We still lived together. We can’t afford to live apart. He surprised me with a divorce for 2 reasons. Our child got very, very ill. I was emotionally devastated, and a real needy mess. He is still recovering. Second, my husband took out plenty of student loans for graduate school, and after 3 years of school, he couldn’t get a better job after graduation. I think it’s partially the economy, and partly HIM. Because of our son being ill, I sort of lost it and pressured him daily because it felt like our whole world was falling into a black hole.
Here’s the scoop. He loves me, he likes me. There is no one else. He thinks I’m needy. He’s super nice to me one day, then he’s snippy and secretive the next, reminding me that we ARE divorced. I felt so blindsided by the divorce that I keep making things worse by asking him over and over how he could betray me, and I get so weepy.
I feel like I’ve painted myself in a corner because we have children and I only work part time. He has most of the money, and now I feel ALL of the power. Everything I read says to get him back I need to act confident, NOT needy, and a little hard to get.
What the hell do I do? This has been the WORST year of my life!
