Me and my ex husband have been divorce since june 09. We got joint custody. I was never at the divorce hearing because i was never notify of the court date so what he put down he got. My ex has a new child before we was divorce. Even though we live in different states and he is in the army a phone isn’t that hard to do.He never calls to check up on my son he calls like once a month he gives me child support because he has he said he wouldn’t give it to me but since he has to he does. Now I want to take him back to court because I was sole custody of my 2 year old son. My son has been in my custody since day 1. My ex never sent him a birthday card no christmas gifts his mom gets my son gifts and puts my exs name on it. He makes it seem like he is father of the year. everyone knows he has a daughter but they dont know he has a son. So I want to go back to court to get full custody more child support and to make him pay for daycare since I cant get a job in the daytime since both my parents work and dont get home til like 5 or 6. He refuses to pay for daycare or even help me. I start school next month and have to go at night because I have no one to watch my son in days and that’s why its impossible for me to get a job because no one wants to hire me because of my hours of 6-close most jobs night hours are 5-11.
Im not trying to be some bitter women but you just have to put yourself in my shoes. I just think my son deserves better and I dont want to share my son with someone who doesn’t care about him just because he didn’t want a boy but now has a daughter doesn’t mean anything. Any advice how I can get this court case started??? By the way Im 21 I live in VA and my ex i dont know where he stays he lies about his locations with me
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My ex and I broke up in august she and I agreed to stay friends, and we did up to Halloween where she pissed me off and I haven’t talked to her since. When we were talking though she would contact me at least once a week by Face Book phone and texts and sometimes more than once a week, And when she pissed me off I dropped all contact with her. well when that day happened I got 3 phone calls from her and 2 texts, And since then i did not get any texts or phone calls till January. on January she sent me a Birthday card (my bday is in jan) and inside it had a 3 page letter that she hand wrote and on top of that had her perfume on it. When she broke up with me as well she gave me a letter and it did not have her perfume on it. Basically the letter was telling me that she misses talking to me what she has been up to since we last talked and what she is going to do in teh near future and she understands why I do not want to talk to her. then on top of that she sent me a text on my Bday. So does this sound like she wants me back? or she wants me back as a friend? any help received will be greatly appreciated.
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well.. how do I start? It seems that my wife and I had a complete break down in communication. I am going to our holiday gift exchanges as examples.. and I need your input.
Birthdays: For her birthday, I left work early to get her a pearl necklace, a birthday card, cook her dinner and bought her a cake. She got mad at me because I was too dumb to buy her a fake pearl necklace (which I relaced with a real one later). For my birthday, she got me a robe.
X-mas: I got her a digital photo frame (8") (0) and she got me pajamas and a book (total ).
Valentines day: I got her expensive flowers and cake. I got nothing in return.
Oh.. did I mention we have not had any romantic relationship for like 16 months…. ? I don’t know if there is any way we could save this relationship….. the major problem is our communication is just terrible. she constantly seems to be attacking me and when i voice my concerns, she tells me that I am whinning… i am kind of fed up….
we’ve been together for over 10 years. things are getting worse. all concerns that i have becomes whinning to her. the way i describe it sounds like i am keeping scores, but how else can i describe it? i can not talk to her for more then 2 sentences about anything of substance before i get attacked. when she misunderstood me, she latches on her interpretation and won’t allow me to explain. gifts? all i am asking for to exchange them and get what i want. i don’t think she would be happy with a toaster.. would you? so i avoid giving her a toaster and i don’t think it is too much to ask her to do the same for me. it is getting worse and truste me, i have tried many things. i sense that she has no love left for me and perhaps, that will be the way that this will end. i feel terrible, because the time and memory that we shared. but i also know that her heart is not in it…. i guess i already know the answer.
i am very sad about this because i really would like to love and take care of someone who i have shared memories with for the rest of our lives. but i am so drained emotionally and mentally and the lack of romance in our relationship is eating me alive (i have many opportunities to go outside our marriage, but did not). sometimes i look at her, i still remember the way she looked when we first met and thinking about what has been going on between us, makes me very sad. i think there is a genuine lack of respect in our relationship and i really do not know if that can ever be changed. she may be having an affair… but at this point, if she would just tell me I swear I would wish both of them well and get out of this relationship. i am just so tired from all of this… and i want to know WHY .. and that would be good enough for me.
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