I was always good to my ex. Gave him anything he asked for, never cheated on him, and gave him two beautiful girls. Yet, he cheated on me with a girl that has three kids with three different men. Her husband left her because he caught her cheating with another man during their daughters birthday party. She has slept with my ex cousin and brother, and now he is living with her. Why would a man leave a woman that has been there for him through thick and thin, that he swears he loves and wants to be with, only to be with a woman that is no good and never will be. I don’t want him back and wouldn’t take him back, that is not the issue, I just want someone that can explain to me what is running through his head. He lives with this girl but everyday calls and txt (which I ignore) saying how much he loves me and wants me back. Why are men suck a**holes?
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I dated my gf for about a year and we were supposed to get married this winter. However, I ended up cancelling the wedding for several some reasons that I thought would become big issues in the future: 1) she’s very close to her family and makes me feel like I will always be second best, 2) she’s vegetarian and expects me not eat meat at home if her parents/relatives are over – this means no BBQs, no family parties where I can have meat, etc., 3) she’s passive aggressive – keeps bringing up stuff even if we might have discussed them before to see if she’s get her way yet once more – this annoys the crap out of me, 4) she has a lot of beliefs about proper etiquette – when we were dating, she wanted me to pay for every dinner right from the beginning, which i did, but not once did she insist on picking up the whole check (my ex-GF couldn’t care less who paid for the dinner, but she does) …anyway, we cancelled our wedding.
I’m now feeling completely confused. I’m in my mid-30s and feel like I don’t have the energy to chase girls any more. Any girls I was ever "ga-ga" about didn’t want to go out with me, or gave me stupid mixed signals or were already taken. It’s now getting worse – I haven’t been going out in awhile and recently skipped a birthday party because some of my gf’s friends were attending (and I knew they’d ask about us). I’m just getting sick of the whole dating thing. Feel like I kinda blew my personal life. I should have started early and tried to grab a good looking, easy going, genuine, fun girl. It seems like a total long-shot now.
How do I shake this feeling? Did i over-react and cancel the wedding? Have people cancelled their wedding in their mid-30s and then come back and made it? There’s a big part of me that wants to reconcile, but I’m also very confused. Any idea what I should do – I know it’s ridiculous to ask a forum, but would love any words of advice. Thanks very much.
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I am just wondering if it is bad for me to miss her 6th birthday? My ex and I was only together for 2 years and her daughter was with us the entire time. She did start to call me dad also. But then our relationship fell apart and now my ex and her daughter moved to another state. Well we have been broken up for almost 1 year now and she was wanting me to show up for her daughter’s birthday party. Is it wrong or a bad idea if I do? I mean my ex and I still get along and we communicate regularly. Also, is it wrong or bad if I don’t show up for her birthday? I don’t know what to do? I don’t want to give her daughter the impression that we are getting back together. As I want to move on with my life.
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I met this guy when I was 20 in university. He was 24 & lived on campus. We had a very innocent relationship, cuz he knew I wanted to save sex for marriage. We would study in his room, makeout, cuddle or watch movies on his computer. After 2 months of dating, he ended it, by phone. But he would still contact me on msn. He had a birthday party at a club a few months after we broke up & he invited me to it. I went, thinking he still likes me but it went horribly. He had invited 15 of his guy friends whom I had never met before as we had only dated for 2 months. One of his friends, Steve, talked to me & sat beside me the whole night. Steve even walked me to the ladies bathroom as it was crowded & when I came out he held my hand to guide me through the crowd. My ex-bf ignored me for most of the night. He just said ‘thanks for coming, I appreciate it’. I was fine, as Steve was w/ me the whole night & seeing my ex get really jealous was worth going to his lame party. At one point, Steve & I were sitting beside each other & my ex kept looking at us & he even came by us and pushed Steve’s knees away from me so that he wasn’t so close to me. Why did my ex do that?? I left the party early & Steve only gave me a hug. Did Steve like me or was he just being nice to me?? Why didn’t he ask me out? I felt like such a stupid girl going to my ex’s party, did I seem desperate for going? 1 month after his party, my ex sent me a message on msn saying “thanks so much for coming to my party. I’m really glad u came. I didn’t mean to ignore u that night” I told him that he “didn’t even have to apologize as I only went to say bye to him & finally close the book”. WHY did my ex send me this message??? Since that weird message, he has tried to talk to me on msn, asking me things, & saying things like “I haven’t seen u in so long” but WHY?? Does he feel guilty for treating me bad that night? I don’t anyone to pity me.
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I ordered a few things from Forever 21 online for my birthday party 
The party’s on friday and I ordered on monday night. I ordered it on express so it would get here in time and everything. if you’ve ever ordered from them could you let me know how long the express usually takes. I’m in the Chicago suburbs if that helps location wise.
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