Ok I have a son that is two months old. The guy that I was with we never got married. Yes, his name is on the birth certificate. He has always been very emotionally abusive to me and he has treated me horribly. It all started when I became pregnant. We moved back to Kentucky trying to have a better life for our son and so the guy I was with the baby’s father could be closer to his family. When I was pregnant I only had three pairs of maternity pants and that’s all I was aloud because he said that I didn’t need anything else. I even got clorox on a pair of the pants and he made me use a black magic marker to cover up to the clorox spot, but he would always go and get what he needed. He would even go and always get his haircut, but I had to cut my own hair. When I was 9 months pregnant he made me carry a couch and love seat because he didn’t want to ask the neighbors for help. He is horrible horrible. Plus his mother has always been horrible to me to and he aloud it. He never defended me or nothing. I was getting very tired of it. The other night I wanted to stop taking this birth control because it made me dizzy and he told me that he was going to cram the pill down my throat if I didn’t take it because he didn’t want anymore kids. That’s where I finally drew the line. I told him that he needed to start treating me better and stop the emotional abuse and start defending me against his mom. He chose not to. The house that we were living in was in my name. So, I told him that he needed to leave and go to his mom’s and bring his stuff with him. Well, he left and I went to my mom’s because I was very upset. When I went home the next morning the entire house was empty. He even took all of my stuff and the neighbors witnessed him taking everything. He totally abandoned me and my son. Left us with no money or nothing. He contacted me the next day and I told him what he did was horrible and that our son needed formula. He didn’t even offer to go and get formula, but that’s the way that it always has been. I’m the one that got all over our son’s clothes I’m the one that has got all of his formula. I’m the one that paid rent. I’m the one who has always gave our son a bath. He never even took me to any of my doctors appointments when I was pregnant. And never went to any of our son’s appointments except for one because he stayed home from work and he still didn’t want to go, but I told him that he was going to get his shots and his dad should be there so he went. Oh and I had a c-section with my son and he would make me sleep on the couch while he was in the room because he needed his sleep and didn’t want to be woken up because he said he needed his sleep for work. He only stayed up with our son three times because I just couldn’t physically go anymore. My body shut down because I was so exhausted. Well, I sent him mom a couple text messages just to let her know about her son and how horrible that he was and that he has never paid for diapers or nothing. That I was the one doing it all. Plus, I sent the father a couple text messages to. Well, she threatened to charge me with phone harassment and so did he, but i’m not sure if they actually did. So, I decided enough is enough and that I don’t need this abuse anymore and either does my son. He would even just put our son in his swing because he never wanted to hold him. Well his mom wants another baby so he decided he wants his son and take him away from me. I couldn’t afford the house that we were in without him because of him abandoning us. My parents were getting ready to move so my dad could be by his mom because she’s getting ready to die so I had no choice to go with them. I even had to sell his crib his changing table and his dresser to get money for diapers and formula. My son is very healthy he weighs 16 pounds and he’s 24 inches long. He’s big and healthy and very clean. I have always made sure of that. I even have witnesses of how bad that he has been to me. I even have proof that I paid for everything. So, to make a long story short I had no choice, but to leave the state with my family and move in with them. I’m planning on going to nursing school and become an RN. I really want to try. Plus I really need to seek counsling over this because this has been really hard for me and I know the womans shelter has counslers. He is a horrible horrible person and so is his mom. Well since I left I’m not sure if they did charge with me with phone harrassment and if they did what would that do to me? I want full custody of my son. Do you think I will get full custody of my son?? I have been hearing about these new laws for fathers. Can they charge me with kidnapping even though we are not married,but his name is on the birth certificate?? I am in desperate need of advice and help. I don’t want child support from him because he has never wanted to contribute and I don’t want someone to make him contribute. So, thanks for all the help…
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I’ve been married to my wife for 27 years and we have 6 kids together (25, 22, 20 – twins, 16 and 13) and two months we learned that she was pregnant again with our seventh child. She is 45 and me 47. I’ve become more worried about her lately… she seems to be over stressed. I wait on her hand and foot but, I constantly find her in crying fits.
Were roman catholic and don’t believe in birth control (no judgment). I’ll admit it has been tough this time around, I think we both thought we were done with diapers and cribs. I’m worried she may not love the baby? We have the money to care for it. Is there anything I can do to bring her out of this funk? I just want a happy pregnancy and mommy.
All the other kids are supportive, although I think our 25 year old is a little freaked out. Is she just overly worried about the baby? The doctor said there is a higher risk for complications but, so far everything seems normal. I try to ask her what’s wrong and she just says, "nothing" and that its hormones. I want to help more but I’m not a woman.
