had a serious relationship AT ALL before we met and started dating. We took everything slow. I was 19 and he was 20. Both working an independent… but i was so ready to be serious and i think he got scared. ~~~~ I do not plan on staying the night at this lil party hes having and If i cant drive Im pitchin my own tent… NO SEX. we allready know its good. LOL OMG i juist cant wait to see him. But… IM COOL… im cool…. I have to be….
Oh…. after i asked him why he couldnt talk to me when he was sober, he answered that, he wanted to, but was worried about my emotions. He knows how much i care for him, cuz i never let him forget it. I had drunk dialed him plenty of times throughout the year and text him, yet nothing til now. I thought I may have just been digging the hole bigger by all the messeges…. but they were from my heart. My favorite qoute is: ~~" IF YOU CANT HANDLE ME AT MY WORST, YOU SURE AS HELL DONT DESERVE MY BEST!"~~ That i think goes for both of us in this situation. LOL


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I want my ex back and I am trying hardest to show her that I still love her and that I want to make it work once and for all, but I find myself chasing her but I want her to want me again. We live together, that’s what makes it hard for me, but I have been reading up on how to get your ex back, and one of the step is agreeing with them on there terms. Basically like a reverse psychology, and it explains to write her a letter. So, I here’s the letter. I want you guys to read it and tell me what you think…do you think it will spark her attention. I love the mother of my child and I want to make it work, but I also want her to make it work just the same, and if this needs to be done to get her back once and for all then so be it. Here is the letter thank you.

Dear XOXOX,

First I would like to say thank you for everything and allowing me the opportunity to raise the baby and father her the way that we both intended from the beginning. Z means so much to me, and I love her with all my heart. I hope that she continues to inspire me to be a better person, a better father and a better role model. I want nothing but the best for her and I wish someday that I can bless her with a life that I never had. However, until then I have to be content with what I have in my abilities to provide, but either way God knows my Heart.
You and I have shared four years together and we have gotten to know each other quit well xoxox, so much that it scares me. However, I am grateful to have ever met you. Over the last several days I have put some serious thought into what you have express to me with how you feel and how you are confused, and that right now you think we should be friends. And by reflecting and putting things into its proper context, I have come to the conclusion that I agree with you… we should be friends. I feel that it is the best for both of use right now. I have put some strong and intense thought into what you have said, and I respect your decision. xoxox I have always wanted the best for you and I want you to know that I am always here for you; you can always count on me. Time will tell what God has in store for both of use, but for right now friendship is what I think what’s best for use now.
Now in regards to my current living situation and our plans on moving to New York with the baby, I do still intend on pursuing those endeavors in order to start a better life for both of use and the baby. xoxox thank you for understand, and continue being the great person you are.


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How Do I Make Him Stay?

My boyfriend and I broke up less than two days ago. I love him more than anything in the world, but I made our relationship very difficult because of my emotional instabilities.

I will do anything to get him back.

I am going to counseling to deal with my issues (they apply to my life in general, not just to my relationship with him), I’m reading self-help books, and I’m giving him as much space and time as he needs. I’m not forcing him to come back, but I hope more than anything that he does.

There really is no one else for me, and I think that I can really make him happy once I become a better person. But I want to be a better person not just for him, but for myself, for everyone else I love.

How can I convince him to give me another chance? He loves me dearly, I know. He told m yesterday (he sought me out himself) that he’s miserable without me, but the thought of getting back together doesn’t make him happy either, because I hurt him so much. He hugged me for half a minute, kissed me very passionately, told me he loved me, and then said “I shouldn’t have done that.”

He’s torn between leaving and staying, and I just want him to stay, to just give me another chance to make him happy like he made me happy.

I’m leaving him completely alone so that he can make a decision on his own. I’m trying to exemplify the person I’m promising to be in the future by being supremely kind, understanding, and emotionally stable. I’m a determined person, and I really can change. Not just for his happiness, but for my own.

I even wrote a letter to him explaining how committed I am to making us work, how even if he chooses not to stay, I’ll find a way to repay him for the wonderful things he’s done to me, that I’ll love him forever (I haven’t sent it to him yet. Don’t know if I should).

But is there a way to convince him to stay, to give me a chance to make him happy? Am I doing the right thing now? I don’t want to push him, because I want him to be happy and secure in his decision. But can I convince him somehow without pushing him?

Oh and we’ve had some fantastically good times, too. We both know this. He’s just overwhelmed at the moment by the not-so-good ones. All I can think about are the happy times, and how I want to make them happen again.

