WHY did my EX do THIS to me!!!!!!!!!!…..?????

I met this guy when I was 20 in university. He was 24 & lived on campus. We had a very innocent relationship, cuz he knew I wanted to save sex for marriage. We would study in his room, makeout, cuddle or watch movies on his computer. After 2 months of dating, he ended it, by phone. But he would still contact me on msn. He had a birthday party at a club a few months after we broke up & he invited me to it. I went, thinking he still likes me but it went horribly. He had invited 15 of his guy friends whom I had never met before as we had only dated for 2 months. One of his friends, Steve, talked to me & sat beside me the whole night. Steve even walked me to the ladies bathroom as it was crowded & when I came out he held my hand to guide me through the crowd. My ex-bf ignored me for most of the night. He just said ‘thanks for coming, I appreciate it’. I was fine, as Steve was w/ me the whole night & seeing my ex get really jealous was worth going to his lame party. At one point, Steve & I were sitting beside each other & my ex kept looking at us & he even came by us and pushed Steve’s knees away from me so that he wasn’t so close to me. Why did my ex do that?? I left the party early & Steve only gave me a hug. Did Steve like me or was he just being nice to me?? Why didn’t he ask me out? I felt like such a stupid girl going to my ex’s party, did I seem desperate for going? 1 month after his party, my ex sent me a message on msn saying “thanks so much for coming to my party. I’m really glad u came. I didn’t mean to ignore u that night” I told him that he “didn’t even have to apologize as I only went to say bye to him & finally close the book”. WHY did my ex send me this message??? Since that weird message, he has tried to talk to me on msn, asking me things, & saying things like “I haven’t seen u in so long” but WHY?? Does he feel guilty for treating me bad that night? I don’t anyone to pity me.


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I am an outdoor person who grew up in the country and he is from a big suburb. The older we get, the more apparent these things are. He isn’t interested in spending the day at the lake and I always want to go. We don’t share as many common interests as we used to. He likes to listen to old rock and roll, and I like that too, but if I bring any electronic music home, he never wants to listen to it or if we do, he picks it apart because it isn’t hard enough. He is a great musician and dreams of making that his career, but he doesn’t take any active steps towards it.

He has a warrant for not having insurance or registration or inspection and couldn’t pay the ticket. His parents offered to pay it all for him in exchange for him coming out and helping them fix up their new house, and he won’t do it. I have to cart him around everywhere. If I really cared about him deep inside, wouldn’t I feel more patience for him? I am confused as to why I get mad about these things. I try to help him, but he won’t fully accept it. I guess he is lazy?

He and I have lived together the whole time we have been together. There have been a couple of times were he betrayed my trust with a couple of other girls in the beginning of our relationship, and I simply can’t let that go. I don’t think he actually like slept with them, but there was still emotional cheating and him sneaking behind my back that hurt me so badly.

When we argue or have serious talks, sometimes I bring those times up because they still eat away at me inside and he gets mad at me and says that I am bringing up old stuff that isn’t relevant anymore. That it is old news. It shouldn’t matter anymore because so much time has passed.

He doesn’t know this, but I thought that if I did what he did to me behind his back, that I would feel even and better about it. I don’t. Now I feel like I have ruined the relationship on my end, and he has no idea I flirted over text with an ex for a while. The ex and I met up, but I just didn’t want to take it further in real life, so I didn’t.

Can I have a normal relationship with him ever again now that we both have emotionally betrayed each other? He is so perfect for me in so many ways, but I feel like there is a silent black cloud lingering overhead constantly. We’re only 21. Should I end this relationship and start from scratch with another man? Should I try to stick it out with my boyfriend and see if time indeed does heal wounds?


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I have read a lot of articles and even books where people recommend going “No Contact” so that your ex misses you and wants you back.

I am trying desperatly trying to get my ex-bf back. I miss him SO much. He got scared of how strong our feelings were for each other so quickly and basically got freaked out and ran. (he had been single for 2 years before we got together).

I tried calling and texting and trying to get him to talk about things but it just seems to be scaring him more.

Does “no contact” work???

(Will that give him a chance to second-guess his decision and miss me?)

Please share your experience & advice…. I would LOVE to hear it…. THANKS!!


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he broke up with me 2 months ago, begged me to leave him alone and wanted nothing to do with me. we had very little contact ever since. what does he want?

the thing is i want him back but he has to pay big time since he hurt me too much. plus, he’ll only cherish things he has to fight for big time.

how should i deal with this?


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