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Ok well I recently got out of the army I met my wife there. I was in 5 yrs we both disliked the army. we got pregnant and a week and a half later i deployed for a year. She deployed also 4 months later. Well she then left before me. So she was away from our daughter for 5 months. I saw my daughter 1 month 3 weeks out of the first year she was born. i got home in august. —– Then everything was fine I thought, Let me first say this i love her. I love her so much My KIDS & MY WIFE mean more to me than life its self. We talked about having another child and i said i didn’t want another child until finacially we were able too. But she took as me saying i never wanted another child from her. And then she thought she was losing me, the hole time i was thinking we were deeply in love with each other never knew she thought she was losing me. Well we also talked about the next deployment and i didn’t want one of us togo. Because our oldest was going to be 2 when we left and i didn’t want both of us to leave her at the same time. Well we decided that she gets out for a pregnancy………WHAT??????? ———–Thats right after she got back from the deployment she stopped taking her birth control but told me she was taking it. So like I was saying she lied to me and got pregnant to keep from losing me. But I she still kept tellin me she took her birth control. So I believed her well she got out right around her 7 or 8 th month so she went straight to stay with her family so they could help her with the kids. I was deploying right before her delivery date and the doctor said she shouldn’t be traveling in her 8 th month so she left right away. Well this time i deployed for 15 months this time and i wasn’t there for her berth (beyond my control), but i got there that night and they were both soooo beautiful. I missed them so much i was there 2 weeks. I was dreding the deployment well I deployed right after i got back. When I returned I saw my youngest about 31/2 weeks of her life. Well we decided to move to where i was from because i had some land there we put a place on it and i got out of the army. We moved here well when i got home some old girl i new contacted me I havent seen this girl in 12 years but she and i started talking just friends well she started texting me some stuff and i didn’t stop it. But I never not once thought about cheating on my wife. Well I never delete my texts ever and she found them so she automaticly thought i had slept with her then when i told her i never did and never wanted to she said i cheated on her mentally. I apolligized and said that i knew i would have to earn her trust back. Well less then a month after that stuff happened. And after she said she would try and work it out she leaves with our kids(VERY FAR AWAY). And she never tried and now I found out she has someone back were she took the kids. I know she has been seeing this guy a few days after they got there. He tells her he loves her and she has said it to him on something like face book or myspace. I have seen it but I know we can work out our marriage. But she won’t talk to me about saving our marriage. ——— BUT I WANT TO KNOW CAN I GET PRIMARY COSTUDY IF IM IN THE MILITARY? and if i do deploy the kids would stay with there mother. —- PLEASE SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE ——
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Tricked you into having a baby behind your back. Told you she was using birth control or couldn’t have kids or did something even more horrible behind your back, so that she definately WOULD get pregnant?
What if you were in love with your wife or girlfriend or at least cared for her deeply? But just wasn’t ready to have a baby or never wanted to have children? Would you hate her for it? Throw her out? Want nothing to do with her? Even though she didn’t mean to hurt you, she just has wanted a baby her whole life? She may of have done a selfish thing……(Though if your with her and she wants kids and you don’t, your being kinda selfish yourself, because you have to know that she’d get hurt one day) would you forgive her?
I always wanted to know.
Alright I know that I rambled a little….sorry for that. But yes please answer me.
Thanks in advance
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Under the SCHIP deal they’re trying to pass that is just for children(even the ones that don’t need it because the parents have enough money or are covered by the parents’ insurance) they also want to cover women with children… well children still in their stomach which the last time I checked didn’t count as a child to the pro-choice left… Its just a parasitic fetus to them.
So one of the following has happened:
1) Harry Potter waved his magic wand and they all believe a fertilized egg is a child and abortion will be abolished
2) They want it for pregnant women who want an abortion for free(well not really-working people pay for it)
3) Because government dependent people no longer get extra money on welfare for extra children the Dems think this will make up for their ‘give free stuff and get votes’ and they will start popping out more kids again because they know their health is paid for by the remaining responsible citizens, thus continuing their "neighbor’s keeper" policy.
By the way, if you do the math for a billion increase in taxes to people who actually pay taxes(people of age to work) in the US it’s an extra 0 every year out of the working(not under the table) person’s paycheck. Why to the democrats feel the need to take more of my money and give to random people every time they’re in office?!
At least with the republicans I know its going to the military for my protection.
So many have asked "Why is it that republicans are only concerned about someone before they’re born?"
I have a better question, Why are there so many slutty women out there having sex without protection and birth control?
Why is it my job to pay for other people’s mistakes? Not just with having kids but with people who didn’t graduate so they have crappy jobs so they’re on welfare.
And as for Republicans adopting American children… try looking in the mirror at your democrat Hollywood types that adopt kids from everywhere but America. And Dems are in office, tell your buddies to not make adopting children in the US so hard it takes 5-10 years. My sister in-law is still on a waiting list 8 years later waiting for a child.
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