Any advice for me?


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My husband and I are currently separated, but I still have hope that we will get back together. I screwed up and cheated on him. I regret it all and am working on changing to become a better person overall. I am waiting for him. He has a girlfriend right now, but I’m not sure how happy he is with her. He still lives with me and we still get intimate. He says that all he can be for me right now is a friend, so I figure if I make him by best friend we will get closer and hopefully fall in love all over again. What can I do to get closer to him? What can I do for him to want to get closer to me?


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My friends said I could possibly make this into a letter to my ex to try and get him back..?

READ THIS AND TELL ME IF I CAN POSSIBLY MAKE THIS INTO A LETTER TO GIVE TO MY EX. TO GET HIM BACK POSSIBLY
(I blanked out his middle and last name cuz i dont want ppl to contact him.)

READ PLEASE>>

I keep telling myself I’ll be ok and not to worry and that I’ll eventually get over him. BUT To be honest I know I’m just feeding myself lies and trying to cover up the truth. which is that I’m madly in love with Christopher.K .M He calls me a cling on but you know what thats my way of showing him I still love him and care so so so so much for him. I wish he could understand that. Yet he doesn’t. Yea, I know I fucked up, but everyone fucks up at least once or more times in their life. NO ONE IS PERFECT! I mean it’s not really fair to hold a grudge against anyone for something they did no matter how bad the situation was. You only live life once. People DO learn from their mistakes, it’s wether or not they choose to do it again. Me, pshh, I’m most definitely not perfect. Who ever thinks that is crazy! However I do learn from my mistakes and try to be a better person. For once in my life, this is the first time EVER for me to fall in love with a guy!.When I told him I loved him I truly meant it! I’ve never had such strong feelings for someone like, when they do crazy things and you get that jabbing pain in your heart telling you to warn them to be careful, or how when right after you see that person you already miss him. When he kisses you, it makes your head spin, and when he hugs you you feel like no one can love you more at that very moment than he can, or how he tends to show off to impress you, when you ask him he denies it, makes me giggle, it’s so cute. No guy has ever made me feel comfortable just being myself. I always used to act like a whole new girl when I would be with my ex’s. With Chris I could and still can be myself. I don’t care how my hair looks, (Curly or straight) what I’m wearing, (I have walked to him house in my pj’s) because I know he doesn’t really care he loves me for well, ME! Chris has his lazy moments like making me walk to his house every time I wanted to see him, but it was worth the walk every SINGLE time. Chris is an amazing guy! I truly mea that!! He has the most beautiful blue eyes, sexiest body(Don’t care what people think, I say It’s perfect!!) randomest personality, but cute at the same time. I have lost track now of how many times he has made me laugh so hard that my cheeks hurt and I looked like I was crying. Being with him made everyday fun and put a smile on my face every time I saw him. I remember the first day we met. I was babysitting Hannah and Justin was following me and we were walking to the alpaca farm just for fun and we bumped into Chris on his sisters dirt bike. Justin and Chris talked for ever about the bike, and just random stuff. Then a guy on a motorcycle came over…Logan and he asked Chris if he wanted to go bridge jumping he said nah. Then we decided to all just chill at Chris house and swim in his pool. I agreed. On the walk back to go change Justin was fighting me about it saying you like him don’t you. I denied it at first because i didn’t wanna start an argument with Justin. Justin said we should just not go but Hannah and I both were hot so I was not gonna stay home and sweat to death. Justin decided he was going to go but not go swimming. He quickly changed his mind, I was one of the last people to jump in the pool. But i did eventually get in. The guys were playing pass with random objects..ugh men..lol jk It started to get dark so we decided we would walk around and just chill. I changed at my house then went to meet everyone at the bump at the end of my street. We made prank calls to some people and hid on some guy wanting to hang with us. While making prank calls and just chilling chris and I acted like little kids throwing little tiny pebbles back and forth at each other. I told his sister that night when she came with me to ask my mom if I could stay out later, that I thought Chris was really hot. Her reaction was soo funny. REALLY? Just the way she said it was extremely funny. (Had to be their moment) That night was almost perfect…but the next day was better:P..I had the best summer this year and now look at how much it’s changed since winter.. I wish I could go back to When Chris and I first met and maybe taken things a bit slower because maybe if we did that we would possibly still be together and I’d have my baby back. Maybe not now but maybe some day…some day soon I’m hoping he will realize he still loves me and take me back.


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